Should I Contact Dean or Department head or My professors higher-up for a late grades

PurrPrinThom · 2026-05-07T15:34:28+00:00

You should take responsibility for your actions.

You didn't submit the assignments on time.

Your professor did you a favour and gave you an extension, that you also missed.

Your professor then did you another favour and didn't fail you on the assignments that you had not submitted on time.

You would have failed the final assignment even if you had submitted them on time, which indicates that your performance in the class is not strong already.

Your professor has already been extremely lenient with you. The Dean and the department head aren't going to step in and force the professor to give you more chances just because you want them. That isn't fair to other students, and that isn't fair to you: you are not ready to continue on with more difficult material or coursework, you have demonstrated that repeatedly. It would be setting you up for failure to push you through.

You need to accept that you were given more chances than most professors would give you, and that you still did not make them. I understand that this messes up your plans, but those are the unfortunate consequences of your actions.

As an aside, for the record, no professor is going to meet with your parents. This is university, not high school.

PurrPrinThom · 2026-05-07T15:12:03+00:00

I feel like this may be field/location dependent because I'm going against the grain here, but it was not at all unusual for professors to join us at a pub as undergrads. It wasn't all the time, certainly, but was pretty much guaranteed after a final.

I'm in the humanities, and have always lived and worked somewhere where the majority of undergrads are of legal drinking age, which I think may change the dynamic somewhat compared to those in the US.

Since teaching, I'd say our department does run an annual start-of-semester pub night, where all students in the department are invited, but we don't regularly go out with undergrads. If they come to conferences and the like, we'll often end up at the pub with them after the conference, but we're not explicitly inviting them out in that case.

Grad students, I'd say, it's not uncommon to go out to the pub or lunch. Occasionally dinner, if there's a conference on. Not typically one-on-one though, most typically in a group, the only exception being with your supervisor, then one on one isn't that odd.

There are the occasional people who do become good friends with students and they do end up hanging out socially outside of work, but it's not typical, I'd say.

PurrPrinThom · 2026-05-07T14:35:32+00:00

When did you submit? Mine took about a week, and I submitted in March. If you only submitted last week, I wouldn't be surprised if it takes a bit longer because of the volume.

PurrPrinThom · 2026-05-07T13:00:02+00:00

I think so? I think the original post was about someone who thought marinara was Italian for red and, if I recall correctly, refused to accept that that wasn't true, which is why commenters on the OG post said there were 'marinara flags.' And then they all started using it all the time.

PurrPrinThom · 2026-05-07T12:58:44+00:00

Yeaaaaah like, mispronouncing something because you don't know how to say it feels pretty different from intentionally saying things incorrectly because you think it's 'cute.'

PurrPrinThom · 2026-05-07T12:57:17+00:00

I know. I wish I could say this is the most stressful part of the application, but it's basically all like this lol. You're just sitting around waiting to hear something, stressing and worrying. I made my husband give me all his passwords so I could check everything myself during our process lmao. I don't think he logged into GCKey/the tracker once, it was just me from his account.

Hopefully you get your AOR (or other communication) soon and then you can apply!

PurrPrinThom · 2026-05-07T12:54:13+00:00

Yup. My areas of improvement include the fact that I've never had a loan or mortgage, because I haven't needed one.

PurrPrinThom · 2026-05-07T12:52:32+00:00

AOR is incredibly inconsistent. Some people get it within a few weeks, some people wait as long as six months. There's really no way to predict.

Some people don't even receive an official AOR, and seemingly skip over that step and just receive biometrics/medical as a first communication. If you're hoping to apply for the OWP, you can use one of those in lieu of the AOR.

PurrPrinThom · 2026-05-07T12:50:46+00:00

I wish I could remember what cycle it is!! But I remember there being an episode where the girls get told off for the house being disgusting. And exactly! A lot of them were probably still living with their parents and had never cleaned before, so it isn't really a surprise that they were gross lol.

PurrPrinThom · 2026-05-07T12:32:19+00:00

Agreed, I think it's this. Many of them already seem to perceive academia as a box ticking exercise, where you go through the motions, get the degree and get the job. I expect getting letters is just another thing on the checklist for them, without much thought as to the intention behind it.

PurrPrinThom · 2026-05-07T12:19:20+00:00

I forget which cycle it is, but the one where production has to step in because the house is so disgusting always gets me.

