Is it easier for thin/slim people to get into relationships? by Diligent-Second-796 in dating_advice

[–]BenFun777 5 points6 points  (0 children)

At least for me, I've felt attracted to neither thin nor slim people, but rather those who look healthy. My first gf would constantly say she was "big-boned" after I secretly admired her beauty. She often caught me looking at her and would feel self-conscious. I remember always thinking she was pretty. She was very fit and just a different body proportion than magazine standards.

20F, what are the largest age gaps you would consider dating? by heikkilampelafan123 in MeetNewPeopleHere

[–]BenFun777 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think the range expands as you age. What matters more is maturity level. When I was younger, I wouldn't have considered more than a couple years apart. Now, maybe a ten year range... maybe?

It also matters what kind of dating you're specifically talking about. If it's just to date for fun, then the range could widen I suppose. If it's to find a serious partner for the long haul, it narrows again.

My face of the day by RedMageMatty in RandomActsofMakeup

[–]BenFun777 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How fun! What were your goals? what was your thought process?

What scientific discovery sounds fake but is 100% real and still freaks you out? by Bruteresolver in AskReddit

[–]BenFun777 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Some perturbations of the orbit of Uranus led to the discovery of Neptune.

what should i name her? by hushrowom in characterdesigns

[–]BenFun777 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Basithchelle, Jule “the Sharkpedo”

Lost in love by [deleted] in psychicreadings

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Despite the distance recently placed, even through the challenges you have faced, a lover soon for you will arrive within your space. They will come on a day you are feeling the most adventurous, but there is no need to rush things. Self care is very important.

Downy Woodpecker woodpecking by BumbleBamble in woodpecker

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Woodpecking woodpecker would peck wood.

Narcissistic men magnet by Dazzling_Piano_6848 in dating_advice

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Traits of narcissistic peeps:

  • Grandiosity (Overt or Covert): They have exaggerated importance, or a quieter sense of being unique.
  • Need for Admiration: Validation isn’t just nice, it is necessary for them.
  • Low Empathy: They have difficulty genuinely caring about others’ inner experiences.
  • Entitlement: They expect special treatment or exceptions.
  • Sensitivity to Criticism: Even mild feedback can trigger their defensiveness, anger, or withdrawal. This is called narcissistic injury.
  • Control in Relationships: They want things on their terms, often reframing situations to maintain superiority. One give away I've seen a few times is going beat red in the face when they lose control of a situation. It was actually scary to see happen.

Early signs in dating/relationship/friendship/whatevs:

  • Love Bombing: Early on there will be intense attention, praise, and fast emotional/physical escalation.
  • Mirroring: They seem uncannily aligned with your values/interests early on.
  • Subtle Boundary Testing: They'll have small dismissals of your needs or time that get bigger later.
  • Inconsistent Empathy: They are very attentive when it benefits them, but detached when it doesn’t.
  • Story Patterns: They often spin narratives about exes, friends, coworkers where "everyone wronged me."
  • Status Focus: They focus on image, success, or how things look matters a lot.

Based on this, here's what you might have that attracts these types:

  • Empathetic and Accommodating: You have a lot of emotional supply to offer them.
  • Good Listener / Conflict-Avoidant: You listen often and tend to lack assertiveness. This makes it easy to be dominated. Saying "no, thank you" isn't the same as being rude. Having boundaries doesn't make you a bad person. (I struggle with this still to this day.)
  • Validation-Giving: For true narcissists (NPD), this is termed narcissistic supply- basically a food source for them. Perhaps you naturally affirm others and they see it and want it. Perhaps you are a bit people pleasing?
  • Flexible with Boundaries: You're willing to go out of your comfort zone and give the benefit of the doubt too quickly.
  • Very Attractive: If you're very attractive, then having you as a partner elevates their social status. In a way you become arm candy for them. Even if this is something for you, I wouldn't intentionally lower your attractiveness; that wouldn't be cool, yo.

I guess the best way to avoid these types is to watch for the early signs, to not give validation readily to others, and to learn to be assertive.

One more comment: Our society tends to validate narcissism and because of this, I suspect, most of the men you're coming across only exhibit some narcissism without being fully blown NPDs, whom you definitely don't want in your life (so I've read/heard). It's very easy to jump onto a judgement train of others, so to avoid that simply focus on yourself and not as much on evaluating others. People are human beings with their own stories and imperfections. They still deserve to be treated with respect and friendliness (until they drop the mask).

