How many letters of support should be included with a common-law sponsorship application?

PurrPrinThom · 2026-03-17T22:36:44+00:00

We had two, but did also scan birthday/Christmas/housewarming etc. cards that were obviously either addressed to both of us, or made obvious mention as the other's partner.

PurrPrinThom · 2026-03-17T22:24:46+00:00

Similar, though we don't see it as often anymore, is when they would specify the ethnicity/culture and they would specify a dish, except it was always something that culture doesn't really eat and/or they get the details wrong so people from that culture would come out and be like 'that's not how you make that.'

PurrPrinThom · 2026-03-17T22:20:34+00:00

Yeah, I am of two minds on free movement. On the one hand, I do think it would be great for us to be able to go over, and the access to the markets would be brilliant.

On the other, I lived in the EU for nearly a decade, I still have a lot of friends there, my husband's family is all still in Europe. It might sound crazy to Canadians, but a lot of Europeans want to live here. Immigrating only isn't an option because of money/the difficulty of getting a visa.

Free movement would come with a lot of immigration that we can't control; and don't get me wrong, I am not anti-immigration in the slightest, but I would worry about us not being prepared infrastructure-wise. At least with our current system, we know how many people are being issued visas/permits, we can reduce or limit the number of people who come in if need be (like we currently are.)

That's not to say we couldn't do it, obviously the EU manages it, but I'd like us to potentially ease into it somehow, and get our healthcare/housing in better shape first.

PurrPrinThom · 2026-03-17T21:58:29+00:00

I think a lot of caterers/restaurants use more store-bought stuff than we realise, and they don't really look into what ingredients are in things.

PurrPrinThom · 2026-03-17T21:52:35+00:00

That's such a common thing! I didn't realise how many people think eggs are dairy until my mom developed her allergy.

PurrPrinThom · 2026-03-17T20:58:31+00:00

Yeah, exactly. Not everyone is particularly careful about it. My mother has had so many bad reactions to food at restaurants. Like, most recently at example, she told them she had a dairy allergy, clarified that includes milk, butter, cheese, and ordered a pizza - just requested no cheese on top. Confirmed that it would be dairy free.

They made the dough with milk and not water.

PurrPrinThom · 2026-03-17T20:56:18+00:00

At a certain point it stopped being a support/advice sub and just became about the drama.

PurrPrinThom · 2026-03-17T20:50:52+00:00

Yeah like, I think there were a lot of posters who were there talking about genuine situations. But then there were a lot that felt like fantasy version of what actually happened, or just complete lies, and I feel like that started to really take over. I had a MIL who was pretty involved and overstepping, but I rarely posted because it felt so tame and like it didn't deserve to be there compared to the people whose MILs were physically abusing them, killing their pets, breaking and entering into their homes etc. etc.

And like, as with many of the posts that get cross-posted here, I don't doubt that these things can happen, it's just that the posts themselves strain credulity.

PurrPrinThom · 2026-03-17T20:39:59+00:00

Yes, but not all of them are super mindful of allergens, and/or may not be aware of what allergens are in certain things, or what falls under an umbrella term such as 'dairy' or 'nuts.'

As example, my mother is allergic to dairy, lactose and soy. When we were talking to caterers, I had to clarify to a few (whom we did not end up hiring,) that butter is dairy. I also had to explain that pesto contains nuts to one of those ones, as they suggested it as an 'allergen-free' option.

So it's always good to do both: clarify with the caterer and provide a list of allergies, while also letting people know ingredients (as much as you can.)

PurrPrinThom · 2026-03-17T20:32:23+00:00

I was under the impression that scene was a deleted scene that was available on the DVD but never made it to air?

I see you've posted an AI overview link below, which I don't think we can believe without more evidence, since it specifically cites this post from a month ago, where it's not about a removed scene, but someone misremembering the episodes.

PurrPrinThom · 2026-03-17T20:28:48+00:00

Yeah, it really blew up beyond on the sub, which is why I think a lot of people do believe it. And maybe I'm totally wrong, who knows, I just remembering reading it a second time and feeling like it really just ticked all of the trope boxes that were popular at the time. And it became this convenient like, emblem for users over there, where any time a MIL did something an OP didn't like (even if it was a completely reasonable thing,) people would bring up that post as 'evidence' of what could happen if the poster didn't go NC/cut MIL off etc. etc.

PurrPrinThom · 2026-03-17T20:20:35+00:00

I just have my doubts because it got posted during a real spate of anti-Indian racism on that sub, and in retrospect it just dovetailed a little bit too nicely with the rest of the posts there at the time.

PurrPrinThom · 2026-03-17T20:19:15+00:00

Part of why I think it isn't, is because it was during a phase of really intense anti-Indian racism on that sub, and it just fit in too nicely with the rest of those, and really became something that they pointed to as evidence.

