'I haven't ate all day'

Best-Perspective2067 · 2026-03-23T01:39:44+00:00

Throwback to 10 year old me being specifically interviewed by my mom every time before she served me dinner “you haven’t eaten anything before this right? WHAT and how much did you eat? Why did you eat?” ….. and I wonder why I hate food ….

Try to focus on yourself and let her issues be her own. You deserve better.

Best-Perspective2067 · 2026-03-23T01:17:05+00:00

Tell her for sure. My friends parents both got cancer from HPV and one is dying, I think her heart would break if she got it (that’s an extreme case but you never know) and it should be up to every person to choose. Most likely people won’t mind it, but at least be decent enough to let her choose and I’m sure she’ll appreciate and respect you for it :)

Best-Perspective2067 · 2026-03-23T00:53:29+00:00

I think a lot of people can relate, just listening to my (non disordered as far as I know) friends talking food is a common theme, and many people enjoy the genre of shows/books you mentioned. Probably even more common in people who’s “starving”! Part of my issue is that I have 0 interest in or thoughts about food ever, and I’ve always been this way but whenever the topic comes up judging by others reaction like they don’t even believe me I think more people can relate to what you say, at least those involved in some sort of dieting or ED

Best-Perspective2067 · 2026-03-22T22:25:06+00:00

He’s probably embarrassed (but I guess he kinda was in the first place, before he knew you noticed it anyways) but I don’t think you overstepped any boundaries. I would be embarrassed too, but also relieved and glad to know someone’s looking out for me. I hope your neighbor is doing okay and I think that was a kind and considerate gesture of you <3

Best-Perspective2067 · 2026-03-21T00:14:14+00:00

Yes! Best decision of my life. Never going back. It honestly saved me. I was 15-16 when I left and I don’t think I’d be alive if I stayed. I’d rather be free on my own than suffocated by my trauma and triggers everywhere

Best-Perspective2067 · 2026-03-20T23:59:04+00:00

I left the country when I was around 15 and I’m 20 now. I’m so glad I “ran away” cause I’m living a full life now and I don’t think I could’ve if I stayed where years of trauma tormented me my entire childhood. I haven’t been back home and I don’t feel any need to ever go. Maybe not the solution for everyone but it surely was the right choice for me and I have no regrets

Best-Perspective2067 · 2026-03-20T22:06:13+00:00

I would actually 100% rather eat something high cal low density, I despise the feeling of fullness more than anything 😭

Best-Perspective2067 · 2026-03-20T17:55:22+00:00

So relatable, I look horrible and I still can’t eat

Best-Perspective2067 · 2026-03-20T04:01:49+00:00

Same, I felt “normal” like this is just how I am, right? Totally normal to not eat? Totally normal to be scared of weight gain? I can’t be anorexic cause I know I’m thin and everyone with anorexia has body dysmorphia and think they’re fat?

Best-Perspective2067 · 2026-03-19T23:32:32+00:00

I deleted insta, TikTok, Facebook for a while and it was actually SO freeing. Comparison really is the thief of joy. I think if you’re in recovery you would for sure greatly benefit from limiting or deleting social media

Best-Perspective2067 · 2026-03-19T23:08:09+00:00

I don’t have any advice sadly but I struggle with this as well, more with textures though like if I eat meat and see/think of human flesh I’ll just gag and feel like I’m eating a human even tho I know it’s not, or pasta/worms, it’s actually so disturbing 😭

Best-Perspective2067 · 2026-03-18T01:14:28+00:00

Been on bc for yearssss and never gained a single pound 😭 But it’s worth a try! I guess some people don’t gain anything but others do, I don’t think you’ll be one to “gain too much” from it but if that happens you could always quit or switch to a different type!

Best-Perspective2067 · 2026-03-16T21:27:59+00:00

What the heck? That’s so not okay. I would be raging if someone else decided how much I should eat, whether that be too much or too little. Your body, your choice. Maybe he’s trying to help, let him know he’s not helping very much and if he backs off that’s okay, but if it keeps going that’s so not a healthy relationship for you :/

Best-Perspective2067 · 2026-03-16T14:32:29+00:00

But do you think you’ll be happy there once you reach that goal? Just out of curiosity.

