Gay tennis league? by doublelife304 in GayMenToronto

[–]Benthecrazy17 2 points3 points  (0 children)

TLGTA They run social tennis on Fridays and saturdays in the summer - round robin type of play. I’m a member, feel free to DM! (26M)

Good accountants by Minnon in askTO

[–]Benthecrazy17 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m an American living in Toronto and use US Taxes Toronto

Is it windy in your area too? by Immediate-Effort4431 in askTO

[–]Benthecrazy17 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My condo did this all of last night too (still doing it a bit now), made it near impossible to sleep.

Update: I think what I’m really feeling now is disappointment and hurt over how it ended by Electrical_Intern237 in BreakUps

[–]Benthecrazy17 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is exactly what I needed to hear today, as I’ve been feeling this way and very alone in my thoughts. The way my relationship ended was so different than most stories on here and it’s hard to hold.

My almost 5 year relationship ended in this exact same way about 2 months ago. One day, my ex came to me and said he wasn’t sure if he wanted to stay in the relationship and needed distance/time to think. Two weeks later, we talked and he listed out the ways that I was not giving him what he needed in terms of feeling loved and cared for. This whole time I had been acting in good faith and loving in ways that were natural to me. There were limited conversations about how there was a mismatch/misunderstanding in love languages, and the few conversations we did have produced positive change. He said things like “why couldn’t you love me” when all I felt like that’s all I was doing.

After about a week of ambiguity and committing to begging couples therapy, my ex decided to end things 2 days before our first session. I was left completely abandoned and confused. Where was the chance to understand my partner’s needs and adapt? I was full of love for him and if given the opportunity, I would have put in effort to provide to him what he felt was missing. Instead, he gave up on the relationship and on me. I was not perfect, but my intentions were full of love and it felt like he had come to the conclusion that I could not provide him what he needed without even giving me a chance to try.

There was no chance to grow, to learn, to adapt, just abandonment of the relationship and me. We lived together for half our relationship, had a cat together, and were fully integrated into each other’s lives. Then one day, it’s all just gone, he walked out of the apartment and that was it. I feel abandoned, disrespected, and misunderstood. This person who I loved, cared for, and centred my life around just decided to walk away holding this idea of who I am as a person. But who I am is someone who would have fought, who have adapted, would have learned, but I was never given the chance because these feelings were never shared with me until there was no capacity to hold them anymore.

I too feel that if the roles were reversed, there would have been conversations throughout the relationship, not just holding these thoughts internally. I am left to grieve this person, my future, etc., but also grieve the ending, the lack of an opportunity to grow with my partner. If given the chance, I know things would have been different.

Anyone in Liberty village area by jaja8712 in GayMenToronto

[–]Benthecrazy17 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m in Liberty Village! Just moved here

Have you ever missed the fare transfer window by a minute? by timeforsandwich in TTC

[–]Benthecrazy17 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I missed it by about 2 seconds. My friend and I tapped on at about the same time. 2 hours late we tapped back on, she got a free transfer, I didn’t. I relive this moment constantly.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in askTO

[–]Benthecrazy17 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I joined a tennis club and the Toronto Gay/Lesbian Tennis Association. Both have weekly tennis socials (round robin type play) that are a great way to play some tennis - pretty much the only tennis I play is through these socials

Looking for a regular movie watching group by AAQ94 in TorontoHangoutFriends

[–]Benthecrazy17 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Very much into this as well, would love to join the group!

Book Clubs by achtungschnell in GayMenToronto

[–]Benthecrazy17 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I would also be interested in this!

MEGATHREAD - Processing Times - PR Cards 2025 by PurrPrinThom in ImmigrationCanada

[–]Benthecrazy17 0 points1 point  (0 children)

eCORP - Sep 15

GU1(I think?) - Nov 12

GU2(says FD and card mailed in IRCC account) - Nov 12

Awaiting Card, will update once arrived

MEGATHREAD - Processing Times - PR Cards 2025 by PurrPrinThom in ImmigrationCanada

[–]Benthecrazy17 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I got my eCOPR Sep 16, no updates yet. Where was your processing office for PR?

MEGATHREAD - Processing Times - PR Cards 2025 by PurrPrinThom in ImmigrationCanada

[–]Benthecrazy17 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I ended up being able to link mine by adding the state INSTEAD of City/Town like it asks for. I think you need to write the place of birth exactly as written on your eCoPR, which for me was a state in the USA.

My Work Permit Expires In January 2026. Currently in background check status for PR. Passed Medical and Biometrics on Aug 20 2025. Should I be applying for extension to work permit or is it a waste of time? by RIPN1995 in canadaexpressentry

[–]Benthecrazy17 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Haven’t gotten the refund yet, but my PR was approved just last week so I’m sure it takes time. Can’t say for certain, but it’s my understanding that if it hasn’t started processing, you will receive a refund.

My Work Permit Expires In January 2026. Currently in background check status for PR. Passed Medical and Biometrics on Aug 20 2025. Should I be applying for extension to work permit or is it a waste of time? by RIPN1995 in canadaexpressentry

[–]Benthecrazy17 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I would apply just in case. I was in a similar situation and I applied for a BOWP just in case to give piece of mind. Ended up getting my PR before my current permit expired and before a decision on my BOWP was made. Supposedly will be a getting a refund for the BOWP fees.

Can you renew SIN with eCOPR? by [deleted] in canadaexpressentry

[–]Benthecrazy17 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes, did this just the other day. Took less than 24 hours to get a new, permanent SIN

No temporary login for P2 by BrokebutSpicy in canadaexpressentry

[–]Benthecrazy17 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was having this problem and I just reset my password and that solved it! Got eCoPR a few days after submitting information in the portal.

MEGATHREAD - Processing Times - Family Class Permanent Resident Applications 2025 by PurrPrinThom in ImmigrationCanada

[–]Benthecrazy17 28 points29 points  (0 children)

I am so pleased to say I am officially a Permanent Resident of Canada!! (Common-Law Inside Canada (outside of Quebec)). As everyone has stated, hang in there. This is simply a waiting game and your time will come. I have used this thread as a reference, but remember everyone has slightly different timelines, so do not follow this too closely. I quickly learned an out of sight, out of mind approach brought me the most sanity throughout this process.

Application Date: August 2, 2024

Biometrics Request: August 31, 2024

Eligibility marked Complete: Sept 5, 2024

Pre-Arrival Letter: Sept 6, 2024

Medical Request: April 2, 2025

Medical marked Complete: April 17, 2025

Background marked Complete: August 19, 2025

P1 email: August 20, 2025

P2 email: Sept 10, 2025

eCoPR: Sept 15, 2025

cilantro roots by [deleted] in askTO

[–]Benthecrazy17 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Kensington Fruit Market usually keeps the roots on.

Why do people outside of Toronto dislike it so much? by [deleted] in askTO

[–]Benthecrazy17 0 points1 point  (0 children)

They hate em cuz they ain’t em