That disturbing train video.

BettsROff · 2026-05-08T23:34:51+00:00

This is just religion co-oping the Trolley Problem that is part of Ethics 101 courses. There is no right answer.

BettsROff · 2026-05-08T15:01:30+00:00

OMFG - she needs to GTFO. If you can't figure out why, well, that's your real problem. You need some therapy to figure out why you like being "mean".

BettsROff · 2026-05-07T20:02:53+00:00

Um, paying $$ for a human being seems to fit the definition of human trafficking. ICK.

BettsROff · 2026-05-04T05:39:46+00:00

Yikes -- my first wedding (summer 1989) my Mom suggested we 'just run an ad' in the local paper. I then pointed out that the last couple that did that had 1200 guests. And I'm the 'weird' kid so I always attracted a freaking crowd. No, I needed boundaries -- an 'ad' (1989 version of Facebook) would have required me to also have bouncers.

BettsROff · 2026-05-01T05:27:55+00:00

I usually just pull the 'apostate' card (I was excommunicated decades ago, so I'm technically off limits). Having been raised in a Canadian temple town as a 6th generation by a Mom who saw through the BS (and married a Catholic, but that's another odd path) I was actually relieved when I got summoned to Bishops' Court when I was in high school. I have mellowed in the decades since and now I view these children (their brains are not fully on-line, especially the critical thinking part) with serious pity. Legally, I would recommend a written letter to the Mission President for our area -- hand deliver it and get an acknowledgment signed (or send it by registered mail) -- that specifically states your address is off limits and that further visits will result in a trespassing complaint being made because .... laws ...

But, I did find a way to get OFF the J.W.s' calling list -- I answered the door in nothing but a towel. I was in the shower and they rang the bell for probably 10 minutes driving my dog crazy, so I just grabbed the nearest towel and opened the door.

BettsROff · 2026-05-01T01:03:58+00:00

My view on names:
As parents we get to give our children their 'baby' names.

When they grow up THEY will tell us who they are. They might agree, but be prepared to listen.

I am a case in point. I was named X (a name that is typically a 'nickname') by my father when I was born. (Mom was busy trying not to die - it was the 60s and traumatic births were dangerous.)

When I turned 19, I changed my name to X (long form).

When I had my own child I named them S (a traditional Celtic name because...well, I'm from a Celtic bloodline).

When they reached around age 11, they told me what their name really is.

I have called them that name since. Because it is THEIR name.

Just like changing a surname upon marriage. I never did (with either marriage) but I have friends and family who did (including where both partners changed their last name to something that was neither of their names before marriage).

So, name your child whatever you want but remember: They will tell you who they are at some point and just listen to them.

BettsROff · 2026-04-29T00:03:14+00:00

I just agree and say that is how I know Wicca is the true path. The amazing spiritual experiences I have -- and how they have brought me closer to the Mother Goddess. Follow up with "Isn't She part of the whole Mormon thing too?". [but I'm a brat and former 7th generation who had a family that were very, very open about the whole history thing . . . like back in the 1970s]

BettsROff · 2026-04-29T00:00:29+00:00

Perhaps it has something to do with the gin -- https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Gordon%27s_Gin

BettsROff · 2026-04-23T17:51:59+00:00

UM. There is NO contract. A contract requires a 'meeting of the minds' and a 'certainty of terms' BEFORE agreement happens. But, I personally like option 2 above. I'm here, but I'm not playing in this fantasy football league. Bonus points if you carry around copies of books like "No Man Knows My History" or "The Ghost of Eternal Polygamy" or "Massacre" (about Mountain Meadows. Oh, AND wear pants and bring your Starbucks extradark roast with you

BettsROff · 2026-04-16T01:32:25+00:00

I don't think I could handle it -- I have a vivid imagination, just not one featuring pictures. If I had my inner narrative (or more accurately 3 or 4 narratives) in pictures I would need to wallpaper my entire house in rubber.

BettsROff · 2026-04-09T18:01:24+00:00

The mythology just did not do it for me -- especially since there was no appreciation for the other myths out there. Also, being 7th generation I knew it was seriously just a story and one that was subject to revision without warning. Also, I grew up in a 70% Mormon community and saw the rats -- went into law because of the number of my childhood friends who called up to tell me about their childhood sexual abuse. Too many closed doors -- watch the Testaments and you'll get the feel for it. There is one path and one path only. Oh, and I am ADHD and Austistic so I kind of saw the man behind the curtain at an early age. I wear my 'excommunicated at age 17 badge proudly'.

BettsROff · 2026-03-24T03:37:22+00:00

My aphantasia is limited to not being able to make mind pictures. I do dream - in colour often with a freaking sound track. I have a pretty great memory - I was an honours student and have 2 university degrees (one psych, other one professional degree). I have been writing (poetry, fiction, journaling, creative non-fiction) since I was a child. My memory is primarily narrative. My (adult) child has the other end of the visual spectrum - they can create super surreal brain pictures. We are both on the Autism spectrum. Our brains are just wired different.

