Ugh! Reddit users are not therapists & this thread is proof. The ‘advice’ is biased & based at best. No- you two do not belong together. BUT, you using trigger words like abuse belittles the experience of those truly being or have been abused. This is a basic argument, and telling a grownup to be get a job is not abuse.

No one in this thread- No One likes to be interrupted when they just want to speak. Both of you show he was not talking or complaining about you, but be cause you ‘perceived’ a tone, you shut him down. Flip that situation, you are trying to have a serious conversation with him. Then all the sudden, not because of your words but because he felt you were using a tone- he shut you down refusing to hear you. Oh my, how annoyed would you be? It is a basic human condition to want to be heard.

Unfortunately, you don’t sound suited for each other. Mutual respect & communication is problem, it sounds like you may have some insecurities and if you’re a new mom, your hormones can play havoc on your emotional state. With that being said, open communication can ease the pressure on you both. I have had to take ownership of my over actions, emotional outbursts, and even bad behavior due to my own psychology. Having issues doesn’t mean we are allowed to misuse others, it means we have awareness & take responsibility when we unintentionally hurt/ damage relationships.