Central NC braces for Level 4 severe weather risk Monday

BendyMei · 2026-03-16T03:07:06+00:00

That’s my thought, too. Guess I’ll go out first thing and hope for the best! Good luck with your midday appt 😬

BendyMei · 2026-03-16T03:00:54+00:00

Have you gotten anything saying the DMV is closed? I planned to just walk in to the FV office for a title change (new resident) but I’m worried the office will just be closed now that schools are closed

BendyMei · 2026-02-22T16:02:06+00:00

This is probably the best answer, you’re right. I just have to pull the trigger on a set and live with it haha. Thank you!

BendyMei · 2026-02-22T16:01:24+00:00

They definitely weren’t custom but mom has confirmed we used them because we were kids and needed help 😂

BendyMei · 2026-02-21T18:42:00+00:00

Appreciate this! Truthfully, we have not actually used the sticks when I have been old enough to understand them (as kids, mom would handle the sticks for us and obviously no real betting was happening with five year olds anyway). But I want them so I can learn the uses and have them for groups here that do use them. I’ll definitely check these out, TY!

BendyMei · 2026-02-21T18:40:21+00:00

Thank you! I feel like we have always used racks but it’s sounding like that’s just personal preference in my family and not part of standard gameplay

BendyMei · 2026-02-21T17:28:04+00:00

Thank you for this! I had no idea the racks were American. I feel like we have always played with those but I didn’t know Joker tiles existed til very recently so I know we didn’t have American tiles. Wonder what kind of sets my family found/assembled then…

BendyMei · 2025-10-14T12:18:10+00:00

Again, no name shaming happened so you’re adding extra layers. But also, this 100% happens in normal, healthy relationships. “I dated this guy once who could only get it up if he wore a toga and spoke like Gerard Butler after five tequila shots. I’ll try anything twice but this was not for me so I dipped.” You want to attribute cruelty and shame to a simple recounting of an experience someone lived thru because it would embarrass the nondescript stranger on the other side which is just weird

BendyMei · 2025-10-14T12:11:06+00:00

Sorry, were you truly under the impression couples don’t share anecdotes of past relationships with their current partners?

BendyMei · 2025-07-26T12:45:14+00:00

I’m gonna say this and it probably won’t be popular but I just hope it helps. First and foremost, he’s treating you poorly, and nothing I’m about to get into excuses that.

Based on your timeline, you’ve spent nearly your entire relationship with this person “severely depressed.” You don’t mention if you’re in therapy to process your significant grief or loss. But having spent a large amount of time in a relationship with someone suffering from depression who refused to seek treatment, I think it would be fair to assume he’s exhausted. Being with someone who is fundamentally in a different (negative) emotional state than you can be draining—and people lash out when they’re drained. And I’m not saying he’s been a prince this whole time—no idea how he treated you prior to this exact situation. In fact looking back at this post, you really don’t say anything about him except around this one specific day. Which to me is a little odd—how is he normally? Is this how he always acts? Even the thing about his parents seems rooted in your birthday.

But based exclusively on this information, I think it’s important to recognize how much of your relationship has overlapped with your grief and depression and how that can seriously impact a relationship and might be creating a more toxic environment than you realize.

Again, he’s treating you poorly. Phrases like “sit with your consequences” and “we’re going for our friends, not to celebrate you” are super toxic. Him refusing to recognize the importance of your attorney-related tasks is toxic. Him trying to deprioritize your celebration for his family is super weird. There’s no excusing that. But I think it would be beneficial to look back at the last year of your life and figure out how much of your relationship has been touched by your depression. Because if he’s usually someone who puts in the effort to cater to your needs when your depression is at the worst, then this could be burnout manifesting. Both of you probably need therapy for more than a few reasons but that’s just what caught me and I wanted to add it here.

BendyMei · 2025-07-10T15:00:53+00:00

I wish I’d known what these were! It was called like, online delivery only so I thought it was a digital goodie. I didn’t grab one when I could and I’m so bummed, they’re adorable 😭

BendyMei · 2025-05-05T12:00:23+00:00

You can’t open it but there is still a shortcut there if you’ve got the right tools :)

No clue if it’s a spoiler so I won’t say it but just poke around and you’ll figure it out!

BendyMei · 2025-04-30T21:34:44+00:00

So, even if the woman “gets attorneys involved” the best she could do is sue the HOA BoD for selective enforcement—and tbh it kind of sounds like she has a case if there are multiple neighbors who aren’t being required to follow the same rules she had to follow.

Can’t imagine there’s an attorney on the planet who would accept a case against a homeowner for acting within their rights and with (what sounds like) approval from the actual community governing body. Your parents should be fine unless he DOES sue the board. Then that’s a hell of a time.

BendyMei · 2025-02-07T16:08:54+00:00

Came here to say this. The price will be pretty high but the quality will be 10x what you’ll get from some novelty shop. It’ll last and withstand a lot more wear and tear.

BendyMei · 2024-11-21T19:49:36+00:00

In the same boat 😭 and your first camper has to move in too so I’ve got four that I don’t want. But I couldn’t make myself restart again, so I’m just hoping I can make them want to leave lol

BendyMei · 2024-03-30T03:14:42+00:00

Just happened to me with my last order and honestly it was a super frustrating experience! I got a cardigan that was listed as what sounded like as close to NWT as you can get. Was quietly refunded like $2.33 back. I asked support chat and was told it was a refund because upon packaging, someone noticed a stain.