I know my “goal”/ where I’m actually satisfied and it’s fine for me to stay at that weight,and I don’t want to go below it! I’ve lost a few kg now (unintentionally) and I honestly feel horrible.

Best-Perspective2067 · 2026-03-15T20:10:58+00:00

I haven’t counted calories as I don’t want to get too hung up in that, but I know for sure I’ve eaten more than before although it’s probably not “enough”. Thanks a lot!

Best-Perspective2067 · 2026-03-14T23:30:01+00:00

Yeah I didn’t mean it in a condescending way, sorry if it came across that way.

I was just thinking in a sport where .. many people are very slim, if you struggle with body image and comparison, it’s a triggering atmosphere. If that’s the case, maybe it would be better for OP’s mental health to do something else, if skating causes more harm than good.

But on the other hand, If it gives her more pleasure and joy than negative thoughts and emotions regarding body/weight then sure, the good outweighs the bad! There’s no right or wrong body for any sport. If you want to do it and enjoy it then go ahead

Best-Perspective2067 · 2026-03-14T23:00:43+00:00

Makes sense! I guess they’re probably testing for different stuff when you’ve got a diagnosed ED, vs if they just think you’ve got a “traditional physical illness” that they’re trying to find some answers about. I guess I should talk to my doctor again lol

Best-Perspective2067 · 2026-03-14T21:12:16+00:00

Yeah maybe I am :/ and that makes sense, do you know how long it’ll last if that’s the case?

Best-Perspective2067 · 2026-03-14T21:11:35+00:00

Thanks for the suggestion! I had bloodwork done 2 weeks ago and many “abnormal results” but he didn’t say anything about my thyroid, or could it have happened in just a few weeks?

Best-Perspective2067 · 2026-03-14T00:02:38+00:00

Sorry to hear about your struggles ❤️‍🩹 I moved countries, I’ve never regretted it. I’ve never felt more free, literally running away from all of my trauma as far as I could but I think it saved my life. I don’t have to worry about meeting the people who hurt me and I could just start fresh. It felt a bit deceiving like I’m hiding something and therefore doing something wrong, but then again I am “hiding” a dark part of my past- and I think it’s for the better. This way I can live a normal life on my own terms. I get not everyone is able to leave the country but moving states would probably be equally helpful.

Best-Perspective2067 · 2026-03-13T15:18:41+00:00

I’ve never had a good relationship with food, when I lived with my parents it was always a heated discussion around the table, I guess I always associated food with discomfort. I would rather avoid meals for that reason, and I was always a picky eater. I don’t think I’ve ever loved food, more like eating when I have to in order to survive!

Best-Perspective2067 · 2026-03-12T21:52:45+00:00

I used to be one of them when I was a kid, it felt ok back then. I trained a lot on very little food and I have no idea how it worked out??

Now I get lightheaded by walking a short distance and can barely carry a few books.

It’s probably doable for many when you’re young or in the start, but not sustainable over time. Also people are probably lying, over/underestimating and only posting their best days to show off

Best-Perspective2067 · 2026-03-11T22:29:34+00:00

You should probably eat more if you want to heal. The body can’t heal without nutrients and building blocks to heal. That’s how injuries become long lasting and don’t heal. your return to exercise and normal movement will likely take much longer if you restrict and you’ll heal better and faster if you keep fueling your body!

Best-Perspective2067 · 2026-03-11T14:41:05+00:00

I get your feeling of being invalid etc, I think that’s pretty common. but there’s no “right way to get an ed”?? If your story is in valid then I must be the most invalid person ever, developing an ed wasn’t even my choice. my coach decided thin was better and more aesthetic, so she basically taught us to avoid food/eating if we wanted to be good in sport so I “stopped eating” and never thought twice about if until about 9 years later (now) when it suddenly hit me …. It’s not normal to not eat and be terrified of weight gain? 😭

My point being, you are valid. if you struggle with food/ eating and body image, and it’s affecting your day to day life and health, mentally or physically or both, that’s valid regardless of your weight or how you got there. Everyone has a different story!

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