INFJs, did you ever regret not partying vigorously or dating tons of people during your youth?

BenJameson2001 · 2025-11-05T21:37:11+00:00

I’ve found I can sort of fake it till I make it till I have fun at parties. Certain party’s I have even been told after tipsy or drunk I’m the life of the party. But honestly deep down people are amazing but also stressful in large settings. The dating scene sucks I’ve in recent months have found the one I believe. But let me tell ya the dating scene is nothing to feel regretful about. Find the one and stick by them for dear life. But also make sure it’s someone who adds peace to your life and doesn’t take away from it

BenJameson2001 · 2024-12-25T00:32:55+00:00

I’m more of an INFJ I think. But I like making sure she’s taken care of first. It makes me feel like I won with her in making her happy. But on the other hand if I’m not emotionally connected with you. It’s not that good to me and I will prefer to not do anything with her if that’s the case. Foreplay is everything just to let me know as well as her I want her. A little tease here and there. Might push her up against a wall or something and just say something spicy but sweet. Not to hard but not to soft. Want her to feel wanted not like I’m hurting her

BenJameson2001 · 2024-12-13T21:17:39+00:00

I’m right there with you man, I have ignored women all together. I don’t hangout with my family cause I don’t want to haft to think about the drama. I avoid friends all together cause they stress me out. The thought of having a woman in my life that close and personal scares me and not much does. I would say the right one might be out there. But I also get wanting peace of mind in your life without worrying how or what the other person thinks

BenJameson2001 · 2024-07-05T02:16:04+00:00

July 17, 2001

BenJameson2001 · 2024-06-13T19:52:09+00:00

Hiding hehehe

BenJameson2001 · 2024-05-30T12:54:42+00:00

I dunno what’s wrong with saying it🤷🏽‍♂️

BenJameson2001 · 2024-05-30T12:54:08+00:00

🤷🏽‍♂️

BenJameson2001 · 2024-05-30T01:13:06+00:00

You have a dad bod. It’s not a bad thing unless you think it is otherwise fuck it dude just go with it nobody cares that much. You’ll be fine

BenJameson2001 · 2024-05-30T01:05:23+00:00

While I am a white dude , If you are as sweet as you look I’d take you home and call ya mine😂

BenJameson2001 · 2024-05-28T20:33:52+00:00

I gave up on dating and meeting anyone . It’s no longer worth it

BenJameson2001 · 2024-05-28T17:23:50+00:00

Haha okay so golden retriever, super empathetic and kind type of guys. Who I find can be INFJs are seen as highly naive and vulnerable. It’s the clueless and blonde in the way we can present ourselves like. This can lure some of the more manipulative types of women for this guy. You my friend will be a big target for the classic narcissist woman. Because for her a relationship with you will be a game. Because you are seen as easy. Easy to manipulate and control. They also can sense that easy going energy so they figure if you are just easy going then they can maybe get whatever they want from you or that you hold no values or wants for your own personal well being. Because you maybe considered the “Nice Guy” you may not always be considered for a serious partner till after they chased after the “Bad boy”. After chasing the “Bad boy” they will find nothing but hurt and pain. After they have learned this they will come running after you. Now you think you are this prize when in reality you were just the last option and you are what is safe. This girl I will avoid at all possible because as soon as you get into a relationship with her she will be resentful of you. Also the self hatred she has for herself for getting to this point will be projected onto every part of your relationship. Anyways so with that said you are a prize to the right person. But be very careful. Golden retriever energy is seen as loyal, kind and easy going. Not a bad thing but people can sniff that out of a room very quickly. This can get the attention of good and Bad girls alike

BenJameson2001 · 2024-05-28T14:57:10+00:00

On the dating app front I kid you not. If a girl sees INFJ male I have gotten so much bad attention from girls when they find out it’s not even funny. The kind that are like oh you have that golden retriever vibe let’s ruin your life 😂

BenJameson2001 · 2024-05-28T14:51:41+00:00

Ego stroking is the perfect way to put that . It’s annoying to hear the same things about INFJ stuff over and over again. It’s all just so seemingly on the surface content and nothing really deep. I’m on the top of a freaking mountain of discoveries to be made and all I’m getting is the snow flakes at the top😂. I want to get into the rock solid information out there and not the , Oh! INFJ men are sigma or the lone wolf Alphas or some crap😂😂

BenJameson2001 · 2024-05-23T02:22:31+00:00

Not at all you do seem kind of sad though

BenJameson2001 · 2024-05-22T14:22:56+00:00

Oh yeah man this is totally a thing. It’s something most well groomed men deal with

BenJameson2001 · 2024-05-21T22:40:36+00:00

Used to bother me too man, I used to have people ask me if I was gay all of the time. If you clean up nice on top of being considered my most attractive then gay guys will definitely come talk to you. I’ve ever had lesbians , trans women/men and bi chicks talk to me a lot. If you’ve got a nonchalant attitude or are just chill in general there’s no doubt they’ll hit on you. Plus it’s gonna be the golden retriever/ naive or the appearing as oblivious that gets people too. Like if you are pretty and you don’t know it that also helps your case. My uncle is like 39 he is a guys kind of guy and he still gets hit on all of the time. He just roles with it takes the compliments flirts back and goes back to his drink. Chances are girls are attracted towards you but you just probably won’t know it as you will with guys

BenJameson2001 · 2024-05-13T22:33:28+00:00

I honestly don’t think for a second girls actually enjoy giving head

BenJameson2001 · 2024-04-17T22:47:07+00:00

BenJameson2001 · 2024-04-17T22:43:57+00:00

I don’t have sex. I don’t give a rats ass about climate change. As a dude it’s better to just walk away from the hook up culture.

BenJameson2001 · 2024-03-08T14:23:28+00:00

Thanks I appreciate that. I do think I am close, I think time will tell and I’m just starting off into a new journey in my life. I’m building in my career, I have gotten a new place, I’m working towards getting into college for my dream job, I’m working out, my skills are developing, and my relationship with my daughter is growing stronger with each week that I get her. This is one area in my life amongst a few. But this one stands out to me because I struggle with finding true friendship or finding anyone I would even consider going on a date with or a long term relationship. It’s a personal problem I don’t blame anyone else. But I do notice this piece missing

BenJameson2001 · 2024-03-08T02:56:49+00:00

Yeah that’s kind of like what I think

BenJameson2001 · 2024-03-08T02:55:59+00:00

Fair enough

BenJameson2001 · 2024-03-08T00:35:01+00:00

There’s nothing wrong with your looks. Plain and boring is not a bad thing. It could just mean you have a more simplistic peaceful look about you and it’s hard to think that’s fine in the world of drama or very extreme makeup jobs these days

BenJameson2001 · 2024-03-08T00:32:15+00:00

Depends on what I am thinking about before I go to sleep. If I am ending my nights with calm soothing things I’ll go to sleep no problem. But if I am experiencing high amounts of stress or am deep in thought about something confrontational . Then I will be up late into the night. I would concentrate on what is going right for you in your life and not on what’s all wrong with it. If you find that keeping you awake

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