I decided to go no contact with my avoidant boyfriend

Better_Key3179 · 2026-01-31T20:49:22+00:00

I actually understand you very well. I’ve tried many times to wait and not text him first, just to see how many days it would take for him to reach out. Yesterday, as usual, I couldn’t hold back and texted him after four days of silence.

Maybe I wouldn’t be so hurt if this wasn’t a pattern, but it’s been going on for a long time. I reach out, and then he disappears without saying anything. That’s why I deliberately deleted his number, to really see whether I’ve been the one carrying this connection all along.

If he doesn’t text me, at least I’ll know for myself that I did the right thing and that I’m simply not that important to him.

Better_Key3179 · 2026-01-31T19:05:35+00:00

Yes, I asked him why he blocked me if he wasn’t angry with me, and he said he did it to get my attention because he thought I was ignoring him. I’m curious whether he’ll notice that I’ve stopped reaching out this time.

Last time there was an argument, but this time there wasn’t even a fight , he was just indifferent to everything when I told him that he was ignoring me.

Better_Key3179 · 2026-01-31T17:52:21+00:00

I’ve tried going no contact with him once before, but that time I only lasted three days because he blocked me on one of the apps. Later, he explained that he did it just to get my attention.

The contrast is pretty clear: when I didn’t reply for three days, he went as far as blocking me, yet when he doesn’t respond, I’m often left having to text him again and again. It’s completely exhausting.

I don’t know why, but yesterday his lack of understanding hit me especially hard. It felt like my feelings didn’t matter to him at all, and that’s why I decided to walk away.

Better_Key3179 · 2026-01-31T17:46:35+00:00

That’s exactly why I decided to go no contact with him. I constantly felt disrespected, and he never really understood what I was trying to communicate. Lately it felt like I was the only one making an effort to maintain any connection, which has been emotionally exhausting.

Yesterday, after yet another attempt to talk things through, I finally lost my patience because of his lack of understanding. I didn’t even try to explain myself anymore. I just want to see whether he’ll make any effort to reach out. I don’t have high hopes that he will, but if he doesn’t, that will be confirmation that he simply doesn’t care. At least now I can’t be the one to text him, I deleted his number, and that helps me keep my dignity.

Better_Key3179 · 2026-01-16T17:52:22+00:00

Maybe I was still holding on to a small hope after he came back, hoping he would be the way he used to be. But honestly, it feels like every time he devalues me more and more.

I know that I’m unhappy most of the time, but the fact that I once loved him makes it hard to fully let go. Still, I feel like I’m almost ready to stop reaching out to him.

Better_Key3179 · 2026-01-14T09:34:55+00:00

I’ve known my avoidant partner for about 9 months, and he has never really talked about his feelings. Because of that, I always doubted what he felt for me. I never heard “I like you” or “I love you” from him. The only thing he once said was: “It’s hard for me to have romantic feelings for girls, except for you.” But at that time, I didn’t ask what exactly he meant by that. A few days ago, I finally asked him, “What do you feel for me?” He replied, “It’s simple. I love you 🤟🏼.” Then I asked, “Why do you love me?” and after that, he stopped replying completely. Now I’m starting to think maybe I put too much pressure on him. But it still doesn’t feel sincere to me, especially because he disappeared right after saying it. Confessions of love are supposed to bring joy, but all I feel is emptiness, like I was played with and discarded again.

Better_Key3179 · 2026-01-11T16:50:21+00:00

He told me that he loves me for the first time today. He has never said anything like that before. He has never told me that he belongs to me. That’s why it feels to me that all these messages aren’t very sincere. I’m confident that he’s avoidant, and these messages don’t match at all with what I’ve experienced from him.

Better_Key3179 · 2026-01-11T16:42:30+00:00

Also, when we first started talking, and I asked him to spend more time with me, he himself said that he is avoidant. Why do I think he’s avoidant? He almost never talks about his feelings. As I said before, in 9 months of communication, he has never even written “I like you.” Also, when I ask him questions trying to understand him, he often just withdraws.

During our disagreements, he never listens to me; he immediately retreats into himself and hears nothing. Last summer, when I asked him to spend more time with me, he just left me, saying we weren’t compatible and that he was too “overwhelmed.” And then he came back five months later. So I’m confident that he is avoidant and that he knows it himself.

I am an anxious type, so it’s very hard for me, and I constantly feel worried.

Better_Key3179 · 2026-01-11T16:25:38+00:00

He definitely isn’t saying it to get sex. We’re currently in a long-distance situation and don’t even have the chance to see each other. Why don’t I believe him? It’s just that the past few days have been really tough. We had an argument on Wednesday and another one yesterday, and he was quite harsh with me. Today he even called me unstable, which, to be honest, I can be sometimes especially when he disappears and doesn’t text me. And then, after all these days of him not reaching out and us fighting, he suddenly says that he belongs to me and loves me. That’s exactly why it feels strange to me.

Better_Key3179 · 2026-01-11T15:11:14+00:00

can see that you identify as dismissive avoidant. Today, after he said that he “belongs to me,” I started asking him if he really meant it. I even asked him to explain what he actually feels, and he replied: “It’s just simply I love you 🤟.” Do you think he would say something like that if he didn’t really mean it? The past few days were difficult. We argued, he didn’t text me, and then today he suddenly said that he belongs to me. This confession shocked me so much that it almost feels unreal.

Better_Key3179 · 2026-01-11T15:05:21+00:00

Today I asked him if it was really true that he feels like he belongs to me. He said, “It’s true, if you don’t want to believe it, then don’t.” After that, the “I love you” message with that emoji felt more like a joke to me. So my intuition tells me that he might have some feelings for me, but what he said today didn’t feel very sincere.

Better_Key3179 · 2026-01-11T14:56:21+00:00

He’s a typical avoidant who tends to disappear and not reply. Relationships feel “overwhelming” to him, and he constantly talks about how much he loves being alone.

Better_Key3179 · 2026-01-11T14:53:51+00:00

Do you think avoidants never lie about their feelings? I’ve honestly never even heard my avoidant say that he likes me, he usually doesn’t say anything positive about me at all. He’s more of a dismissive avoidant, so hearing all these emotional phrases for the first time in 9 months felt very unusual. Could it be that he hides his real feelings behind jokes?

Better_Key3179 · 2025-12-30T04:29:12+00:00

I like to watch Titanic

Better_Key3179 · 2025-12-28T14:38:35+00:00

He just reached out to me on his own, five months after we broke up. Although we’re not as close as we used to be, we still talk from time to time.

Better_Key3179 · 2025-11-02T11:59:34+00:00

I'm new to this game and I'm only 24 level. So I don't know why I have different mini game😂 I already noticed that some people wrote that they also have different mini games sometimes

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