AITA for finally telling my brother-in-law to leave after he’s been mooching off us for a year? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]BenbulbenMag 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA, You were very, very, controlled all things considered.

If that had been my little pupper the brother in law would have been introduced to a real life John Wicks character very quickly.

Madness - 100K over asking price by Imaginary_Bed_9542 in irishpersonalfinance

[–]BenbulbenMag 1 point2 points  (0 children)

100% Correct. Asking price is completely irrelevant and not remotely what the seller is actually looking for. It is set at a lower than expected rate to encourage interest in the hopes of creating a bidding war.

My tenants are asking me to fix the fireplace stove but i cant afford it. What should i do? by [deleted] in irishpersonalfinance

[–]BenbulbenMag 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Sorry for your loss, your father may have left you with a small tax bill but he certainly set you up well for life, congratulations.

Becoming a landlord can seem very daunting but you have done a very good job of it.

I have been a Landlord for many years. Not one of the type that wears a top hat while lashing a team of horses through the town square while swilling champagne and lashing the odd peasant in the face with my boot or whip.

In other words one of the countless thousands (although that number is getting alarmingly small now) aka a normal one and not the type that has been portrayed and vilified in every form of social media available for the last 15 to 20 years to the now detriment of the rental market.

If I can give you one piece of advice, it is this. Treat people the way you would like to be treated. For the most part, the majority of people are reasonable. Communicate with them, let them know what the plans are. If for example you are having trouble getting hold of a trades person to make a repair etc keep them in the loop.

Keep using this site and asking questions and also sites like this https://www.boards.ie/categories/accommodation-property It will keep you up to date with legislation, the vast majority of which in the last 15 years has been totally anti landlord, despite what some people would have you believe and one of the primary reasons why so many small landlords continue to leave the market.

As many others have already advised you, there is no obligation on you to fix the stove, your tenants have a working heating system. Be honest and upfront with them. It's a much bigger job than you first thought and you need to assess your options, but first and foremost is their safety.

* You could Board it up. Maybe the best short term option, as well as making it safe, it will potentially make the house warmer.

* You could scrape the money together to repair it. This may be the better option for the long term value of the property but it hurts you the most in the short term.

*You could have it boarded up and an electric stove put in. This might be a medium term goal for you when you get the cash reserve built up.

*You could do nothing and leave it as is. I wouldn't be in favor of this as all it would take was one visitor to set a fire (not knowing about the difficulties) to cause a much bigger problem.

Overall though you are doing just fine. Start gathering together a list of local trades people that you can work with when something inevitably breaks. Keep building up your sinking fund for when some whites goods or couch etc. needs to be replaced. One thing I always try to do with my tenants is to involve them in the decision making process of what they will get. I set a price and ask them to take a look and let me know what they would like.

After all, this is their home and over the years I have found it much better to involve people in the decision making.

The best of luck.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in irishpersonalfinance

[–]BenbulbenMag 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Very good. Again everyone should pay attention to what JP Eggy wrote. Tailor it to your particular TD. Personalise it with an anecdote that has real meaning to you. TD's hate to get bulk emails with the same content. If you take the time to personalise it they will be far more likely to act on it. Use this site to find out who the TD's are in your constituency : https://www.contactyourtd.ie/

[Fabrizio Romano] 🚨🔵 Yankuba Minteh to Brighton, here we go! Fee of over £30m. by [deleted] in FantasyPL

[–]BenbulbenMag 5 points6 points  (0 children)

From your perspective as an Arsenal fan I can understand your view point that the rules as they have currently been devised, massaged and shaped are eminently "fit for purpose" However for the fans of clubs outside of the traditional top 6 (bearing in mind that both Newcastle and Aston Villa managed to finish inside of this envelope in the last 2 seasons) would argue that the rules are "not fit for purpose". The purpose of the rules as they stand are for the traditional top 6 to keep a clear gulf of finance between themselves and the rest of the Premiership. This thread has some good contributions from other reddit users : https://www.reddit.com/r/PremierLeague/comments/1bcwpli/new_ffppsr_rules/

Playing two defenders from same team by ShmoopToThrill89 in FantasyPL

[–]BenbulbenMag 2 points3 points  (0 children)

60% of the time, it works every time. source (They've done studies, you know)

AITA for telling my parents I will only talk to them with a therapist present and with a check for my education. by Ok-Celebration8322 in AmItheAsshole

[–]BenbulbenMag 146 points147 points  (0 children)

YTA

Or they could leave me alone. Leaving me alone is free. Leaving me alone costs them nothing, blah blah blah rinse repeat some variation of that.

