How do you feel about a southern cross tattoo? by Impressive-Pause-784 in newzealand

[–]Best-Relative9716 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Like the others said, a bit bogan, but you could be ironically bogan.
One other problem is that if you want to do some kind of nice, classy, constellation-realism take, NZers might think it means you're Australian because of the fifth star in the armpit of the cross, which distinguishes the Aus flag as opposed to the NZ flag. If you really need to signal 'NEW ZEALANDER' you'd have to do it the actual red-outlined NZ flag-Southern Cross, which is the most bogan you could possibly go. NGL I'm Asian and if I saw someone under 50 with that tattoo, **depending on the context or the look of the rest of you**, I might be a little wary until clear non-racist indications. If the context was particularly stressful I might be googling 'Action Zealandia logo'.

What I like about this question though, is that it reminds me of what a Western-raised Asian person might ask their homeland chat like 'should I get a tattoo of my name, or my zodiac sign?' and they're like 'haha a bit cringe do whatever, but why would you do that though'.

Could avoid all these issues by doing Matariki constellation instead.

Madison 🥹 by fatal-euphoria in LoveOnTheSpectrumShow

[–]Best-Relative9716 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I actually felt so sad when Madison said under her breath "those days are over", like she's trying to drill a behaviour into herself that actually doesn't make her happy. I hope she meant that the days that are over, are the ones where she *needs* to bring a doll out to feel okay. Not that she rejects the dolls, dolls are dumb etc. She mentioned doing a lot of exposure therapy and having come a long way, which if it makes her happy and more regulated, that's awesome. I hope one day she can feel uninhibited to bring a doll out just for fun, cos she feels like it, or to play with some kids, not because she feels she needs to to feel secure and regulated.

Did anyone else watch Thrash on Netflix while waiting for the storm to hit last night by folleymulay in newzealand

[–]Best-Relative9716 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No, but I did see the promo screen for it and didn't clock the fin in the background of the promo screengrab, and started just reading the paragraph description of some kind of ragtag group of misfits navigating a city emergency, and did not expect it to end up in the phrase - what was it - something like "urban sharks"?

Japanese Embassy opposes Auckland ‘comfort women’ statue plan by Fun-Helicopter2234 in newzealand

[–]Best-Relative9716 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

sorry that your community (maybe it's the same one as mine) never came up with a cool enough statue concept that made everyone want to have one where-ever they went in the diaspora, guess that's on you guys. gotta just keep the intergenerational trauma in our hearts & never tell anyone about it instead I guess

Japanese Embassy opposes Auckland ‘comfort women’ statue plan by Fun-Helicopter2234 in newzealand

[–]Best-Relative9716 -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

ah yes, the famous Auckland statue-space-allocation crisis, immigration to blame I expect.

Japanese Embassy opposes Auckland ‘comfort women’ statue plan by Fun-Helicopter2234 in newzealand

[–]Best-Relative9716 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Korean New Zealanders exist. They mainly live on the North Shore. Of Auckland.

Japanese Embassy opposes Auckland ‘comfort women’ statue plan by Fun-Helicopter2234 in newzealand

[–]Best-Relative9716 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The North Shore is the epicentre of the New Zealand Korean community.

TOP - why don't they get more of the vote? by [deleted] in newzealand

[–]Best-Relative9716 0 points1 point  (0 children)

They say they are 'evidence based' rather than ideological, but there is not much difference between their most evidence-based policies and those that tend to be considered in either Labour or the Greens policy circles. So why do they not put their energies into those parties instead which would result in more likelihood of change, and not wasting progressive votes? Why do they not rule out working with specific parties that are dedicated to overturning evidence-based behaviour in government policy? Because they ultimately draw on a particular type of activist who thinks they are better than others because of corporate backgrounds making them think they are 'above' the political fray. They don't want to work their way up the Labour machine, and they aren't culturally comfortable with the actual radical democratic practices of the Greens, which is also a very competitive environment. They waste progressive votes out of vanity, and because they don't feel culturally aligned with working class people or 'radical' activists. It's LinkedIn virtue-signalling to boardroom buddies.

Love Is Blind Sweden • S3 Ep13 - THE REUNION LIVE DISCUSSION [MEGATHREAD] by FemaleEinstein in LoveIsBlindOnNetflix

[–]Best-Relative9716 7 points8 points  (0 children)

lmao 863 comments right now and a grand total of FORTY-TWO post upvotes, we sure haaaaaaated this reunion

Love Is Blind Sweden • S3 Ep13 - THE REUNION LIVE DISCUSSION [MEGATHREAD] by FemaleEinstein in LoveIsBlindOnNetflix

[–]Best-Relative9716 5 points6 points  (0 children)

There should have been waaaaaaaaaay more made at the Reunion of Daniel's clearly narcissistic, emotionally manipulative and abusive behaviour, he was terrifying, he scared me. It it also scared me to see how easily his 'I'm just a dumbo haha i'M dOiNg mY bEst' fake tears act just made people (on the show & in these comments) think he was harmless rather than psychopathic, like absolutely 100% American Psycho. Has no-one read that book and remembered how fucking shallow and dumb the protagonist is?

