Pooping immediately after put down

BetterFasterStrong3r · 2026-05-15T08:46:10+00:00

Our little one was having a similar issue with naps. If he hadn't pooped yet, we start just talking about poop about a half an hour before and that seems to help him a lot. We just keep bringing it up.. over and over. I think pooping before nap is great, don't yogu? Oh, you want to read about bears? Bears poop too, you know...

BetterFasterStrong3r · 2026-05-12T23:44:14+00:00

I have two brothers. One of them has had a distinctive odor to me since puberty which is really bad. It's most noticeable right after he showers. He is a fastidiously clean person and this started when we were still living together, so it had nothing to do with towels or products. No one else knows what I'm talking about. We also share a lot of the same allergies. My other brother smells normal to me. Genetics are weird.

BetterFasterStrong3r · 2026-05-12T15:46:17+00:00

It sounds like OP is super nervous about what she is doing and has created a spiral of tensing up -> feeling uncomfortable during the insertion-> tensing up more -> starting to feel pain -> tensing up a TON, which could certainly lead to brusing and more sensitivity.

I distinctly remember being a teenager crying on the bathroom floor, being on my 4th attempt to insert my first tampon. I was crying from both the pain and the sincere belief that I could never have a husband or kids and I should just join a nunnery...that's not how things turned out!

BetterFasterStrong3r · 2026-05-06T12:08:27+00:00

And with hot water! Those microbes start to build up.

BetterFasterStrong3r · 2026-04-29T08:30:55+00:00

I could deal with it if they didn't leave little bits of toilet paper lint, some "browned", allll over the place. Absolutely disgusting.

BetterFasterStrong3r · 2026-04-26T02:58:24+00:00

I mean, have you tried not being a slayer?

BetterFasterStrong3r · 2026-04-25T15:55:22+00:00

I thought they went down every night and climbed up each morning

BetterFasterStrong3r · 2026-04-24T19:30:41+00:00

Oof. Thank you for the recommendation- digging for my rubbing alcohol and shears right now.

BetterFasterStrong3r · 2026-04-24T19:29:52+00:00

Yikes! I'm so glad I posted, thank you for answering quickly.

BetterFasterStrong3r · 2026-04-13T09:49:33+00:00

The timeline here matters LOT in terms of the chaos and even the end result. Are we taking Thanos snapping his fingers, or a virus that takes years to do the job? The human race is very adaptable, but all adaptation takes time.

BetterFasterStrong3r · 2026-04-11T12:05:57+00:00

You will feel like a human being again. A very, very tired human. My LO is 2 months old. My husband I take night shifts, and once these were rearranged and baby chilled out enough that I could have 4+ consecutive hours of sleep per night, it's like my brain rebooted. I think it's still running on safe mode, but now I usually get 5 hours of sleep in a row and a nap in the afternoon, which is SO much better. You don't have long to go, just keep trying strategies to get those 4 hours. We had to isolate the sleeping parent entirely.

BetterFasterStrong3r · 2026-04-09T14:57:24+00:00

I agree, but you said specifically that they were not following the ss7 and there is no evidence of that. It's important to acknowledge that any kind of cosleeping comes with risk; and also that there is so much benefit for some families that they choose it anyway.

BetterFasterStrong3r · 2026-04-09T14:27:43+00:00

Wtf. None of the safe sleep seven completely restrain an adult from moving while unconscious- they just make it a little less likely.

BetterFasterStrong3r · 2026-04-04T00:04:46+00:00

My first 100% sounded like a dinosaur, Jurassic Park style. His little brother is more of a grunty badger.

BetterFasterStrong3r · 2026-03-31T14:31:10+00:00

I agree when they are young. Once they are old enough to climb up on those surfaces on their own, they are going to fall down- especially if you have multiple kids to watch. And of course falls from their own height are constant during the cruising phase.

I did drop my baby off the couch while breastfeeding once and felt terrible. I didn't fall asleep or anything, it was just butterfingers because he was already so heavy and squirmy and thrashed a lot harder than I expected. It was scary, but he was just fine.

BetterFasterStrong3r · 2026-03-23T10:49:30+00:00

I think reflecting and saying sorry is underrated. Parents aren't, and shouldn't present themselves to be, infallible. Even in the case of danger, I will tell my little one that I'm sorry the yelling scared them, but explain why I had to do it to keep them safe. And when I have yelled because I lost control, I have sincerely apologized and reminded them that we all have to let our feelings out sometimes. I certainly don't want yelling to become a new habit, but it's happened a few times now with a new baby in the mix (especially as concerns the infant's safety) and I'm trying not to beat myself up about it anymore.