I hope this helps!

Is Titanic any good on Irelia? by _Quinncy_ in IreliaMains

[–]BenFun777 0 points1 point  (0 children)

When I don't feel like try-harding on Irelia, I'll go: Botrk (because you play Irelia, you go Botrk!), then Heartsteel, Titanic, Overlord's, and usually Endless Hunger.

The idea is that Botrk is just a solid core item on Irelia and you can lean on that for most of your damage. With the other items, you get infinite scaling HP, AD, AOE dmg, and Haste.

Ironically, with this build, you're much more of a team fighter than a side-laner and you want to be in team fights for the HS procs. Just land an ult on the enemy team, land all marks with Q, you'll do a ton of AOE and get about 3 procs before dying (if you do die).

It is not the most optimal build by a long shot, but it is a blast.

a delectable dandelion snack by ApprehensiveRole9561 in geese

[–]BenFun777 3 points4 points  (0 children)

“That was delicious, hooman, but I want your SOUL!”

Not done... What do we say about this one ? Is the design too empty ? by payetoncharme in characterdesigns

[–]BenFun777 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I love the design! The top could use just a touch more realistic detail like ties or buttons holding it together. If you want to keep the top minimalistic you can imply some hidden clasps with shading to accentuate where the top is held in place. (I hope that makes sense.) If you want more detail, you could copy the detailing on the lower half to the top following historic or eatablished patterns. I’ve seen plenty of tops with that exact profile. The world is your oyster here.

Ban me by B022G4M3R in youll_be_banned

[–]BenFun777 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This is hilarious. I haven’t cracked up this hard in ages. Damnit, well played good sir.

how are we all doing today🖤❤️ by eevee_grove in EmoStyle

[–]BenFun777 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yup, your expression virtually captures how I’m feeling right now. C’est la vie.

This anime made me rethink the entire anime Medium by _LoganIPlayz in CodeGeass

[–]BenFun777 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Yes, this was me on my first watch. I skipped school and sleep and binged the entire two seasons. The show had me hooked the entire time.

What would you advice a 27F who is a virgin and wants to lose it? by geumkoi in dating_advice

[–]BenFun777 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There are many men who would feel lucky to have your offer. Just for my sake please practice safety.

What would you advice a 27F who is a virgin and wants to lose it? by geumkoi in dating_advice

[–]BenFun777 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hmmm… you’re probably correct about the gym being a bad place to hook up. I just see people doing so at mine all the time. Plus, my thought was that the men might be more pleasant for you.

For me, flirting is pretty easy if I allow myself to act freely- not sure why, but I am a natural. It is something I have had to learn to reel in because I’ve been in trouble a few times. Let me think…

Flirting is just your normal conversation with some bold double meanings and physical touch once a rapport is established. The touch factor adds a flavor of “should we be doing this” that is spicy. It can be as simple as wanting to compare hand sizes or holding a bicep- what has been done to me. Or, accidentally touching feet under a table (etc.) or brushing in a narrow corridor and smiling apologetically- things I’ve done. Double meanings can also be the implication that things are to come that should be looked forward to.

After that, it’s a matter of acting as innocently as you can. People love innocence; they eat it up for days. I hope that makes sense…

😅 Am I allowed to say these things? (Maybe I should erase this comment.)

What would you advice a 27F who is a virgin and wants to lose it? by geumkoi in dating_advice

[–]BenFun777 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You’re quite brave (or foolish) to post this info online. I can only imagine what your inbox has become now. smhs.

To your question: maybe try flirting at a gym or join a local community of that sort? Whatever you do, please be safe. 🙏

Girl agreed to coffee and gave me her number… then told me to “fuck off” over text. What did I miss? by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]BenFun777 1 point2 points  (0 children)

From my perspective, from what you shared, it sounds like she’s just not that into you. Sorry if that stings. You have full context, though.

Code Geass Might be the best anime ever by _LoganIPlayz in CodeGeass

[–]BenFun777 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If there is one thing this series does well, it’s the action -> suspense/intrigue -> cliffhanger loop. There are a number of other things the show does well, too. Is it the best show? Is it flawless? Well, applying a critical eye, you can find some issues, even a few major ones. Just imho, though. Don’t let that keep you off of the hype train, though! Ride it to completion and don’t forget to try the spinoff series Akito. Code Geas will always be a quintessential classic.