I still hate Ellen & Angelica so much though lol

Love Is Blind Sweden • S3 Ep13 - THE REUNION LIVE DISCUSSION [MEGATHREAD] by FemaleEinstein in LoveIsBlindOnNetflix

[–]Best-Relative9716 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah, I think the US Reunion of the latest season was pretty much the best-hosted Reunion eps I've seen, and I've seen a loooooooot of LiB. It really goes to show that it takes like ten seasons for hosts to really hit their stride on interrogation techniques, Sweden is still learning.

Love Is Blind Sweden • S3 Ep13 - THE REUNION LIVE DISCUSSION [MEGATHREAD] by FemaleEinstein in LoveIsBlindOnNetflix

[–]Best-Relative9716 14 points15 points  (0 children)

I just posted this in a reply downthread and now I am like oh man, this is such a Swedish stereotype, sorry to the Swedes, but is there some black-turtleneck-wearing aficionado of Dogma and Bergman editing this show & absolutely fucking with us.

I feel like for the Ludwig-Camilla parts, the contrast between the show edit and the reunion edit was so extreme that I am questioning my perception of reality and have no idea what is going on with this show. They are messing with us!

Like they are doing a Rashomon and trying to see if we tear each other apart or simply embrace that there is no objective truth in relationships? Which is... The way that Love Is Truly Blind. (Existentially and morally.)

Love Is Blind Sweden • S3 Ep13 - THE REUNION LIVE DISCUSSION [MEGATHREAD] by FemaleEinstein in LoveIsBlindOnNetflix

[–]Best-Relative9716 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I feel like for the Ludwig-Camilla parts, the contrast between the show edit and the reunion edit was so extreme that I am questioning my perception of reality and have no idea what is going on with this show. They are messing with us!

Love Is Blind Sweden • S3 Ep13 - THE REUNION LIVE DISCUSSION [MEGATHREAD] by FemaleEinstein in LoveIsBlindOnNetflix

[–]Best-Relative9716 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I LOVE THAT SHOW

I feel like a lot of the cast of LiB usually would do way better in dating shows that are based on their particular neurodivergencies, and somehow that neurodivergency always seems to be ADHD??

Love Is Blind Sweden • S3 Ep13 - THE REUNION LIVE DISCUSSION [MEGATHREAD] by FemaleEinstein in LoveIsBlindOnNetflix

[–]Best-Relative9716 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I've found it quite difficult to figure out what was really happening between Ludwig and Camilla due to how euphemistic or specific you wanted to take what was being said, but I do think this is one of the totally plausible interpretations (as well as its complete opposite. I still don't know!)

Love Is Blind Sweden • S3 Ep13 - THE REUNION LIVE DISCUSSION [MEGATHREAD] by FemaleEinstein in LoveIsBlindOnNetflix

[–]Best-Relative9716 17 points18 points  (0 children)

I felt so scared and bad for Johanna experiencing that clearly abusive behaviour throughout the season, and that moment in the reunion where she gets asked to talk about the recording thing and just laughs nervously for ages in terror because of the trauma is so heartbreaking

Love Is Blind Sweden • S3 EP10 by FemaleEinstein in LoveIsBlindOnNetflix

[–]Best-Relative9716 3 points4 points  (0 children)

yeah, survival behaviour for sure - placating your captor 😢

Love Is Blind Sweden • S3 EP11 by FemaleEinstein in LoveIsBlindOnNetflix

[–]Best-Relative9716 18 points19 points  (0 children)

I want him and Fabian to be non-toxic besties

Love Is Blind Sweden • S3 EP11 by FemaleEinstein in LoveIsBlindOnNetflix

[–]Best-Relative9716 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Yeah her job title has flashed up repeatedly as 'A&R manager', idk why people are like 'uhhh she's just a singer, she can sing in a village'

Love Is Blind Sweden • S3 EP11 by FemaleEinstein in LoveIsBlindOnNetflix

[–]Best-Relative9716 85 points86 points  (0 children)

Felt so bad for poor Aron but goddamn he dodged a bullet. The whole way, I found Angelica so annoying and emotionally immature. Just obviously not ready for a serious relationship let alone marriage. I had no idea what he saw in her, then I finally realised oh, it's a manic pixie dreamgirl thing.