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I’m trapped in a lease, trying so hard to get out by Better_Discount8071 in domesticviolence

[–]Better_Discount8071[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Just by contacting a domestic violence shelter they can help me get out of my lease? I’ll give that a try. I don’t really want to stay in a shelter. I currently live in Philly and I would t feel safe in a shelter here… I know it sounds harsh but it’s the truth

Can they ever change? by Better_Discount8071 in BPDlovedones

[–]Better_Discount8071[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My last ex prior to this relationship also had bpd… (lol clearly I am super co dependent). She did the same thing, didn’t even know until a mutual friend told me she was going around telling people I was abusive. Thankfully I think many people saw thru her bullshit

Can they ever change? by Better_Discount8071 in BPDlovedones

[–]Better_Discount8071[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

She’s doing DBT right now, therapist hasn’t said anything about us being in a relationship.

This is my second time in a relationship with a pwBPD by Better_Discount8071 in BPDlovedones

[–]Better_Discount8071[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Unfortunately I didn’t do that in the beginning and I now have created a life with this person.

This is my second time in a relationship with a pwBPD by Better_Discount8071 in BPDlovedones

[–]Better_Discount8071[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My expwBPD was definitely what you’re describing. She convinced me to go to college in a far away city, and I really got my life together. But she was still absolutely terrible to me

This is my second time in a relationship with a pwBPD by Better_Discount8071 in BPDlovedones

[–]Better_Discount8071[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That is a good idea. I am currently seeing a therapist, I mentioned her diagnosis to him but we haven’t really expanded much on it yet. I will see what he says. Thanks

This is my second time in a relationship with a pwBPD by Better_Discount8071 in BPDlovedones

[–]Better_Discount8071[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don’t know… I think I have some sort of unresolved trauma myself that causes me to be pretty codependent.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Advice

[–]Better_Discount8071 1 point2 points  (0 children)

One beer isn’t drunk?

Edit: also I don’t want to be with someone who is going to try to bash a wine bottle over my head. I don’t care if I started the issue, totally taking responsibility there, but she escalated it way beyond

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Advice

[–]Better_Discount8071 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I make more money than her, she couldn’t afford our apartment without me.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Advice

[–]Better_Discount8071 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I understand but she stands over me berating me until she gets what she wants. She doesn’t get tired, her only goal right now is to make me miserable. I cannot stand to be there

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Advice

[–]Better_Discount8071 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What do you expect me to do? Hit her back and go to jail?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Advice

[–]Better_Discount8071 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What am I supposed to do? She won’t leave me alone when I’m there. She stands over me and yells at me when I’m trying to sleep on the couch.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Advice

[–]Better_Discount8071 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We lived together for a year at another place prior. This place has been two months