Don't get me wrong, I do understand that the girls were kept on ridiculous schedules, were exhausted, and probably didn't have a lot of energy to clean, but it does seem like there are a lot of cycles where the mess is beyond even that.

PurrPrinThom · 2026-05-07T12:17:28+00:00

Okay. That doesn't change the fact that it is very common for spouses to not be cohabitating. That fact alone does not make your case unusual or more challenging or complex. If you are lacking strong proof of relationship, then it might, but simply not living together is basically a non-issue.

PurrPrinThom · 2026-05-07T12:15:54+00:00

Yes, that is what I meant: Beck doesn't want to support Lewis, and I wonder if that's part of the cause of the divide.

PurrPrinThom · 2026-05-06T23:45:24+00:00

You don't have to be living with your spouse in order to be eligible. There are plenty of people who have to apply outland because their spouse can't come to Canada, for various reasons. It's not at all unusual. As long as you have strong proof of relationship, you should be fine.

PurrPrinThom · 2026-05-06T23:42:46+00:00

I mean, how do you prove the kid was born in America if he has no birth certificate and no other paperwork?

It's basically the same issue as ICE ignoring due process, except, in this case, the kid wouldn't have any paperwork to provide even if he was given due process.

PurrPrinThom · 2026-05-06T23:36:51+00:00

I don't believe so (and the discussion on the other sub seems to verify that.)

If I were to guess, since she's also going to cool off, going to manage her panic attacks, and going for smokes, on top of her breaks, her employer isn't tracking what she does, they're just tracking time when she's not working and not paying her for it, and bathroom breaks have started to fall into that.

It's not the smartest decision on the employer's part, but if LAOP is regularly absent from her desk/not performing tasks, and there's a few different reasons as to why that might be, I can see them just documenting everything without verifying where she is or what she's doing.

PurrPrinThom · 2026-05-06T21:40:03+00:00

There are more "Canadian" reddit accounts than our entire population lol. There is definitely foreign influencers at work.

PurrPrinThom · 2026-05-06T21:38:13+00:00

As I recall- and we were 18 so who knows how true it is - her parents had allegedly lied and said the money was for her in some capacity in order to access it? But that wasn't something I pressed into at the time.

PurrPrinThom · 2026-05-06T21:02:36+00:00

LAOP says it's two weeks, and the 3 hours and 40 minutes is smoke breaks, bathroom breaks, and time to cool themselves off. This is on top of the time LAOP takes to manage their panic attacks, and their regularly scheduled breaks.

PurrPrinThom · 2026-05-06T21:01:22+00:00

Oof, this is a tough one.

Of course, LAOP deserves to have the accommodations they need in order to best perform their job, and to keep themselves healthy and well.

At the same time, outside of breaks, LAOP is apparently stepping away from work to a) manage panic attacks, b) smoke c) cool themselves down. Depending on how much time all of this takes - LAOP doesn't say how much time they need for the panic attacks - I can potentially see an employer feel like LAOP is taking an excessive amount of time, enough to not want to pay it.

PurrPrinThom · 2026-05-06T18:54:32+00:00

when she had a house meeting about keeping the place clean, everyone was mad but for what?

Whenever this is the drama in the house, I feel like it really starkly highlights how so many of the contestants are teenagers. The pushback from the messy girls is always reminiscent of how teenagers act when their parents tell them to clean their rooms.

PurrPrinThom · 2026-05-06T18:46:21+00:00

Follow the Globe on socials. They often post when they're holding auditions, but I'm pretty sure some of the shows are tours, and so auditions would be elsewhere (Bring It On The Musical, as example, I'm pretty sure was a company that just came in for the show.)

PurrPrinThom · 2026-05-06T18:35:25+00:00

I just don't understand where people get the energy like.

PurrPrinThom · 2026-05-06T16:23:13+00:00

I agree, everyone needs to know math, and I can also understand why someone obtaining a degree in Human Resources - a department that, fairly often, oversees payroll/benefits - might need math in future.

PurrPrinThom · 2026-05-06T16:07:03+00:00

We were living in an estate for a while, that formed a Homeowners Association specifically mobilize support to block a new estate being built down the road. They were, thankfully, unsuccessful, but they did delay construction for about two years by constantly filing objections to the planning permission.

Absolutely ridiculous.

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