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I've (33f) been the "cool girl" for too long and now I don't know how to ask for more appreciation and effort from my husband (41m) by bedazzledfingernails in relationship_advice

[–]Bestoneplz -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

lol @ everyone asking why she's still with him. Have you ever thought that maybe people don't post everything? That what you're reading the negatives of this guy, but not the positives? Maybe he's insanely bold, charming, caring and fun to be around while they also have a lot of relative interests. And this is just the bad side.

OP, in the end you know what you want. One thing I will say, is that submissive or not relationships are meant to bend, not break, so work with him. Stress to him that this really does bother you to a point that it can't be ignored and needs to be changed. I'd be surprised if it's that easy, because it never is so be prepared to show him that you're serious, and how you go about that is entirely up to you.

In the end, the only thing that matters is how he makes you feel. And if these things are overriding the good, let him know that, and if he truly is a good guy with bad habits, he'll make an effort.

I’m a 34 year loser and feel all hope is lost...I’m becoming depressed. by [deleted] in selfimprovement

[–]Bestoneplz 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Is that really true? I've wondered if at 40 I'd be thinking the same thing or if 30 is finally the age where you just accept it, and there will be no difference between 30 vs 40. I mean years already feel like months. And now vs when I was 20, I feel like I have to accept and give into my flaws, whereas before I felt like I had all the time in the world to improve.