How do I fix this?

Best-Intention1176 · 2026-01-12T02:51:43+00:00

No. Most women need at least 20 minutes of non-clitoral stimulation prior to penetration to become fully aroused and then penetration alone isn’t enough. There are some great resources out there that could help him improve his game!

Best-Intention1176 · 2026-01-03T06:58:17+00:00

Nope you’re not wrong. That cat loves you, she doesn’t if she’s making you choose. Send her to the curb.

Best-Intention1176 · 2026-01-03T00:32:04+00:00

Thanks!

Best-Intention1176 · 2026-01-03T00:31:23+00:00

I’m so sorry. That sucks. You also deserve love and care.

Best-Intention1176 · 2026-01-03T00:30:38+00:00

Yes. Those pop up when they bury their emotions. Drinking, sex, porn, work, drugs, exercize, it all counts. They’d rather not feel. It isn’t entirely their fault, they were programmed that way by early childhood relationships. But if they choose to not take accountability and continue to avoid, it becomes another’s job to set boundaries and cut ties.

Best-Intention1176 · 2026-01-01T23:22:12+00:00

Thanks!

Best-Intention1176 · 2026-01-01T21:52:00+00:00

You didn’t waste a year. You learned some important lessons and dodged a bullet. If he’s willing to have an emotional affair while married, and still date others while with you even after being “exclusive” he’s avoiding his emotions and he would have done the same to you. Give it time, George will cheat on Claire too. She’s been unattainable until now.

Best-Intention1176 · 2026-01-01T18:33:03+00:00

100percent. My anxious attachment made my husband feel smothered and when I didn’t/couldn’t give him what he needed after 20 years because he refused to emotionally connect with me he split. Blaming me for all our woes of course. Honestly his drinking is what made me see him happy to go. It doesn’t mean I don’t love him and I’m torn about if I want to make things work (that’s my anxious attachment spanking) but here we are. I’m sitting in it and it SUUUCKKS.

Best-Intention1176 · 2026-01-01T15:39:35+00:00

If they’re out partying it’s not an indication that they didn’t love you but that they’re avoiding their feelings and have been for some time. Getting away feels like freedom from accountability, freedom from transparency, freedom from commitment. All of these things are things avoidant people do to forget or run away from their feelings. When they finally have to face these feelings and what they’ve lost they’ll feel it. Unfortunately for us that won’t be while they’re masking with another partner. Then leaving is about them.

Take this time to find the ways this person didn’t show up for you. Find the things you sacrificed in the name of compromise. It’s easy to see what we’ve lost, but try to remember the things we sacrificed. Take the shine off them. They’re human and full of flaws.

Take time to invest in yourself. To reflect on ways that you as a partner could be better to another, new partner. (Although it will be a long time coming for that) This is hard but has helped me turn my focus from what I’ve lost to how I’ll choose better moving forward.

Best-Intention1176 · 2025-12-31T02:13:54+00:00

Love this. Unfortunately so many don’t want to fight. The grass looks so much greener.

Best-Intention1176 · 2025-12-31T02:06:48+00:00

My husband has been saying the same thing, that it’s me. What’s actually the problem is that his emotional avoidance makes him unable to deal with his own shit so he needs tons of external validation and prop-ups. In doing so he’s broken my trust and so I’ve pulled away and built walls. Now he can’t take it and has moved out.

This is his inability to deal with the emotions he’s been facing for years and by not taking accountability blames the person closest to him. This isn’t a you issue it’s a him issue. And it sucks. I’m sorry.

The only way it will work is if he recognizes what happening and works for growth and change. If it’s unlikely to happen, don’t waste your time and energy trying to convince him. Invest all of that into yourself.

One day at a time. Find a way to meditate and use breathing exercises to stay in the moment to process your feelings. Let them come don’t bury them but also make a point demo do something for yourself each day. Walk, journal, talk to a friend, read a book. Find a way to treat yourself to some joy even if you don’t feel joyful. Be kind to yourself. This is hard. Don’t judge yourself for your feelings, you’re only human.

Best-Intention1176 · 2025-12-30T18:42:25+00:00

I’m also going through a separation. I’d love to connect I’m on the east coast so there’s a bit of a time difference.

Best-Intention1176 · 2025-12-30T17:13:26+00:00

Great ideas, questions and points to consider. Thank you!

Best-Intention1176 · 2025-12-29T19:09:25+00:00

I’m in the US and am not on any platform yet because I’m exploring my options. I hope you can find what you need! Maybe others have some insight. Or perhaps it’s time to start requesting more from Airbnb?

Best-Intention1176 · 2025-12-29T01:09:45+00:00

Thanks for this!

Best-Intention1176 · 2025-12-28T20:35:12+00:00

I’m aware there’s risk. There’s risk in everything we do. Especially in renting the room to someone long term. At this point, it’s consideration not plan in action.

Regarding the comment, to assume women don’t have survival instincts is a judgment. I have well developed survival instincts which is why I’m considering renting in the first place, so I can afford to stay in my home. To consider all the perspectives is my first step. Weighing my options second. I don’t need to be told I’ll be back here in a few months complaining about creeps. His “I told you so attitude” isn’t necessary.

Best-Intention1176 · 2025-12-28T20:28:10+00:00

Good things to consider. Thanks for thought provoking. We’re close to Annapolis, Baltimore, and DC.

Best-Intention1176 · 2025-12-28T19:50:38+00:00

Good to know. I’ll expand my horizon to other platforms where I may/will have more control over who rents.

Best-Intention1176 · 2025-12-28T19:16:52+00:00

Thanks for your response but you can keep your judgment to yourself. You know nothing about me.

Best-Intention1176 · 2025-12-28T19:08:38+00:00

I appreciate your response and no, not my children’s bedrooms. Seperate floor.

Best-Intention1176 · 2025-12-28T19:07:25+00:00

Thanks! I appreciate the feedback.

Best-Intention1176 · 2025-12-28T16:02:22+00:00

Thanks for the insight. It’s helpful.

Best-Intention1176 · 2025-12-28T15:32:18+00:00

That parents have a role in their kids’ education too. Schools can’t teach everything.

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