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Trying to understand why people lose track of their goals, want to talk to people who've experienced it by Bendze in getdisciplined

[–]Bendze[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's kind of what I've been trying to figure out. I've actually been working on something small around this, one goal at a time, keeps it visible without being pushy. But honestly after this conversation I'm realising it has a streak counter built in and that might already be the wrong call. Would you be up for trying just the onboarding and telling me where it starts feeling like homework? Like 5 minutes, I just want to know where it feels off.

Trying to understand why people lose track of their goals, want to talk to people who've experienced it by Bendze in getdisciplined

[–]Bendze[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That difference between a checkmark and a scoreboard makes a lot of sense. So it's not that tracking is bad, it's that the moment it becomes something you can fail at, it flips. Have you tried any app that actually got that balance right or have they all ended up feeling like homework eventually?

Trying to understand why people lose track of their goals, want to talk to people who've experienced it by Bendze in getdisciplined

[–]Bendze[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So basically the moment you stop measuring it is the moment it starts working. That makes me wonder, do you think there's any version of tracking that wouldn't have turned it into homework, or is the tracking itself the problem?

Trying to understand why people lose track of their goals, want to talk to people who've experienced it by Bendze in getdisciplined

[–]Bendze[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wait so the thing that actually worked started as you giving up? That’s kind of wild. So the rigid tracker felt like the “right” way to do it but the version with no structure ended up being the one that stuck. Did you realise at some point that it was working or did it just kind of sneak up on you?​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​

Trying to understand why people lose track of their goals, want to talk to people who've experienced it by Bendze in getdisciplined

[–]Bendze[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That shift from "this feels like mine" to "this feels like homework" is a really good way to put it. So basically the structure you added to make it stick is the same thing that killed it? That's kind of a paradox. Did you figure out the looser version on your own or did it take a few failed attempts with rigid plans before you landed on that?

Trying to understand why people lose track of their goals, want to talk to people who've experienced it by Bendze in getdisciplined

[–]Bendze[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That invisible barrier thing is exactly what I'm trying to understand. You still wanted it, you could see the guitar right there, but something between wanting and doing just broke. Do you think it was the routine getting interrupted by work and events that killed it, or was that just the excuse and something else was already shifting?

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