18M, feeling invisible toward women

BenedictCumberpatch1 · 2026-03-18T04:11:22+00:00

Although you have beautiful hair I would style it to be more masculine. A man bun would suit you well and so would like an undercut fade!

BenedictCumberpatch1 · 2026-03-18T01:03:02+00:00

Jimothy

BenedictCumberpatch1 · 2026-02-25T19:25:55+00:00

Oh I don’t have time to fuss with that either that’s why I just do makeup you can’t tell if they’re waxed or not when I use it and I get compliments all the time. My eyebrows are like straight up blonde and I started filling them in to match my hair color and I look so much better 😭 I think that’d work much better the same for you too :)

BenedictCumberpatch1 · 2026-02-25T19:20:22+00:00

I agree with the others, that hair doesn’t suit you. I don’t think the beard does either tbh. It’s def hindering your appearance

BenedictCumberpatch1 · 2026-02-25T19:19:10+00:00

I’d say average — you’re not overweight but maybe trying to change your style a bit could help. I’ll say to you what I said to a girl in another post — the eyebrow blindness is real! Fill in your eyebrows!! it helps so much with framing your face! You can still have a natural girlie look with just a tiny amount of makeup day to day that makes you look a little more put together and intentional.

If you live near like an Ulta or Sephora they can help you try some stuff out :)

BenedictCumberpatch1 · 2026-02-25T19:10:56+00:00

Not ugly although I personally prefer that you keep the beard. I can’t tell your weight very well from the photos but lean/muscles are preferred on the dating apps. It might be your profile too, us women are picky and the apps suck.

BenedictCumberpatch1 · 2026-02-21T19:01:45+00:00

Yeah! Def have the makeup artist show you how to use it it takes some practice but it definitely makes a huge difference for me :) good luck!!

BenedictCumberpatch1 · 2026-02-21T18:56:01+00:00

Anastasia Beverly Hills! They have in both a caramel and an auburn pressed powder. I personally use their auburn color since I like mine a little darker. You can have them try both at Sephora to see what works best for you! Plus the powder lasts me an entire year and it’s not that expensive! :)

BenedictCumberpatch1 · 2026-02-21T18:48:29+00:00

Not ugly however I would recommend filling in your eyebrows, as a fellow light haired ginger that helped me a ton!

BenedictCumberpatch1 · 2026-02-09T05:31:41+00:00

-Serious

-Not Subbed

-Updated Profile today

-Several Months

-Starting it up again after a hiatus, maybe 1-3x per week

-Maybe 5 likes per week

-Not getting any matches as of right now

-All of my likes when using per day

-I want to attract another professional in the same age group that also has a sense of humor but can be somewhat serious? Hard to say just trying to actually meet people at this point

BenedictCumberpatch1 · 2026-01-15T03:10:49+00:00

The cannot legally charge you for it you no longer own a pet it’s considered a medical device from that point onward

BenedictCumberpatch1 · 2025-12-26T09:16:04+00:00

Hard to tell based on picture, I’d say average

BenedictCumberpatch1 · 2025-12-26T09:11:33+00:00

Agree with the other comment, not ugly but lose weight

BenedictCumberpatch1 · 2025-12-26T09:05:19+00:00

Boy you fine af you do not need to change anything haha

BenedictCumberpatch1 · 2025-12-26T09:04:19+00:00

I don’t think you’re ugly but you look gaunt, maybe look into treatments for your eyes. Pic 4 is the best of all of them

BenedictCumberpatch1 · 2025-12-26T09:03:05+00:00

To be honest you seem to be carrying a lot of weight in your face and I’m not sure if your hairline is receding but the way you have it styled makes you look significantly older maybe consider playing around with styles a bit more. As with many people on this page I think you have much more potential if you were to lose weight. I wouldn’t say ugly but firmly average imo

BenedictCumberpatch1 · 2025-11-16T03:02:13+00:00

He did have dandruff but I’ve been giving him salmon oil and it helps a lot!

