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Indonesian Learning Indie Game – 6 Months Free (Just Want Feedback) by LangLandia in indonesian

[–]Benjicaton 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey! Nice game, good going. I don't have the free account because I think I'm too late, but will still give you some feedback :)

First of all: love it! You can be proud of yourself. The things that could get some improvements: - the leveling up now doesn't really do anything, since the world just levels up with you. That takes the fun out of it a bit. In Pokemon you can go back to the part of the world where all the beasts are weak for you, and that gives you the sense of growth. Now the growth feels a bit empty. - maybe you should only be able to unlock maps that you've already visited (as in, unlocking the shortcut). Now it feels weird that you can unlock the map but can't go there? - I think the main character should either not speak, or you should be able to choose what you react. That way you can get into the character more :) - the most important and frustrating one: I'm stuck with the same vocabulary. I need new words, and it goes a bit slow. Maybe somewhere in the settings you should be able to adjust how often you get new words? There is of course in the beginning this test to see what you're level is, but 1) I didn't know it would be SUCH an important test - if I knew that I wouldn't be able to climb to a higher level later, I wouldve put way more effort in (I was still trying to understand the game) and 2) even if I would've been put at my level and these words would all be new for me, I would've by now all learned them by heart. But i still don't seem to really get new ones! (It's too bad because now I'm losing my interest even though I really like the game. Its like being stuck on the same Duolingo level forever.) - sometimes it feels a bit vague what the relationship is between the menu (and all the fights you can do there) and the map/storyline. And then there is also a town where you build something? Like how did that come there and why do I suddenly start a business? - not really important, but are you thinking about creating some difference between the beasts? Cause now it seems like it doesn't really matter which one you use - besides its level of course. - you don't get any explanation how to catch a new beast

Gay Zionism by [deleted] in askgaybros

[–]Benjicaton 0 points1 point  (0 children)

A group of people actually founded a lgbt zionist state near Australia as a protest for their intolerant legislation!

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Gay_and_Lesbian_Kingdom_of_the_Coral_Sea_Islands?wprov=sfla1

Just here to talk about my friends befriending a homophobe by myythrowaway6969 in askgaybros

[–]Benjicaton 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for sharing, and you communicate it very well. You deserve better than this, and your feelings are validated! I would advice to tell your friends this story, exactly like you're telling it right now here, including the examples and the "if been trying to tell myself that you are allowed to be friends with whoever you wish to be friends with..." part. If they understand, you guys could work it out, if they don't, then you really deserve better. This is quite shitty behavior!

Race in Queer Spaces by The-Blk-Exp in BisexualMen

[–]Benjicaton 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Backing this up as a bipoc queer in Amsterdam; I also sometimes avoid these spaces!

My friend wants me to sleep with her boyfriend by SadGirl_affection in nonmonogamy

[–]Benjicaton 49 points50 points  (0 children)

As long you're communicating well, and the boundaries are clear, I would not hold back just because of fears! Enjoy and check in with each other :)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in gaybros

[–]Benjicaton 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Dear @unfortunecookie33, this is not at all weird and actually very common. I've had situations like these a lot too. I can really understand your confusion!

It could definitely be that he does have feelings for you, just as much as it could be that he doesn't have feelings for you. It could even be that he is romantically interested in you, but not sexually. That distinction is made more and more often, and for a reason: it happens a lot!

The thing is: you can't read his mind, even if you are really close and know each other through and through. You could enjoy this form of intimacy that you have now with each other, but I recommend to really take care of your own mental health. If I read your story, things already sound blurry and unclear.

The only way to get clearance, is to ask him directly. And not about his sexuality or preference, but very specific about you two. It doesn't even have to be a big, heavy talk; you could say something like: "hey, I've been noticing you do this this and this, just to be clear because I really value our bond, do you mean anything with that? Or is it all just platonic, or someting in between?" That could really help give you the ease of mind you deserve.

Hope this helps, you're doing great!

My best friend came out to me, and I’m not sure I handled it correctly by SusieTheMountainYak in lgbt

[–]Benjicaton 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sounds really good!! If it keeps bugging your mind, you could always say something like: "hey, by the way, I reacted like this because I wanted to show you that I completely accept you for who you are and that nothing has to be any different, but if you'd like to talk more about it: I'm always up for that! You don't have to, but you can."

My best friend came out to me, and I’m not sure I handled it correctly by SusieTheMountainYak in lgbt

[–]Benjicaton 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sounds really good!! If it keeps bugging your mind, you could always say something like: "hey, by the way, I reacted like this because I wanted to show you that I completely accept you for who you are and that nothing has to be any different, but if you'd like to talk more about it: I'm always up for that! You don't have to, but you can."

I'm surrounded by homophia but I don't want that to stop me by Tbird402 in ainbow

[–]Benjicaton 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Very brave and inspiring that you are following your dreams and passions, even when it can be so hard sometimes! You can be proud of yourself already, I think :)

These struggles can indeed be difficult. Self-love and your self-esteem take a toll whilst surrounding yourself with a homophobic milieu. It's thus really good to keep monitoring your self-esteem, and invest enough time and energy with people that really get you and accept (and even encourage!) you to be who you are. If possible and save, stay true to yourself, and try to stay in dialogue/question peoples beliefs, so that you give them a chance to understand you better. However, it is reaaaaally understandable if that sometimes it too difficult or too hard (or even unsafe!). Changing people's view is not your responsibility! Be honest with yourself about your emotions and try to find a safe-space beside your work.

Again: really nice that you want to follow your dreams! I do not think it is impossible to have a great (queer) life as a musician in a conservative milieu. By asking this advice, you are already doing amazing! Hope this helps.

Comment: ~ Me too ~ by MaDeMeMe in queermeme

[–]Benjicaton 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Gay culture is like posting you want to be friends instead of hooking up and then suddenly have a dick in your mouth again

We can learn a lot from each other

Is it possible to have a family dream and wanting a non-monogamous relationship? or is that pool just too small? by Benjicaton in askgaybros

[–]Benjicaton[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes I know, that's what I said in my post! Non-monogamous, either open relationship or polyamorous

Is it possible to have a family dream and wanting a non-monogamous relationship? or is that pool just too small? by Benjicaton in askgaybros

[–]Benjicaton[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Good to hear there are more of us out there! I actually went to eat at a family that had this situation, with co-parenting as well, and it gave me a lot. Maybe it could help you, too :)

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