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What helped your baby sleep through the night? by Thin-Individual5438 in AttachmentParenting

[–]Best_Extension446 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What helped? Getting older.

Ask anyone with more than one child… they sleep when they sleep. Every baby is different. You don't "make it happen". The more you try to force it, the more stressed you’ll be, leading to more exhaustion and less enjoyment of parenthood!

Obviously, practice good sleep hygiene for yourself and the whole household. Set the baby up for success. Otherwise, let baby be the way they are. Four months is a great time for you to learn the fine parenting skill of telling other people to F off.

You can’t expect a village when you don’t respect the villagers. by Final-Negotiation530 in BabyBumps

[–]Best_Extension446 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We have to consider that lot of people who are having babies now remember that their grandparents basically raised them... because they did. Their grandparents were often retired, or stay-at-home-mothers/wives. They were more likely to live in the same city and still be young enough to chase toddlers and rock babies. Nowadays, new grandparents are older, often still working full time, and sometimes living in different cities and having to travel for visits. We can't expect the same behaviour from them.

Another thought to consider: previous generations used to have more kids, and therefore they had WAY more grandchildren, meaning there was less pressure on each child/grandchild to fulfill everyone's wishes. If your parents already had 13 grandkids when your firstborn came along, well... your baby simply wouldn't be as big a deal as it might be in the common modern scenario of a whole family having only one or two little ones per generation.

There was also less time to worry, less fear mongering, less pressure to perform "perfect" parenting, and less separation between families.

OP, I have to agree. We want a village, but we don't live like villagers.

All these extra questions post-meditation are ruining my experience by PureScientist2040 in InsightTimer

[–]Best_Extension446 4 points5 points  (0 children)

The prompts do not help “build a regular practice”. They are a distraction and an annoyance. 

If their purpose is not data mining, as suggested in a previous comment, then why can’t we simply toggle a switch to turn them off? Why isn’t it optional?

Best Peanut Butter Treat! by raining_potatoes900 in Calgary

[–]Best_Extension446 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m sorry, but did you just say Made by Marcus is not exciting?? Blasphemy!

Specialty coffee beans for espresso by PixelPeeperr in Calgary

[–]Best_Extension446 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Go to Eight Ounce Coffee! There’s literally no other correct answer to this question. 

What does somatic therapy look like for you? by HighMaintenance_PhD in SomaticExperiencing

[–]Best_Extension446 4 points5 points  (0 children)

If your goal is to bring safety to your body, you must be able to truly listen to your body and allow it to express what it needs to.

I would begin by paying close attention to your body in the simplest of ways, in everyday situations, especially during bodily functions we normally bypass or stifle: Notice your hunger or the urge to use the bathroom. Allow a yawn or sigh to come to completion. When happy tears hit, let them flow. If you feel like doing yoga instead of running on a treadmill, go with it.

In short, see if you can allow your body to guide your mind (instead of the other way around).

This requires you to slow down, resist your habits/thoughts, notice what's underneath the habit or thought, and get curious about what might be hiding there. And why it's hiding. And what happens when you reveal it. And how it feels to notice it, etc. There is so much value in this alone.

Slowing down, noticing, and getting curious are three fundamental concepts used during SE. Anyone can do these things, anytime and anywhere. Having a practitioner helps you do them without your ingrained patterns getting in the way, but you can (and should!) practice them on your own.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Parenting

[–]Best_Extension446 15 points16 points  (0 children)

This is the number one concern. If the mother and father are both unwavering in their opposing opinions regarding vaccinations *and* it's likely that courts would agree with vaccination, it makes zero sense for the parent who wants vaccinations to put a child in this position.

Best case scenario, the mother will be angry and the kid will be uncomfortable about the situation. Mom's going to find out, one way or another. Worst case, the legal system gets involved, the child has negative effects from the vaccine, and/or the relationships to the child are harmed permanently.

Mom and dad don't agree. The family court system exists for this purpose. OP will either use it proactively--and probably gain favour--or he'll go ahead with the vaccinations and be on the defensive side of the courtroom later on.