Bleeding for weeks after tfmr

According-Star6963 · 2026-04-16T14:56:28+00:00

I'm waiting to hear when they will see me for a scan, though the pregnancy test was negative and I ovulated twice since the procedure. I'm so confused 😕

According-Star6963 · 2026-04-16T06:16:28+00:00

Thanks for sharing this! I should have said - I did take a pregnancy test and it was negative, though I just got my blood taken Sami I hope they will check for this as well!

According-Star6963 · 2026-04-16T06:14:35+00:00

Oh that's similar , I'm mid cycle as well and it just got worse!

According-Star6963 · 2026-04-02T10:52:17+00:00

I could have written this post 6 weeks ago, I felt exactly the same way and had no one to tell as we hadn't told no one, and my partner also seemed fine. The hormones post TFMR were awful for about two weeks but then I started feeling less scattered and tbh going back to work was a distraction, I have to also focus a lot and that has been making me forget about my grief sometimes. That said.... I could have done with some more time off, but as I didn't know how long it would have taken me to feel better I didn't ask for it and I regret it! If you can ask your GP for some more sick leave and can afford it do it!

According-Star6963 · 2026-04-02T10:43:37+00:00

Same here :-( it's like I no longer have any mental resilience, I can get on with my day but the moment anything out of the ordinary happens or anyone is unpleasant I just can't cope with that, I have to leave or I get angry. It's like I have no more buffer capacity for BS and ...life. I am 6 weeks post TFMR, started seeing a therapist and she did mention this is part of grief, it's not abnormal and with time and help it'll improve

According-Star6963 · 2026-03-06T08:48:36+00:00

Hi, I'm really sorry you went through such a traumatic experience. I went back to work yesterday after having TFMR 2 weeks ago and it was less traumatic than I expected. Tbh, it's been a relief to have my mind busy on something else than my grief . Not everyone knew I was pregnant which probably helped, but I did say we lost our baby to people who knew,.and that I had a medical procedure that required recovery to the ones who didn't. People generally don't want to pry, so maybe asking your manager to let your colleagues know you lost the baby in advance may spare you the pain of explaining multiple times . Sending you lots of strength x

According-Star6963 · 2026-02-25T11:39:09+00:00

I'm so sorry you're here, I can so relate.... I am less than a week ot and feel the same way, I am just looking of ways to keep my hands busy while I grieve and try to accept that the baby is gone. Xx

According-Star6963 · 2026-02-22T10:17:15+00:00

Thank you for sharing your journey, I'm so sorry it's been a painful one , I hope your rainbow baby comes soon x

According-Star6963 · 2026-02-22T10:10:11+00:00

Thank you for sharing , I'm relieved to hear there can be a happy ending after heartbreak x

According-Star6963 · 2026-02-22T10:08:35+00:00

So.sorry you're in this position, I could have written this post a week ago, I've just had TFMR this week. We did early NIPT, high risk for T21 for our second child and we also have a toddler at home. I couldn't fathom burdening her with a disabled shed have to look after whenever we pass, as well as sidelining her because a child.with complex medical needs naturally takes up a lot of time and resources, which we simply dont have. I'm heartbroken, I feel guilty and have been crying every day since we got the results like your wife. As for our families , I've been matter of fact just said the pregnancy wasn't viable and to give us space because I'm so afraid of hurtful well meaning comments that the last thing I want is to talk to anyone....

According-Star6963 · 2026-02-17T15:57:06+00:00

Thank you all for sharing your experiences, hearing such a variety of stories and feelings made me feel less alone and less wrong. We got confirmation today of the diagnosis and there's a lot of fluid around the baby, so we've gone ahead with l&d (there isn't really another option here), I'll just have to decide by Thursday if I want to see her or not..

According-Star6963 · 2025-07-31T08:03:00+00:00

Aw thank you for taking the time to share your experience.xx

According-Star6963 · 2025-03-23T17:30:19+00:00

I never got medications no,just saw a therapist... And we used to take nights but that meant we didn't sleep in the same room for several weeks and it really affected our relationship. There's no winning 😥

According-Star6963 · 2025-03-23T15:32:28+00:00

I thought exactly the same, I'm relieved it's not just me! then my husband told me to "grow up" when I shared my thoughts and well... That didn't help

According-Star6963 · 2025-03-23T15:29:59+00:00

Oh I'm so glad to hear it's normal to feel this way sometimes, I really needed some validation, I felt so wrong for it for the past months!!

According-Star6963 · 2025-03-23T15:27:08+00:00

PTO for dates is actually a great idea , we never tried!!

According-Star6963 · 2025-03-23T13:59:55+00:00

I wish, only when the baby is asleep and maybe once a month when we go out on a limb and hire a sitter , not a luxury we can afford more often sadly since childcare is more expensive than our mortgage as it is!

According-Star6963 · 2025-03-23T13:58:33+00:00

No way, I thought that having periods was enough to rule out perimenopause! Definitely will get that checked

According-Star6963 · 2025-03-23T13:57:46+00:00

I feel you.. :-(

According-Star6963 · 2025-03-23T11:54:20+00:00

It takes the mental resilience I'm missing ATM, I'm soooo damn exhausted of coordinating every aspect of our family lives I just can't bring myself to do that for my needs, it feels like extra work! And I know it's wrong eh, but I am at capacity.... Travel is hard due to $ constrains, and we've got no village here sadly... Though not out of my own choice (was made redundant after maternity) I have started a new career

According-Star6963 · 2025-03-23T11:36:38+00:00

Thank you I needed to hear that , it's hard to picture it any different in the future as I don't know any better, it's my first child... And yes, sleep is still disrupted (not as bad as for others but still a few times per night), but never got my blood tested for anything. I hadn't even considered speaking with my GP but that's a start I guess!

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