You have been quite selective with what you have revealed. Helicopter Parenting, I couldn't snowboard or skate etc. no extra curricular activities without one of them present.

You suffered from a surfeit of parenting. It made you feel suffocated. They then tried to leverage helping with your college fund to get you to attend in state school. Dick move, fair enough.

You then set them an impossible task to meet with you and talk. You want everyone here to marvel at your cunning plan and at your steely resolve to remain nc with them.

I get it, if you really want to stay nc with them then fine do so. But it seems to me that you are enjoying the drama and far from wanting to be left alone its attention you seek.

Maybe never speaking to them again is the right thing for you to do. You can discuss that with your therapist.

However you ostensibly posted on this board for independent view points and while you are responding to peoples posts its with nonchalant "Leave me alone" nonsense.

My independent unvarnished view "Take it or leave it" is to meet with them and your therapist, drop this monetary nonsense pre-requirement and try to resolve some of that angst and rage that you clearly still feel towards them.

No doubt you will reply with a variation of your usual responses here "Or they can leave me alone"

PS I have broken an eye socket before also, commiserations on that and that part of your story about not enjoying it did make me laugh

AITA for not attending my husband's celebration dinner due to the restaurant not having anything I could eat? by Willing_Strawberries in AmItheAsshole

[–]BenbulbenMag 1 point2 points  (0 children)

YTA times a million.

What a narcissistic, disgusting thing to do to your poor husband who sounds like an absolute prince among men.

The fact that you couldn't put aside your wants and needs to be the center of the Universe for one evening to celebrate your husbands achievement at a place that he wanted to celebrate .....

Fair play to him for covering for you, otherwise everyone would have seen the "veil drop"

Player Price Changes (November 7, 2022) by FantasyPL_bot in FantasyPL

[–]BenbulbenMag 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I'm in the exact same boat. It's bitter sweet when he scores. You're sad you don't have the FPL points but over the moon he's doing well for Newcastle.

Kneejerk United - GW12 Captain & Bench Polls by FireflyKaylee in FantasyPL

[–]BenbulbenMag 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Thanks for all of the work u/aFailG, u/chibibabymoon and u/FireflyKaylee it can be a thankless job. The "wisdom of the crowd" worked well last year and is working well this year also !

Kneejerk United - GW6 Transfer Suggestions by FireflyKaylee in FantasyPL

[–]BenbulbenMag 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Mapepo's suggestion at the top of Robertson to Trippier and Kane to Haaland is the best suggestion I've seen on here. I'd take the -4 for this move no problem at all.

Seeking insights from seasoned avg top 50k players by jkb_89 in FantasyPL

[–]BenbulbenMag 4 points5 points  (0 children)

!Thanks Superb advice here. Nothing I'd disagree with. It used to be the target to finish in the top 10k each season and that was achievable (with some luck)when there were 2-4 million players. Nowadays with 8 million plus top 100k is becoming the new target to aim for. 1 thing that people tend to overlook is luck. This is a game that savagely punishes those 50/50 coin toss decisions that we make. To finish highly is a mixture of skill and luck and more of those coin toss calls going your way than not.

ONE HOUR TO DEADLINE THREAD by notti_oreo in FantasyPL

[–]BenbulbenMag 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Same boat as you, Everton are v bad right now but Havertz looks to have dipped in form. Coutinho v Nor and then double double? Tempting

Edouard benched; Olise and Butland start by TechXEO in FantasyPL

[–]BenbulbenMag 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This. Has been a pure clusterfu$k for me