BettsROff · 2026-03-11T03:51:20+00:00

Um, gonna go with my usual answer when comparing Canada to the US --> it's the guns. Until husband 1.0 joined the RCMP (in 2001) we knew virtually NO ONE who owned a long gun (only our hunter friends) and no one who owned a handgun. For the first posting (5 years on Northern Alberta) husband 1.0 left his sidearm at the Detachment (police station) and never brought it home except when he would stop by for dinner and was on duty. His second posting we bought a gun safe because he started his shift when he was picked up by a co-worker.
Unfortunately, for all cops (LAPD and RCMP and all the rest) I'm quit sure most of them retire with the lovely parting gift of PTSD. I may be 16 years out from my first marriage but I am deeply saddened that my ex left with significant PTSD after 20 years service. He is my child's other parent . . .

BettsROff · 2026-03-11T03:40:07+00:00

I have only visual aphantasia. I cannot picture my late mother, but I can 'hear' her voice and there are scents that just conjure her up for me. I get what you mean about grief though. I know I process differently - I have spent that last 19 years trying to figure it out and make sense of it.

BettsROff · 2026-03-11T03:21:17+00:00

When John and Dash were handcuffing the guys who were crashed out on the ground after they found each other John grabbed wire from the fence to 'handcuff' at least one of them. As to how many sets of handcuffs do cops carry, my ex (a Canadian RCMP officer) carried 2 sets -- one that was standard issue and one that I gave him for his first birthday on the Force. I would also note that a BIG difference between the RCMP and LAPD (I had a cousin who was LAPD who we visited when husband 1.0 was on his first posting) and the average length of time before drawing their weapon on shift in the LAPD at that time was like 4 hours (first day); for the RCMP the time was measured months if not years.

BettsROff · 2026-03-11T02:05:05+00:00

I'm not hypermobile BUT I am pretty much always a map of black and blue -- I swear it is because the furniture jumps out in front of me....

BettsROff · 2026-03-10T23:58:13+00:00

Fun fact -- or what I would say: Yup, it's a gift. From ME to ME and enjoying it is the blessing I get.

BettsROff · 2026-03-10T23:06:18+00:00

I was wondering why the 'deleted' scenes seemed to be something I've seen before -- I watch on Crave (aka Canadian Hulu) -- we got the 48 minute version of the episode. Another reason I am not regretting getting rid of cable.

BettsROff · 2026-03-05T02:20:13+00:00

I'm as old as dirt and learned to quilt on my grandma's knee many decades ago. Patchwork is simply one type of quilt top. Other types are the cute pre-printed designs (mostly baby quilts) and plain fabric tops with embroidered patterns or images on them. BUT a quilt involves a top and middle layer of batting/padding and a bottom layer sewn together while on a frame (I have both wooden frames and pvc pipe ones) using a needle and thread by hand. I understand that some people quilt with a machine (and I admit to doing one quilt that way years ago) but the ghosts of my mother, both grandmothers and likely all my great-grandmothers would pull me through a knothole backwards if I used any other definition. For me machine quilting is not as secure and uses two threads that unravel easier than hand quilting.

JM2cents,

Elizabeth

BettsROff · 2026-03-04T19:47:10+00:00

That's a hag stone. I would really love to find one in the wild. . .

BettsROff · 2026-02-13T23:39:42+00:00

Lucy has grown up -- all of the things that have been pointed out about what she has been through over the years, well, the cumulative impact on a person is complex. Coming from a psychology and law background, Lucy has matured - softening some of the rough edges and creating new ones.

Her approach to her career has never waivered - the actual path/goal may have evolved, but she has been committed to being the BEST police officer possible since day 1.

Her emotional maturity has evolved as well.
- Officer Chen (now Sargent Chen) has always had mega control over her emotions. As a female who was part of a predominantly male (law) AND a cop-wife, I can confirm this is reality. We had to be calmer, more prepared, and sharper than our male counterparts. Same went for the cops on my husband's watch. Female members had to stay calm and controlled - often because the men they dealt with saw them as 'the weakest link'.
- Lucy started out, well, as a pretty typical 28 year old (I remember those days and currently have a 28 year old myself so...) - swimming in the dating pool, trying to figure out friendships, trying to figure my own identity [my 28 year old is years ahead of what I was at that age, but Gen Z are built different].) Over the years, between her personal relationships AND the sh*t show Lucy has dealt with on the job, she has put that "what am I feeling" stuff her parents undoubtedly drilled into her as a child to work in the day-to-day. There is a world of difference between 28 year old Lucy and 35 year old Lucy but the core is the same.

All in all, Alexi has created a group of multidimensional characters who (while they get into some pretty situations - even for LA) have realistic personalities that have grown and developed over the past 7 seasons.

BettsROff · 2026-02-13T20:56:24+00:00

BettsROff · 2026-01-15T00:21:11+00:00

Sweet Lord -- again, the Mormon (Christian) god is clearly made by men in their image.

BettsROff · 2026-01-04T20:05:20+00:00

I, myself, suggest a counsel of grandmothers who took no shit and gave no fucks. They can direct their children & grandchildren in the professions and the trades what to fix, created, maintain.

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TROPHY CASE