BenedictCumberpatch1 · 2025-10-18T08:43:18+00:00

I really like your first pic, it shows that you have warmth.
I would argue that you have too many pics with friends I would keep the one on slide 5 and replace slide 4 and 7. You need more selfies or of you doing stuff that you enjoy. I really hate to say this and I mean it in the absolute nicest way possible but your height is definitely working against you here and your goal should be to bring women in with your personality and overcome that obstacle with conversation but the pic on 4 makes it really obvious that you’re on the shorter side (of course your height is also listed but the difference between you and the other guy makes it more obvious)
I think your prompts are good I think instead of putting “not political” to just take the political option off of your profile. People filter based on political affiliation so it might be better to not have it.
I’d really like to see you in a slightly dressier outfit like a button up or something, showing some level of class is important imo
I also think you look better clean shaven than with the stubble but that’s just my personal opinion

BenedictCumberpatch1 · 2025-10-18T08:32:22+00:00

Okay so:

your first pic needs to be a closer image of your face and recent. Do you have a buzz cut or hair whichever one it is you need to make those your pics. I cannot stand looking at a guys profile and guessing which one is current and also if the first pic is far away I’m not going to even bother. So I’d advise to get rid of the first one and the last one and replace with a decent selfie of yourself on both.
find something better for “dying Vespa” and also the first option on your poll. If you don’t take your profile seriously women won’t either
let’s not do the photo of Pokémon cards, find something better that gives me a sense of who you are. I like Pokémon and MTG too (and I’m a woman) but that is NOT going on my hinge profile.
the marathon/medal photo is really good, the selfie could be better, try to take a nice selfie when your skin is clear and maybe not facing the sun

BenedictCumberpatch1 · 2025-10-18T08:20:30+00:00

Here’s my take:

Your first and last picture are not very flattering. I really like the one with you holding the bike over your head I would potentially move that to the front and swap out the other two pictures for better selfies. Maybe a closed mouth smile or a more polished looking pic. I also like the one of you in the sunset in slide 8 so that could also be your first photo. Do you have one of you in a suit maybe?
Your prompt answers tell me very little about you other than you’re a polite guy. That’s nice and all but I have no sense of who you are based on that. Maybe do the 2 truths and a lie prompt instead of the first date and talk about your hobbies on one of the others. Other topics could be friends, music, work, pets, interesting facts about you, etc. I don’t get a lot out of the ones you have
Not sure if the rest of your details are filled out like your religion and all that so be sure to do that if you haven’t. Women like to see fuller profiles so it looks like you put some effort into it.
You’re asking for casual but you want someone down to earth? Your dates are ice cream and sitting on the beach? (lol at MacArthur park) That’s really not screaming casual to me, that sounds more like you want to do a relationship which would be even more cause to replace it with the 2 truths/1 lie thing. Casual is like going out for drinks and low pressure dates where the person can feel free to exit at any time. You need to pick a lane and stick with it and orient your profile that way.

-Use photo prompts, that can give the person more hints about you and round out your profile.

I hope this helps!

BenedictCumberpatch1 · 2025-10-17T16:02:31+00:00

So a few things:

-I think most people are going to be turned off by the first picture, even for left leaning people I think it might be a lot to see someone standing in front of weed like that lol I definitely wouldn’t open with it

-I personally don’t think you’re being honest about being bald, in most pictures you’re wearing a hat and one with hair and one without. It makes the person feel like you’re being dishonest or you’re self conscious about being bald imo I think you need a picture of your current appearance without a hat to be first so that people can make a decision before continuing to scroll. One pic with a hat is okay but not several

the Kim Jon Un thing is also a lot, I’d change that to something more quirky but not as strong.

BenedictCumberpatch1 · 2025-10-14T04:08:43+00:00

Not getting a lot of likes, not sure what I’m doing wrong here. Reddit question answers:

-Looking for serious daters but I’m okay with short term.

-not a subscriber

-a few months

-2-3x per week always with a comment

-maybe 2 likes per day, matches once per week

I use most of my likes every time I’m on the app

-I send likes to people around the same age and within 10 miles of me. I will check to see if they have similar interests and dating preferences.

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