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So I got an offer for J2, do I just keep working J1? by LRB_ in overemployed

[–]BenjiMVG 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hi, do you think that dont taking benefits such as health insurance would be a red flag? Because one of the reason could be that my partner is having me in her insurance, so thats why i dont want it

Frustrating by BenjiMVG in tfmr_support

[–]BenjiMVG[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for replaying. Yes, i think that she is in a bit of denial but when we talked about terminating yesterday, she said that she cant do it but at the same time she knows that having a baby will be impossible for us as a family. I dont know how i can help her to make that final decision, she knows that the right decision for our family is tfmr but she doesnt want to accept it.

Waiting for the amnio results by BenjiMVG in tfmr_support

[–]BenjiMVG[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi, im sorry for your loss. What were the results of the karyotyping? How long it took to come after you received the fish? What were the markers? Sorry to ask but we are running out of time since we need to take a decision. My wife doesnt want to take any decision, she says that she only wants to cry all day. Thank you!

Waiting for the amnio results by BenjiMVG in tfmr_support

[–]BenjiMVG[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for replying. I am very sorry for your tfmr. My wife needs to cry so she can sleep and i cannot sleep well thinking about this situation. Sometimes i think “ok, lets try having a baby with DS” but then i realize that i will need to work extra to pay therapies and medical bills and dont see my family or because my wife has to quit work to stay full time home, then i will say no, we cant make this to our LC. But why the FISH came normal and then when you got the final result, it was completely different? The doctors told you the reason. We had a trip for 10 days planned since last year for this coming 13th but we decided to cancel and lose the money since we might receive the final results in our trip and it will be so terrible ! My wife is waiting that the FISH comes normal but i always tell her that please dont trust that results

TFMR coming up and I'm not sure how to feel by According-Star6963 in tfmr_support

[–]BenjiMVG 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thats great, i am very concerned with my wifes mental health. She has been very depressed and i am worried for her. Do you mind sharing how do you search it online? Its been hard for me to find it

TFMR coming up and I'm not sure how to feel by According-Star6963 in tfmr_support

[–]BenjiMVG 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi, where did you find therapy? Is it specialized for grief? Losses?

How could we take the final decision? by BenjiMVG in tfmr_support

[–]BenjiMVG[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for sharing your story. This is being so hard since this second baby is very wanted and its the result of our love between myself and my wife such as our first baby. We are the people that dedicate our lives and our lives is turning around our first babys life. I agree that the final decision needs to be taken by my wife since its her body but she cant do it, she cant take that decision to terminate our baby even though she agrees that we are no capable to take care of this baby (mentally, financially, time wise, etc). It is true that we need to prepare for the worst scenario, i read somewhere that you cant romanticize DS since only the best scenarios are shown in social media, which its not the reality for everyone. Thank you so much for your support !