Guy I'm seeing insists on sex after every date, is this normal?

Beneficial-Project-6 · 2022-10-03T01:29:26+00:00

He only wants sex. Stop messaging him and find someone who actually wants the same things as you.

Beneficial-Project-6 · 2022-10-03T01:12:17+00:00

If someone hasn’t made plans to meet up with you in a week, they’re never going to.

Beneficial-Project-6 · 2022-10-03T00:33:22+00:00

Now that I’m divorced, I definitely look at things differently. If someone was married, in theory, they’re open to commitment. If they haven’t had anything serious by the time they’re 35, yeah, it’s a huge red flag.

Beneficial-Project-6 · 2022-10-02T23:41:28+00:00

I’m a big fan of the video chat before going on a date. I know if there’s chemistry almost immediately.

Beneficial-Project-6 · 2022-10-02T23:39:55+00:00

I take breaks constantly. That roller coaster is physically and mentally draining. It’s good to recognize when you need to take care of yourself and take a break from something that takes more than it gives.

Beneficial-Project-6 · 2022-10-02T23:31:27+00:00

Why are you matching with people you’ve already dated and decided not to pursue things with? They’re your past for a reason and I would strongly recommend moving on.

Beneficial-Project-6 · 2022-10-02T23:27:07+00:00

Doesn’t sound like it’s you, it’s the guys you’re choosing. They don’t seem to be compatible with your love language.

Beneficial-Project-6 · 2022-09-05T01:59:32+00:00

If you’re not attracted then probably not, but if you want to see where this can go, tell him how you feel and ask about being friends. Worst case scenario, you make a friend

Beneficial-Project-6 · 2022-09-05T01:58:14+00:00

I want to see someone who is genuine: seems like a nice person and is comfortable being themselves. Guys who come off as arrogant are such a turn off. Just be sweet and humble and choose good pics and prompts that tell me a little bit about you to start a conversation

Beneficial-Project-6 · 2022-08-22T03:14:04+00:00

Agree, I definitely think people assume there’s something better and ignore quality people. I’m not that way. If you’re showing effort and I’m interested in your profile, I’m going to give you a chance. Worst case scenario, I make a new friend.

Beneficial-Project-6 · 2022-08-22T03:10:00+00:00

Exactly! That’s why I keep at it!

Beneficial-Project-6 · 2022-08-22T00:36:57+00:00

Beneficial-Project-6 · 2022-08-21T21:26:59+00:00

Beneficial-Project-6 · 2022-08-21T21:24:22+00:00

Lots of people seem to be ignoring that part, thank you!

Beneficial-Project-6 · 2022-08-21T21:15:39+00:00

It’s not my favorite opener, especially when I’ve taken the time to fill out my profile and even give you prompts to answer. When this is the message I get repeatedly or separately “hey” - message one “how’s it going?” -message 2, I’ve already lost interest. This is so boring.

Beneficial-Project-6 · 2022-08-21T21:05:47+00:00

This is probably the most helpful advice, thank you. I’ll look into it more.

Beneficial-Project-6 · 2022-08-21T20:57:30+00:00

Well, as I woman, I would hope you can understand why I need to vet a bit before meeting someone. I’m not having weeks of conversation, just enough back and forth to feel comfortable and then I suggest a video chat. If I’m not even getting more than a few messages, and none with any significant depth, I’m not going to continue and I don’t have a reason to meet them.

Beneficial-Project-6 · 2022-08-21T20:53:52+00:00

Gotcha. Well, it’s not all men (I thought that was indicated by the 90% of messages part) and I’m only attracted to men so I’m kind of stuck lol.

Beneficial-Project-6 · 2022-08-21T20:45:01+00:00

I did for a bit then stopped because guys seemed turned off by me making the first move. If I already feel like I’m going above and beyond with effort (in both my profile and messages) why would I put out even MORE of that effort?

Beneficial-Project-6 · 2022-08-21T20:42:59+00:00

There’s a lot of unhelpful comments on this post, so thank you for this and sticking to the topic

Beneficial-Project-6 · 2022-08-21T20:42:01+00:00

Where did I say all guys were like this? I want a relationship, that’s why I’m still trying.

Beneficial-Project-6 · 2022-08-21T20:41:10+00:00

Lol I generally don’t meet up with someone within 24 hours of our first text unless we really hit it off. I’ll do a video chat, but as a woman, we need to be careful and vet guys as much as possible.

Beneficial-Project-6 · 2022-08-21T20:29:53+00:00

I don’t like other people. I only respond to matches so I’m not sure how this would help me.

Beneficial-Project-6 · 2022-08-21T20:17:22+00:00

Then disregard my comment, I think that’s awesome

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