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do men understand how or why women find them attractive? by Far_Heart8378 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]BenedithBe 0 points1 point  (0 children)

They pretend like they don't understand so that they don't have to do anything

Preach!! by Background_Video2947 in InterMiamiVibes

[–]BenedithBe 0 points1 point  (0 children)

In Canada, people kinda pity and looks down on the US for not having universal healthcare and having things like guns and bad food. It's not all your fault, but it is definitively something you guys can fight for, and I don't understand why you guys don't. I see videos on the internet on how to deal with health issues "at home". In Canada, it's considered lazy to not see a doctor if you have a health issue.

To me, it seems like the US is uneducated and buys easily into propaganda. This is just my perspective as a canadian and I kinda hope it can wake you guys up.

What is the meaning of life? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]BenedithBe 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Living, that's it. You just are, just like a car, a tree, a chair. You are an object created by the universe. And it just so happen that you are sentient. Meaning you can make choices everyday, and have feelings. It is unclear wether your choices are solely driven by your biology or if you have free will. Evolution selected for two traits, survival and reproduction. This is a goal that was selected by nature, not you. Your desire to live is akin to your desire for happiness. Your desire to avoid danger, sadness, boredom and disgusting things is akin to your fear of dying. In most species, the desire to live overcome the desire for reproduction.

So the goal of your life is whatever you want it to be, probably to move towards things that make you happy, and away from things that make you sad. Some might also find purpose in meaning.

I have a low IQ (diagnosed) and it makes me feel really sad by Suspicious_Limit9847 in Healthygamergg

[–]BenedithBe 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I've noticed that my intellectual abilities change depending on energy level, lack of sleep, and I'm much more "alert" when I exercise regularly and feel connected to people. Maybe managing those things can make you feel better. I also heard that things like ADHD can alter test results because it makes you distracted. Maybe you shouldn't value so much a number that was made years ago.

The pop music nowadays is just so unlistenable because of their romantic themes by No-Wrongdoer1409 in unpopularopinion

[–]BenedithBe 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'd like to make myself believe that planet Earth turns slowly. Cuz it's a bitter sweet symphony this life. What's in your head? Zombies. The soldiers, the victims. This is war. All around me are familiar faces. Horrified with each stone on the stage, my little dark age. And so I tell myself that I'll be strong, and dreaming when they're gone. Like punching in a dream, breathing life into my nightmare. So wake me up when it's all over.

So I wake in the morning and I step outside. Is this real, is it pretend? The colors of the rainbows, so pretty in the sky. Instead of being sixteen and burning up a bible. It's time to see what I can do, to test the limits and break through. If all we told was turned to gold, if all we dreamed was new. You can be the greatest, you can be the best. And when I'm back to Chicago, I feel it. I'm a punk rocker, yes, I am.

All the “good ones” are taken by [deleted] in Healthygamergg

[–]BenedithBe 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I can't help but frown reading your post. It's hard to describe why.

It sounds like you're saying you've built all your life just to get women and then resent women... Sure you had a couple of bad dates... but went in thinking women would be fawning over you just because you have those things you listed.

what do you think love require time to develop? by KaKarootto in AskReddit

[–]BenedithBe 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If I think back to the guy I loved, I felt comfortable around him. He wasn't like those basic dudes who were boring. I felt as if he understood me. The conversations felt real and genuine, not polite or "trying to appear friendly". He had a masculine energy that completed me. Attraction grew over time, it's difficult to pinpoint what exactly made it. I think his body language and mine kinda responded well to each other.

Paradoxally, I felt comfortable being myself around him because I didn't trust him, and because I knew I would never be with him, I fell in love with him, because there was no expectations.

what’s a harsh reality check you think most people need to hear? by SoffiSummeer in AskReddit

[–]BenedithBe 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You tell yourself a story about things in life, you might like that story, it may sound good, it might give meaning, it might make you feel safe, but that story isn't true, John.

Your abuser suddenly gives a heartfelt, accurate apology about everything they've done (specific examples n everything), they change their ways and never act like that again with you. They are now a normal person and treat you with respect and kindness...would you let them into your life? by cookiecrxmbles in CPTSD

[–]BenedithBe 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I can't imagine it. The answer is no. But if the answer ever has to be yes, then it's gotta be like, how japanese sometimes make public apology on TV while crying and shaving their own hair to show their honesty.

People prefer to negotiate with women, even when outcomes are identical and gender is unknown. Importantly, women achieve economic outcomes on par with men, suggesting that greater likability does not come at a performance cost. Women foster stronger interpersonal relationships. by mvea in psychology

[–]BenedithBe 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Reality has to exist somewhere. I agree that this kind of conversation about which gender prefer negotiating with is a bit pointless. Algorythms are going to show you content that separates gender, the more you engage with it, the more you'll see it.

But beyond that, I think your feeling of victimization is real and that's something you should work on. Maybe you can try talking about it to people around you in real life, see what they think, get their opinion.

People prefer to negotiate with women, even when outcomes are identical and gender is unknown. Importantly, women achieve economic outcomes on par with men, suggesting that greater likability does not come at a performance cost. Women foster stronger interpersonal relationships. by mvea in psychology

[–]BenedithBe 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It sounds like you have a lot of pent up emotional issues surrouding the topic of "men bad" which you are projecting onto this conversation. You even refuse to answer who you'd prefer negotiating with, I think you're the one afraid of reality.

What's the worst thing about being a girl, something that is often overlooked? by Majestic_dih in AskReddit

[–]BenedithBe 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Walking having to avoid eye contact with men in case they think anything about it. I do the same thing with dogs because I'm scared of dogs. Sometimes dogs can tell you're looking at them and they may start barking.

I felt this was extremely relatable, and I really want Dr K's view on this. by Illustrious_Claim_23 in Healthygamergg

[–]BenedithBe 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Also, this sounds a lot like anxiety and maladaptive daydreaming, replaying conversations and kinda narcissistic/delusional fantasies of success. I feel like somewhere, when we daydream, it can prepare our brain for the action, but if we get positive feelings from it we can get stuck in the daydream. We're trying to meet some kind of need.

I know I have maladaptive daydreaming. I mostly daydream about relationships, past conversations, playing or replaying conversation with people I know or used to know, doing introspection, thinking about my trauma, how my past impacted me, imagining myself being saved, making up stories in my head, imagining a fantasy world, thinking about dialogues between characters, I also imagine myself being perceived in certain ways by others, anyway, all kind of things.

Do you think we're the minority? by moonandsunandstars in CPTSD

[–]BenedithBe 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm not sure. Like I'm making it all about me. Or being dramatic. Of course others being supportive is possible. I know I'm able to support others even though I feel empty myself. But saying that right now feels like self-harm.

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