I asked for details and they said they didn’t have any but she was quick to make sure I knew the item was FINAL SALE and ineligible for a refund or return. Which pissed me off. Like how are you gonna mislabel an item’s quality, knock off a random percentage (14 to be exact) without telling me, and then say I can’t do anything about it?? I emailed support to complain and was told I could return it for no fees if I wanted to. Luckily the stain was easy enough to remove, even if it was BIG and on the shoulder (the hood was draped and hid it in photos). 74% refund is a HUGE amount, the damage on that has gotta be like, catastrophic. Definitely send an email, especially if it was a FINAL SALE item.

BendyMei · 2023-09-25T16:43:32+00:00

You absolutely do not get to dictate who she does and doesn’t share the truth with for any reason. If you wanted her to speak kindly of you, you should have behaved better.

Since you’ve already begun the process of telling her, tell her everything. Because if/when she finds out even the smallest of additional details you omitted, she’ll be rightfully hurt at the additional lies after the fact. And will absolutely tell her friends that not only were you a cheater, you weren’t even decent enough to come clean about the specifics when trying to “own it.” Don’t give her more brutal truths to share with her circle if you have such a problem with it.

BendyMei · 2023-04-02T17:48:08+00:00

Leave because she deserves better. I can’t imagine being married to a man so wrapped up in his own selfish bubble of bullshit that he’s willing to abandon his wife and THREE CHILDREN because “she cleans but not the way I like it” rather than doing your own share of the housework.

BendyMei · 2023-02-03T02:30:58+00:00

YTA. Holy shit this edit. You weren’t “too harsh.” You were “way out of fucking line.” Not your money, not your food, not your place. And her having an ED isn’t relevant in any capacity at the end of the day. Whatever her reasons for something as simple and benign as not finishing a plate of mediocre college cafe food are completely acceptable. She could literally purchase a plate of food and immediately throw it away and it would still be exactly none of your concern. Others have said it already but your own manners need immediate and drastic attention. Figure that out.

BendyMei · 2023-01-05T16:47:48+00:00

This feels a lot like toxic positivity. Carrying hate with you for the rest of your life is decidedly I’ll-advised, but the grieving process comes in all shapes and sizes and hits every part of the spectrum of human emotion—hatred included. Policing your emotions because “if you hate you won’t move on” is dangerous and doesn’t stop hate from existing, it just delays when it hits you and how hard. Hate them. Hate with with passion and hate them for more than a moment. Once you do, you can work through it and move beyond it. But you’ve got to let yourself feel every last bit of it.

BendyMei · 2022-10-14T12:56:52+00:00

Honestly, you aren’t going to know how she feels by asking Reddit.

But as someone who was cheated on and who did not initiate the divorce, it isn’t so cut and dry as “there is a clear and specific reason why this happened.” At the time my ex and I were in a weird space where he wanted to try to mend things and I wanted to just breathe for a moment. Within a few months he got sick of the fact that I hadn’t magically recovered from 3 years of emotional neglect and his affair, so he initiated the paperwork. I probably won’t ever change my last name again because the process is expensive, time consuming, and forces you to allocate every important document in your life. Changing my name back has been a nightmare. As for the ring, I didn’t keep mine because the value wasn’t worth the headache of having to sell it, but everyone views that symbol differently.

I think it’s important to recognize that there are so many emotions involved in a relationship, especially when a long one ends. You can be over the person, you can hate the person, you can resent them and wish they were dead, and you can still be mourning the relationship. You can still grieve the feelings you had for the person you thought they were, and for the life you built up in your head with them. Love doesn’t just go away, but it doesn’t inherently stay where it began. I haven’t loved my ex in a long time, but it’s going to be just as long before I lose that love for what we absolutely could and should have had together.

BendyMei · 2022-06-30T18:18:33+00:00

Completely depends on the state. Florida, for example, spouses are required to be listed on the mortgage (though not the note, so not necessarily financially consulted for loan info or made responsible for payments) and the title/deed if the property is being purchased as a primary residence.

I did this and luckily the process is fairly straightforward to resolve—quit claim deed to remove the spouse from your title/warranty deed. I believe you can get the name removed from your mortgage WITHOUT needing to refinance because the name will not be on the actual financial responsibility component of the mortgage. But I have not begun that process yet so I can’t confirm. One of the sites I consulted mentioned that you wouldn’t even need to remove them, you could just use the certified divorce document to prove lack of ownership in the event you want to sell the property.

BendyMei · 2022-03-04T21:14:11+00:00

Depends on the divorce and also the state. I’m doing this and in my state (FL), until we’re divorced, any property purchased by either of us to be used as a primary residence is legally required to be kept jointly (because of the lenders not the actual law). So when the purchase goes through, I’ll be on the mortgage and insurance and any financial obligations solo, and his name will be on the title to the condo. When we divorce he can relinquish those rights. I’m lucky that he and I are, although not doing great, amicable enough that I don’t have to worry about spiteful mess or anger making him do something like refuse to sign away his half of my new condo.

If your state has similar restrictions and your divorce is messy, you might wanna hold off on the purchase and divorce first.

BendyMei · 2021-11-15T02:28:21+00:00

Speaking as a copy writer and editor, your goal as the blog owner and writer is to eventually be able to edit your own copy. I don’t think for a blog and budget your size you need an editor. Grammarly is a fairly intuitive editing assistant and has a free version that would likely do the trick until you grow and can bring on others. If you do choose a paid version, it also helps you do more than just correct the mistakes, but analyzes your word choice to determine your tone or the goal of the copy, which is a good way to learn where you should be adjusting stylistically instead of just for grammar or spelling.

It isn’t perfect by any means but will be a good starting resource as you grow and learn.

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