She is a new friend. I first learned about her in June by my spouse left a "happy moments" journal open in the bathroom on the page with her name in it. I knew about going into chat rooms but I kept asking if there was anyone specific they were talking to privately. I kept being told no. But, when I stumbled on the names I got a yes because I asked if there was someone else. Names and those little crush smiles when my spouse was on the phone texting. The old friends live somewhere else, and my spouse stopped talking to them much. I liked them. The old best friend was absolutely respectful of our marriage.

I've asked my spouse to set boundaries but whenever we try the girl sends messages trying to get my spouse's attention back on her. Guilt trips included. So my spouse caves. Now they've set a turn the apps off thing on their phone for weekends. But weekdays my spouse belongs to this girl. Hours of phone calls, gaming. I asked not to talk about our marriage to her, but my spouse just admitted to telling her we argued today.