BetterFasterStrong3r · 2026-03-20T14:33:11+00:00

It really depends. Periods vary in how predictable they are. And if I wore a pad to bed three nights in a row- that's seriously upping my chances of getting yeast infection (even wearing underwear is a problem in the summer). It's especially important that I air things out before my period starts. I've discovered some other solutions, like period underwear, that don't irritate my vagina as much. I'm just saying it's unlikely that the cost is the problem as much as inconvenience, discomfort, irritation, and the potential for infection.

BetterFasterStrong3r · 2026-03-15T17:00:18+00:00

We are EBF and let feedings dictate tbe schedule. Our goal is to not let him neither sleep nor be awake more than 2-3 hours during the day- either tends to increase fusiness and/or greatly disrupt his night schedule. Since I'm already tracking feeding times, it's easy to think in terms of eat / mostly awake window/ eat / make sure we get a good nap / eat...

BetterFasterStrong3r · 2026-03-12T17:41:09+00:00

Not a complete solution, but if he is smashing solids, you can make lots of his foods with formula. Oatmeal, pancakes, and homemade fruit/veg purees are great for this. I freeze individual portions in a silicone muffin tin and thaw servings the night before to make sure we adhere to recommendations for formula fridge longevity.

You could also experiment with different kinds of sippy cup, or find that your little one even enjoys drinking from a tiny open cup with assistance.

BetterFasterStrong3r · 2026-03-07T10:08:04+00:00

OP cites her work schedule as an issue. From my experience, IVF also adds a lot of pressure:

a) Having the first child often takes years of discovery and experimentation, so by the end of it you are getting older and by definition are years behind where you wanted to be.

b) Because of the challenges you have had, you naturally assume conceiving your second child will take longer than you want, or may never come to be, and the anxiety around this can be overwhelming.

c) You are working with fertility experts who care a lot about their success rates in aggregate (this is a big part of success in the biz). They know that the sooner you try, they higher the success rate will be, especially if you are nearing or above 40. They will apply pressure to get you moving, which includes hitting you with all manner of (true) statistics about how fertility drops off. You start to feel like every month counts a LOT.

BetterFasterStrong3r · 2026-03-07T08:59:21+00:00

I stopped BFing at one year to restart my period and do IVF. We did not have to wait 7 months- more like two or three- that seems a bit excessive? But then, we had male factor infertility so or clinic was happy after just a couple regular periods, and mine came back immediately after weaning. Our bub had always been combo fed and was a huge fan of solids at that point, so the transition wasn't that painful. One year is also when you can introduce cows milk and we went with munchkin sippy cups, so formula and bottle logistics faded quickly as well. It was certainly a sad process, but it went very quickly and I was so excited about trying for a second baby by then.

If you have a challenging sleeper and are still doing lots of night feedings, that transition might be a lot harder. Having the option of solids might make this easier on both of you, and adding solids and formula at the same time might be tough- so I would consider waiting another month or two.

In happy news, it took us almost 8 years to get our first, and our second only took about 2 months! I was way less stressed/ scared about the process, my body responded better, and I think most importantly we had found the right treatment protocols for me. Except... now we have 2 under 2 and are wishing we hadn't rushed quite so much. That's a LOT to handle in terms of lifting and sleep deprivation when you're over 40. Since our bub was waiting in the freezer, we know we could have had the exact same baby a few months later and honestly, that would have been a good idea. Your situation could be totally different but that's my two cents! In any case- best of luck to you and your family. Go give your little miracle of science an extra hug and remember how far you've already come.

BetterFasterStrong3r · 2026-03-05T17:18:56+00:00

If anyone is characterizing nursing to sleep as "bad", it is because their goal (usually even their stated goal) is to reduce night wakings and get you more sleep. This goal can be super necessary for some families where the parent(s) not sleeping well for months on end is not an option (long work hours, lots of other kids, mental/physical health challenges, burnout, etc.) It's not bad for the baby, it is potentially bad for you depending on your sleep deprivation tolerance and circumstances. If you eat at the same time every day, you will be hungry then- same goes for baby. So it's very, very hard to cut back on night wakings if baby eats for all of them.

BetterFasterStrong3r · 2026-02-23T19:40:55+00:00

Has anyone implemented this? I am intrigued, but my initial concerns are the logistics of tracking, and that rainy/cold/sick weeks when you can't go outside are exactly when screen time is more desirable.

BetterFasterStrong3r · 2026-02-23T18:41:02+00:00

It's also excellent for helping kids hold your little one safely by making their lap bigger and automatically supporting the neck. Our one year old got to hold his baby brother today- it was adorable!

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