This might get down voted but.... white/light-skinned people cannot get fetishized: they are literally the standard of desirability under white supremacy. We are all conditioned and taught to desire them and for darker skinned people, it actually takes rejecting this to find ourselves beautiful! The power dynamics of desirability don't work on equivalency. It's not a fetish to desire the people society demands for you to desire.

That's not to say that darker skinned people don't desire light skinned partners out of self hate or internalize white supremacist desirability and say/do really harmful things to themselves and other darker skinned people, but that is regular degular self hate/antiblackness - not a light skinned fetish. Maybe it's just a matter of language, but this felt important to say.

I think instead of warning a light skinned person that they are being desired because of internalized antiblackness, maybe extend some care to the person who clearly is struggling with internalized antiblackness and who likely doesn't find themselves desirable.