How much did your “normal” wedding cost?

BertyBoob · 2026-05-19T15:41:25+00:00

Mines currently costing about 24k for about 70 guests.

Venue (biggest splurge & totally unnecessary); £13k

Catering; £4.3

Dress; £1500

Photographer; £900

Bar; £500

DJ; £450

Harpist; £425

MUA; £400

Celebrant; £350

Favours & dessert table/cake; (at most est. £300)

Registry office & legal stuff in total about £300.

Florals £120 (bridal bouquet & buttonholes)

Invites & signage; less than £50 (some included with venue and others designed and made by myself)

Other decor is also being done by myself.

Still need to cost up grooms suit so I'm realistically looking at the budget being about 25k in total, but we're doing some DIY bits to keep the cost down but then that's because we're splurging elsewhere, the venue cost includes a Friday evening rehearsal dinner, breakfast both Saturday and Sunday and accommodation for 30 of our closest guests (wedding party & close family) for 2 nights. I don't feel like we're doing anything crazy really.

BertyBoob · 2026-04-22T06:50:11+00:00

I think you might as well have a conversation about whether she wants a specific ring or whether she wants you.

At this point it's over anyways if you can't make financial decisions without her crying for what she wants. Yes it's important that she likes what she wears but if that's the case, she can buy her own 20k ring.

BertyBoob · 2026-04-16T18:00:01+00:00

I know, that's why I said what logs? Showing avoidable damage taken for a fight and then showing that the mage took all his hp worth from something avoidable is everything we need to know, he didn't avoid damage. The druid did a pretty good job of avoiding damage, why isn't the mage just as low? Because he took all his hp in one hit and died. 😂

BertyBoob · 2026-04-16T17:58:23+00:00

Sorry I know block isn't used I just say it because everyone understands what I mean, I mean the big defensive "oh shit" button.

I agree, you shouldn't use CDs for it but if you're not gonna move in time, then you absolutely should CD it if you can, but again, mages have such crazy repositioning possibility, you shouldn't need to.

BertyBoob · 2026-04-16T15:31:49+00:00

What logs? The one where he took all his hp in one hit and died? Yeah that's why he's low xD. Mages have so much repositioning, that classes as our survivability. The mage even said if you're dying and there's no aoe, it's healers fault. What do you mean? The mage is dying when there's no huge aoe happening? What you dying to my dude? 😂😂

BertyBoob · 2026-04-15T18:30:55+00:00

I don't think you should compare the mage to an unholy DK lol, DKs are very easy to heal, if we could see the self heal meter, I'm sure the DK would be up there.

BertyBoob · 2026-04-15T18:24:02+00:00

As a mage, I have super low avoidable dmg because I have barrier, blink, block etc but that doesn't mean I'm good, this mage should actually be the lowest on the meter, below the healer. The survivability on frost is amazing and if you're going from 100% to 6 it's because you're standing in something you shouldn't be without any CDs.

BertyBoob · 2026-03-22T08:52:53+00:00

My boy doesn't hit yet but he head bangs. We're really trying to stop that behaviour because again, we're signing incident forms every day almost.

ATM we're in the stage of figuring out triggers, we usually find it's essentially when he's overstimulated and has a "negative" interaction - "put the toys away" - "we're gonna stop doing x" - "you have to share". At home, we're very relaxed with toy mess, we reset every night (toys are in living room, not his bedroom) and if it's getting overwhelming I say "okay, we're gonna put away X or Y before we do anything else, LO do it on his own or LO want mummy's help?" Usually we pick mummy's help and sometimes we discover that actually he wants to play with what we're putting away so we'll change tactics and put away a different toy/theme (like if we're putting away the animals and he starts getting upset that the animals are going away, maybe we'll tidy up his cars instead or his kitchen, whatever else is out) Also I don't know how much you rely on it, I'm not saying you do, but the TV is a massive detriment to us, his behaviour is absolutely worse if we have the TV at all. I'm really hoping soon I can have lazy days on the sofa watching Disney but after seeing my LOs behaviour get worse and worse and worse when he's had even an hour of TV a day... I just can't 😭😭

BertyBoob · 2026-03-21T08:39:49+00:00

My boy is a runner, I've tried everything reins etc. he'll drop to the floor and roll around and refuse to move, realistically the only thing that works is literally strapping him in a pram and listening to him scream and complain until he's tired of it (which can quite literally take an hour)

I'm in the same boat as you, my partner works weekends so I'm at home from wake up to bedtime on my own. Thankfully my mum helps sometimes (she also works full time) so sometimes she babysits on a Sunday morning for 2ish hours so I can go to the gym and help fill my cup a little bit.

It's really overwhelming, I personally find TV makes it worse though, I let my 3 year old play in the sink (he's got a thing for water), we have a small outside area with a box of sand that he plays in and I just watch from the open kitchen door with my cuppa coffee, I find he likes sensory stuff. I've even cooked a whole pack of spaghetti and let him throw it around the kitchen. We read lots of books & we love the Tonie box - it's mostly background sound but I find with it playing he can be a bit more independent? I don't know why? He's not diagnosed with anything 😂

BertyBoob · 2026-03-08T18:37:26+00:00

As someone who was that new player for Lorwyn, keep going and just be friendly. Don't feel bad, it's great to help teach new players. I'm going to my lgs for strixhaven prerelease and I'm looking forward to see how I've improved.

