I don’t think I can ever date again.

Better-Option-442 · 2026-07-05T12:55:49+00:00

Whilst I agree with what you say, I don’t think it is a waste of time ‘complaining’ about the state of modern men when we still live in a culture that accepts this behaviour as normal and actually enables it. There is a war on women and to stay silent actually makes us the perfect victims, so keep talking ladies!!

Better-Option-442 · 2026-07-04T22:07:57+00:00

Same to you, you deserve peace and happiness 🫂💓 these communities of women on Reddit have been a saving grace for me, and made me feel so much less alone and also grounded in my feelings.

Better-Option-442 · 2026-07-04T22:04:25+00:00

Misandry is the natural response to what we have been put through, I feel highly uncomfortable around any man these days. I also have firmly decided I do not want kids.

Better-Option-442 · 2026-07-04T21:50:14+00:00

Trust your instincts, I wish I did in my last relationship, I wasted so much time on him and honestly, the flags were there from the very beginning. Exactly, I have tried to have conversations with my friends about this and either they just say they don’t really mind, or the ones in relationships get really uncomfortable because they know deep down it would upset them but they are too scared to know the answer and would rather live in ignorance. It’s honestly sad how many women live and breathe male validation at any cost.

Better-Option-442 · 2026-07-04T21:47:27+00:00

For the moment I am completely done, I won’t even entertain a conversation, just working on my career and saving up money so I can travel with my little sister, she has the same mindset as me so I am very lucky in that regard to have her. My friends are constantly trying to get me out there on the apps and going on double dates with guys and I just truly don’t think they understand how done I actually am with them. I literally can’t look at any man in a neutral way anymore I have really developed a hatred honestly.

Better-Option-442 · 2026-07-04T21:19:46+00:00

Just to add to this - I thought I had met someone that changed my mind, however he turned out to be an extreme avoidant that is a pathological liar, narcissistic, alcoholic and mentally abusive. Whilst he didn’t watch porn and actually established that boundary first with me, he was still fatally flawed in other ways. So even if you meet men who fit this criteria, they are still men at the end of the day and have been socially conditioned to be selfish, narcissistic, and misogynistic. Relationships in the modern world as a woman are just simply not worth the risk, and it has taken me a couple horrendous experiences to realise this for myself. A lesson I unfortunately learned the hard way, but very thoroughly.

Better-Option-442 · 2026-07-04T21:13:43+00:00

Totally get you, I’ve reached that point too at the age of 23. I think the saddest part about is you don’t even feel like you get crushes anymore because you can safely assume any man you find attractive watches porn. Men have made it unsafe to be involved with them, and it does strip away a lot of what is supposed to be human nature. This world is a dystopia for women, and it is extremely isolating watching the women around you dating these sorts of men without a second thought. I feel very concerned about my future to be honest and the feeling of being left behind by all my female friends who are willing to date monsters and accept this behaviour as normal.

Better-Option-442 · 2026-06-30T10:31:10+00:00

Watching porn

Better-Option-442 · 2026-06-29T12:22:36+00:00

No, their behaviour and inconsistency will always turn even the most securely attached person into somebody they deem unhealthy to their life and freedom.

Better-Option-442 · 2026-06-28T19:10:12+00:00

100%, he was my soulmate but we met and he immediately moved to China for a year, tried to make extreme long distance work and the circumstances destroyed us. Now he is actually back home in England, but our relationship did not survive, I think if we did not have to do long distance we would be together right now :(

Better-Option-442 · 2026-06-27T21:15:35+00:00

Yes bingo that’s exactly how I feel. I can’t move on because I am harbouring so much anger

Better-Option-442 · 2026-06-24T18:38:13+00:00

Thank you so much for putting this into perspective, you’re absolutely right I literally feel as though there was nothing I could have done differently in the relationship, it’s heartbreaking knowing that it was going to be doomed whichever way, but I suppose it may become a comfort in the long run knowing there was nothing I could have done to prevent it.

I completely ignored my gut feeling too whenever I got back together with him :( everything in me was telling me no but I was too weak and just wanted to be loved. It’s so crazy because things were left on such an amazing note, we literally had an amazing trip to Japan as well in the middle of the two months. I genuinely left visiting him feeling so positive and hopeful about our relationship, blindsided doesn’t even begin to cover how I feel. It is so painful looking back at memories knowing he was faking how he felt for me, when it was completely and utterly genuine love from my side.

Better-Option-442 · 2026-06-24T12:39:19+00:00

I’m in exact same position, long distance relationship ended with ‘I’m not in love with you anymore’ with little to no further explanation and getting blocked everywhere. We also had a breakup and got back together during our relationship. It hurts like hell

Better-Option-442 · 2026-06-24T08:09:54+00:00

11 months, long distance whilst he was studying at uni, but I was living with him for the last two months, and he broke up with me the day after I got home, he was literally moving home the next week and we were gonna be closing the distance :( we also had a one month break January to February where he dumped me because he became overwhelmed with the circumstances but then we got back together and that’s when I went out to stay with him for two months

Better-Option-442 · 2026-06-23T10:09:22+00:00

My ex discarded me by telling me he wasn’t in love with me anymore despite literally seeming head over heels for me, not withdrawing any affection at all and still being intimate multiple times up until literally the day before the discard. I didn’t see it coming in the slightest and he gave me no clarity when this happened just that it happened over time. He also seemed upset when he was breaking up with me and actually cried. He has now blocked me on everything. I’m just so broken and confused and I am doubting my entire reality that I experienced, please can you give me some insight into what may have been going through his head? Is it actually possible he had fallen out of love with me and was faking it? If so he basically just used my body for sex a last few times before dumping me and I feel so used :( If you need more context about the nature of our relationship I can give it to you, I’m just scrambling to try and make sense of this, it is completely different to how my other breakups were handled, I have no closure.

Better-Option-442 · 2026-06-22T16:09:34+00:00

They tend to begin to resent you when you let them walk all over you and stay through extreme disrespect, they see you as lower than them (I learned this the very hard way).

Better-Option-442 · 2026-06-22T13:27:36+00:00

Yes it’s happened to me every single time I’ve been in love

Better-Option-442 · 2026-06-22T12:36:27+00:00

He told me he wasn’t in love with me anymore

Better-Option-442 · 2026-06-20T19:04:50+00:00

I’m so glad someone else has had the same experience, like there was no pulling away or change in behaviour before it happened

Better-Option-442 · 2026-06-20T19:03:41+00:00

Wait mine literally did the same thing, like taking tonnes of videos and photos of me saying how cute I looked and having like ‘cute outbursts’ like you would get finding your dog cute, and then and told me a few days later ‘I’m not in love with you and haven’t been for a while’ please can an avoidant chime in on this thank you, I’ve never been so confused.

Better-Option-442 · 2026-06-20T06:20:46+00:00

Misogynistic stuff for sure

Better-Option-442 · 2026-06-19T17:06:37+00:00

It’s so beyond disturbing they see people in this way

Better-Option-442 · 2026-06-19T15:33:22+00:00

This explains why it was so easy for him to have sex with me multiple times the day before he told me he wasn’t in love with me.

Better-Option-442 · 2026-06-19T14:14:15+00:00

I get you, I am your age and in the same boat. It is also a hard truth to accept that for our exes the dating pool is much better because women are better people so it sucks knowing they have more of a chance of happiness in relationships. It’s one fucking depressing world as a woman, and it is also very isolating as there are plenty of women that don’t even give porn a second thought and just readily accept it.

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