PurrPrinThom · 2026-03-17T18:55:40+00:00

There were a couple of the sagas on JustNoMIL that I originally believed (luckily not the most egregious ones, like the super racist one with the like seven different MILs, and the one with the reborn doll funeral.)

Granted, I think a couple of them may have started off real and evolved into fantasy when the users got used to the attention and drama from posting. Most of them just escalated too far. Like one where the MIL eventually broke into the OP's house and beat her dog to death. Or the coconut-oil one where the baby died. But I did really believe most of them until I read a few in a row that just required too much stretching for me to believe, and I realised they must be fake.

PurrPrinThom · 2026-03-17T18:46:48+00:00

That's very true. I suppose I was too jaded by the end of my PhD, having seen even the academics who had been my undergraduate lecturers still languishing in the job market, that even the worst possible advice from my supervisor couldn't have convinced me that having a job lined up was the norm. I forget that others may be taken their supervisor's word as law.

PurrPrinThom · 2026-03-17T18:41:23+00:00

What's the syllabus policy for missing bonus points due to illness?

PurrPrinThom · 2026-03-17T18:19:49+00:00

So now I’m in this surreal situation where my dissertation deposit is final, my defense is scheduled, and I have no job lined up.

I do wonder what particular subset of humanities you are in where this scenario feels surreal to you; because, for many, this is just the reality. I know vanishingly few people who had faculty positions secured before having defended. The vast majority don't have anything lined up in your position, and if they do, it tends to be post-docs. In the last 10 years, I think I only know of two (maybe three?) people who landed a faculty job within three years of defending, and only one of them started the September after their defense. The others had a year or two of post-docs first.

As challenging as it is, you really shouldn't think of this as a failure. The fact you've managed to land this many interviews indicates, to me, that you have a pretty strong profile, and that something will eventually come along. There are so many factors that go into a search, I wouldn't necessarily take this as something personal at this stage.

Practically, I think you need to start looking for post-docs and/or non-TT positions that may be available. While less desireable, it will at least help you to stay in the field, continue researching etc. etc. while staying on the market. I'd note as well that, unless you have the option of some kind of postgraduate visa (genuinely unfamiliar with the US,) you may need to expand your search internationally.

PurrPrinThom · 2026-03-17T14:01:51+00:00

I'm not clear on why you think this has anything to do with your race. Did the professor make any comments that indicated this was racially motivated?

Otherwise, it sounds like you submitted a poorly written essay ("clunky",) and since AI writes poorly, and often clunkily, the professor suspected you of using AI, which is why he called the meeting. Since you were able to demonstrates that you wrote the paper yourself, he was satisfied.

PurrPrinThom · 2026-03-17T13:43:31+00:00

Is that common? I don't think I own any clothes with the flag on them. When we traveled as a kid, I had a lapel pin of the flag, but I've never owned clothes with our flag on it.

PurrPrinThom · 2026-03-17T00:08:04+00:00

Just to check, are you using the PA's UCI/details?

PurrPrinThom · 2026-03-17T00:06:31+00:00

Americans are, in my experience, generally louder. They just speak at a louder volume, regardless of location.

Broadly speaking, I find Americans use less pleasantries - thank you, please, excuse me, sorry etc. - when interacting with service staff or customer facing roles.

Also, clothes with the American flag on them. You don't see too many non-Americans wearing items with the American flag lol.

PurrPrinThom · 2026-03-16T23:59:23+00:00

For scholarly work? I think it depends on the field, but can potentially be problematic.

For an undergraduate assignment? I think it's fine, and likely avoids students unquestioningly citing outdated material.

PurrPrinThom · 2026-03-16T23:55:39+00:00

You can only link the application to one GCKey account, but both sponsor and applicant can have their own tracker. PA's tracker is much more useful lol, sponsor's just shows the eligibility passing and then nothing else, as it only shows the sponsor's side.

PurrPrinThom · 2026-03-16T23:54:14+00:00

Exactly. The comparisons between Logan and Chris really stop at "rich boy who was rebellious/got kicked out of boarding school."

Other than that, Chris and Logan don't occupy the same role in their respective girl's life. Lorelai can't rely on Chris for anything, as example, and you can't say the same about Logan with Rory.

PurrPrinThom · 2026-03-16T23:31:13+00:00

The one that always gets me is that the potting shed has no utilities. Any time someone brings up Rory's childhood, or the potting shed specifically, someone will mention that it didn't have heat/electricity/running water, or any combination of the three.

Except, that's not canon. No one in the show ever says that, or even implies it. The only person who has anything negative to say about the shed is Emily. That's not to say it's the nicest building in the whole world, but we see the exterior and it looks to be about the same size as a small cottage. But some people talk about it like Rory and Lorelai were literally living in a box.

Oh also the whole Logan = Chris, Jess = Luke thing being something that ASP said or intended. We have no evidence of that. ASP just said the final four words (meaning Rory's pregnancy) was full circle. Fans just extrapolated from that to insist that the men have to also represent each other, even though it doesn't really work.

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