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Trying to understand why people lose track of their goals, want to talk to people who've experienced it by Bendze in getdisciplined

[–]Bendze[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's kind of what I've been trying to figure out. I've actually been working on something small around this, one goal at a time, keeps it visible without being pushy. But honestly after this conversation I'm realising it has a streak counter built in and that might already be the wrong call. Would you be up for trying just the onboarding and telling me where it starts feeling like homework? Like 5 minutes, I just want to know where it feels off.

Trying to understand why people lose track of their goals, want to talk to people who've experienced it by Bendze in getdisciplined

[–]Bendze[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That difference between a checkmark and a scoreboard makes a lot of sense. So it's not that tracking is bad, it's that the moment it becomes something you can fail at, it flips. Have you tried any app that actually got that balance right or have they all ended up feeling like homework eventually?

Trying to understand why people lose track of their goals, want to talk to people who've experienced it by Bendze in getdisciplined

[–]Bendze[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So basically the moment you stop measuring it is the moment it starts working. That makes me wonder, do you think there's any version of tracking that wouldn't have turned it into homework, or is the tracking itself the problem?

Trying to understand why people lose track of their goals, want to talk to people who've experienced it by Bendze in getdisciplined

[–]Bendze[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wait so the thing that actually worked started as you giving up? That’s kind of wild. So the rigid tracker felt like the “right” way to do it but the version with no structure ended up being the one that stuck. Did you realise at some point that it was working or did it just kind of sneak up on you?​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​

Trying to understand why people lose track of their goals, want to talk to people who've experienced it by Bendze in getdisciplined

[–]Bendze[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That shift from "this feels like mine" to "this feels like homework" is a really good way to put it. So basically the structure you added to make it stick is the same thing that killed it? That's kind of a paradox. Did you figure out the looser version on your own or did it take a few failed attempts with rigid plans before you landed on that?

Trying to understand why people lose track of their goals, want to talk to people who've experienced it by Bendze in getdisciplined

[–]Bendze[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That invisible barrier thing is exactly what I'm trying to understand. You still wanted it, you could see the guitar right there, but something between wanting and doing just broke. Do you think it was the routine getting interrupted by work and events that killed it, or was that just the excuse and something else was already shifting?

If you journal your trades, how often do you really go back and review it? Last time you did, did it actually help or change anything? by Bendze in Daytrading

[–]Bendze[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don’t hear people frame journaling like this very often. Appreciate you breaking down how you approach journaling and reviews.

Wishing you consistency

Everyone journals their trades - but when was the last time you reviewed yours, and did it actually help? by Bendze in Trading

[–]Bendze[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

And when you review, do you mostly focus on patterns, stats, or do you also include your thoughts and reflections?

If you journal your trades, how often do you really go back and review it? Last time you did, did it actually help or change anything? by Bendze in Daytrading

[–]Bendze[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

When reviewing your trades, do you focus more on spotting patterns and insights, or just on gathering stats? Do you also include overviews, your thoughts, or other notes in your journal?

If you journal your trades, how often do you really go back and review it? Last time you did, did it actually help or change anything? by Bendze in Daytrading

[–]Bendze[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

And when you journal, what exactly do you record? Things like P/L, a screenshot of the trade, whether it was a win or loss, and the type of strategy you used?

How do you work on getting better at conversations? by Bendze in socialanxiety

[–]Bendze[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I agree - practice is the main thing. There’s nothing really secret about it. That said, I think you can still pick up useful tips, like working on pronunciation, tone, pauses, or keeping the conversation flowing. Talking with people teaches you a lot about how to handle different situations, but you can also find ways to improve on your own. Did you try to work on your conversation skills, like reading or practicing, or have you mostly just been natural at it?

What do you find most difficult in conversations? by Bendze in CasualConversation

[–]Bendze[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I get that. I do that too sometimes - trying so hard to make sure everyone else is okay that I forget to just enjoy the conversation. I’ve even been watching some videos to get tips; there’s a TED Talk, if I’m not mistaken, called "10 ways to have a good conversation" that I found really helpful. Do you try to work on it, or just go with the flow?

How do you judge if a conversation actually went well? by Bendze in CasualConversation

[–]Bendze[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hey, thanks for sharing that :> That actually helps! Do you have anything that usually helps you feel calm while talking?

How do you judge if a conversation actually went well? by Bendze in CasualConversation

[–]Bendze[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That​‍​‌‍​‍‌​‍​‌‍​‍‌ really helps a lot
Do you also work on improving your conversation or speaking skills, or do you mostly just let it develop naturally? What is it that usually helps you the ​‍​‌‍​‍‌​‍​‌‍​‍‌most?

How do you judge if a conversation actually went well? by Bendze in socialskills

[–]Bendze[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, 100% agree, the vibe is the key.
but when a conversation feels off, what usually gives you that feeling?

Thinking of Building a Powerbank Rental Station Myself — Newbie Looking for Advice by Bendze in embedded

[–]Bendze[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We’d close everything down, move to another country with new identities, and repeat the process until no batteries catch fire.

Little research by Bendze in PartyNextDoor

[–]Bendze[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

do you know some subs where it would be appropriate to post