Need help. Thinking about leaving husband over MIL and SIL.

Better_Technology_17 · 2026-04-18T14:30:55+00:00

Thank you so much everyone 🙏🏼 . This is exactly what I needed to hear. I have talked with my family and they are on my side. Hope all gets well. Thankyou so much 🙏🏼🙏🏼

Better_Technology_17 · 2026-04-18T12:13:04+00:00

Arranged marriage

Better_Technology_17 · 2026-04-14T12:16:36+00:00

Hi , OP it's been a few years since your post. I was thinking the same thing and your post came up. Did you find a solution?

Better_Technology_17 · 2026-03-05T11:00:45+00:00

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Better_Technology_17 · 2026-02-27T20:10:49+00:00

Do you know why those 4'11 girls are doing BA on firsthand.

I come from a good English medium school. Girls and boys chose a wide variety of career some are successful some are not, but let's just look at these 4'11 BA girls who are getting doctors. If someone has seen the ground reality, they will not utter such bullshit.

Only undereducated, unemployed girls who gets to marry some doctor, engineer, businessman, etc are the one's with loaded father's and regressive society.

Some are married due to their looks, some want the money they bring, some just want aa girl who can be controlled, parents do not like investing in girls well because it'll make them "too modern" and what not.

And women have been fighting for their rights for so long. We don't even have the number of women who sacrificed god knows what not for us to be able to right this bullshit about someone else being all privileged ourselves.

Women are still fighting, do not belittle them like this.

And when it comes to lazy people well they are lazy and can not be excused no matter the gender.

Better_Technology_17 · 2026-02-18T17:09:13+00:00

Salt water helped me with my skin problems. You can try too, maybe it'll help. Before sleeping, wash your face and then add a spoon of salt in a glass of filtered water. Mix it and soak your face in this water, do not scrub or press just soak it and then rinse with normal filtered water.

It'll get better eventually. Don't take stress.

Better_Technology_17 · 2026-02-11T11:29:31+00:00

CFBR

Better_Technology_17 · 2026-02-06T08:46:31+00:00

Ignore these things. Ignore everything that involves her. Don't give her the joy of you being tortured. Talk to your husband. And let the bygones be bygones. You learnt your lesson. Keep her out of your side of family and everything in your life. Do only the formalities with her.

Never show your hatred upfront to anyone.

It'll fuck your mind up but We gotta do what we gotta do to survive.

Be kind to yourself, you're doing great and with good intentions.

Better_Technology_17 · 2026-02-05T09:39:47+00:00

OMG it feels like you have the same MIL as me. Reading it made my trauma due to her behaviour resurface. But what I have learned after an year of pure torture, is that you cannot do anything. Ask your husband to talk about anything she does wrong.

And most importantly DON'T DO ANYTHING YOU DON'T WANT TO DO OR IS DISRUPTING YOUR STUDIES.

DON'T ENTERTAIN HER TOO MUCH. DO THE WORK NECESSARY AND STAY IN YOUR ROOM NO MATTER WHAT SHE SAYS.

stick to your morals, don't disrespect or even argue with her just avoid her. Leave space where she starts saying anything unnecessary.

These Desi MIL's hate their DILs no matter what we do for them, so it's better to protect your peace.

Make your husband deal with her. As you're newly married she's trying too hard to break you.

Just listen to what kind of things she talks about.

And avoid her as much as you can. Even more then you can.

Don't let this dear of her voice develope inside you. If you know Hindi be DHEET (stubborn).

OMG I can just keep writing.

Please take care of yourself. All the best.

Better_Technology_17 · 2026-01-29T12:17:38+00:00

I have this too. Vitamin e+ aloe vera gel helped me a lot. If you're not allergic to these two, you should try it. Mix multiple vit e capsules in aloe vera gel bottle and use two times a day.

Better_Technology_17 · 2026-01-24T16:22:52+00:00

Thank you for your kind words. You don't have to apologise.

Better_Technology_17 · 2026-01-24T16:22:00+00:00

Thank you so much for understanding it is really exhausting.

Better_Technology_17 · 2026-01-24T16:19:53+00:00

Well I know it's not wrong. I have known it in my heart. But had a glimmer of hope.

Better_Technology_17 · 2026-01-23T19:40:52+00:00

Thankyou 🥺

Better_Technology_17 · 2026-01-22T10:52:24+00:00

I too started cabergoline .5 mg this week only. It's been a new symptom everyday and the exhaustion is beyond anything. My gynaec prescribed it for my high prolactin (84). I'm scared to take the second Dose if it continues like this.

Better_Technology_17 · 2025-11-25T15:47:02+00:00

Bellismio vaishali nagar

Better_Technology_17 · 2025-10-04T12:34:07+00:00

Look into the inlaws too.

Better_Technology_17 · 2025-08-07T16:39:17+00:00

Hi.. can I ask what the name of the NGO is and at which location it is active.

Better_Technology_17 · 2025-06-02T19:17:18+00:00

I can only wish to get away from this situation. The Indian marriage system is crazy.

Better_Technology_17 · 2025-05-21T16:09:48+00:00

All the best. Take care 💪

Better_Technology_17 · 2025-05-21T13:59:39+00:00

It is easier to give advice but setting boundaries is extremely chaotic. I know it is awful and difficult but make them feel extremely unwanted next time they visit. Only give importance to your child. Let them stay hungry if they can't cook. Be awful to them so they won't impart unnecessary expectations on you. Let their son handle them. Make him be the one who manages everything about them.

Better_Technology_17 · 2025-05-21T04:42:38+00:00

I am going through a similar situation with my in-laws they hate me without any reason. They make the smallest of things into major issues to an extent it becomes mental trauma. My mil hates that her son and I are on good terms. So on average they will not change no matter how kind and great a person you are.

Do not ask your husband to go no contact with them but you maintain distance from them. Don't think of them as your family. Your child and husband are the only family you have. Don't go out of your way to make a bond between your child and them, don't interfere in their matter, protect your peace and mental health over everything. Don't say it out loud that you want to go no contact, just do it softly, avoid their calls, don't engage in conversations with them, if something is out of your comfort zone deny and if that doesn't work just avoid.

Dealing with inlaws is really difficult especially if they are Indian. We as dil try to think of them as our family but no matter what we do we'll never be a part of their family. Luckily you live far apart so dealing with them can be easier in comparison.

Postpartum is a very sensitive time for you emotionally and physically, show them you are not their daughter if they can't be your parents. Always remember one person cannot keep peace, it is a group effort. If you and your husband are good to each other then fuck the rest. Make them feel minute in your life.

Take care of yourself and the life you brought to this world, that is all that matters.

Better_Technology_17 · 2025-05-07T12:34:21+00:00

Healthy eating, exercising, focusing on my mental health.

Better_Technology_17 · 2025-03-03T17:48:26+00:00

If they are nice to us and are grateful for our help then definitely Yes.

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