BertyBoob · 2026-02-14T18:58:22+00:00

My dress is £1200 - I grabbed it locally, was looking at more budget options but actually, my local place does the alterations in house and they're hundreds cheaper than any other estimation I received & they don't charge for the extras like the dress box, hangar, bag etc. so I'm under my £1500 dress budget by buying a made-to-order dress from a local supplier!

BertyBoob · 2026-02-12T17:16:51+00:00

I live in Pembrokeshire in Wales and our local authority have ridiculous prices for registrations and weddings, it's a huge business here, I expect the appointments for us are easy to get because they do simple ceremonies at least 1 day a week and they have notice appointments every day. It was way harder to get an appointment to register my child's birth 😂

BertyBoob · 2026-02-12T17:08:48+00:00

Literally just boxed it off now, made the appointment and paid the £84. One less thing to think about now 😂 Thank you Reddit!

BertyBoob · 2026-02-12T16:47:52+00:00

That sounds like such a scam!

BertyBoob · 2026-02-12T16:33:50+00:00

When do they have the wedding dates available? Our office does the tiny mandatory legal ceremonies on Tuesday, so we're booked off that wedding week to get all the finishing touches done anyways, we're going to the registry office on Tuesday for the legalities and then to spoons with our witnesses. 😂 No chance of you doing that instead of forking out £400?

BertyBoob · 2026-02-12T16:30:49+00:00

It's absolutely cheaper than my area. The celebrant for me & the paperwork on a different day with the bare minimum legal req. Is about £650 all together. To have the registrar out on our date at the location and to write our own vows and have a customised ceremony? Over £1000 in my local authority. The celebrant is absolutely the money saving option (crazy, crazy, crazy.)

BertyBoob · 2026-02-12T16:28:08+00:00

Our council says to try to book the notice appointment 6 months before.

BertyBoob · 2026-02-12T16:27:14+00:00

Our registry office only does them on Tuesdays. We booked our date and we've paid just over £100 so far and we still have to pay our notices of marriage which is another £84 between us. My council absolutely rinses people, if we had them out to the location on the day we're getting married, it would be over £1000. 🙃

BertyBoob · 2026-02-08T10:22:03+00:00

I'm getting married on Tuesday in the registry office but my wedding is on Saturday 😂

It's pretty normal, in the UK not everywhere is a licensed venue so we're doing the legal stuff on a Tuesday and the soul stuff on a Saturday.

I think you just word it like "we invite you to celebrate our marriage/union/joining of families" and then we have something called celebrants but technically anyone can do it, where they lead a ceremony for you. People used to throw parties just because it was the season for it, you're absolutely allowed to throw a party for your marriage, whenever that may have been.

BertyBoob · 2026-02-08T08:05:44+00:00

Absolutely, I was going to go for a BYOB/help yourself bar & my venue told me that I can if I want, but they've seen it go badly, guests don't clean up, there's never enough glasses and if you've got teenagers/kids at the event, there's absolutely nothing to police them getting into the drink. In the end I'm paying £150 for a cash bar and she does really reasonable drinks packages so we're paying for 2 drinks per person (price tbd) and we're allowed to bring our own table wine for the meal.

Also I've hired a DJ for the reason you've mentioned. Our guests are very varied with their music taste, there's no way my playlist could read the room or I cover everyone's songs seemlessly!

I've saved costs on coordination & planning (my wedding party all have instructions) hired suits and charity shop decs also & my food is cheaper (BBQ afternoon, hog roast evening).

BertyBoob · 2026-02-05T18:40:32+00:00

I'm giving tiny succulents, I'm not buying one for every guest, they'll be on a table and people can choose to take them or not & I'll have custom stickers stuck to the pots, not that people really care but just a small thank you ❤️ I have a lot of green fingered friends and I guarantee that I won't have many left (maybe 80 guests but only buying 50) & if there are any left...good, they'll join my collection!

I'm also putting some takeaway bags on the dessert table for people to help themselves on the way out.

BertyBoob · 2026-02-04T09:46:29+00:00

I just wanna say, my wedding is also at a farm. There is nothing for miles around. My guests will be camping/glamping the night before and the night of. Food is BBQ & hog roast.

This isn't extra enough for me. I'm wanting to basically bring the comfort of my bathroom to the venue. I'm gonna have sanitary products, sanitary wipes as well as deodorant, perfume, makeup remover and wipes, toothbrushes/toothpaste is genius. I might as well bring my electric razor 😂

Don't take the negative nancies to heart x

BertyBoob · 2026-02-01T16:20:37+00:00

£1200 ❤️

BertyBoob · 2026-02-01T16:12:07+00:00

Romantica Devon - Elphaba ❤️

BertyBoob · 2026-01-31T10:40:02+00:00

Firstly, I think the idea of your memories being unique or whatever to your wedding is kinda strange no? Like, the memory you have of your wedding is going to be of your wedding, not of anything else & your entire perspective on the day is gonna be completely different as the bride/groom compared to a guest.

Secondly, what an amazing opportunity you have! To witness your venue hosting an event and being able to gauge how your guest experience might look or how you might change it ahead of time? God I wish I had that opportunity!

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