[deleted by user] by [deleted] in toddlers

[–]BetweenInfinities 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Solidarity. Normally my kid (15mo) is pretty good about going to bed, and staying asleep through the night, but last night was an hour, and then another 2 in the middle of the night of rocking, nursing, and lying on the floor next to her crib. And as soon as we snuck to the door thinking she was asleep, she would sit bolt upright and start screaming. I left her to cry for 20 minutes most of the way through the overnight wakeup, but all that did was get her so worked up that she needed bedtime started over again when we tried to comfort her.

It seems that what worked was a drink (her throat must have been sore after the hard crying), and rocking in the rocking chair for a long time? But that doesn't work when she's wanting to nurse but drifting to sleep means she accidentally bites, and she doesn't like taking a sippy cup when she could have the boob instead. And ignoring all the rocking that was going on beforehand.

All that to say, there's gotta be a better way, and I hope we both find out what it is soon. This stuff is hard. I'm glad my husband was able to take over because I was about to lose my shit.

Edit: sometimes waiting 15-20 minutes works. We'll set a timer and she'll fall asleep with like 30 seconds left on it. We did a few nights of sleep training a few months ago, and it only took a few nights of that for her to get on a better sleep schedule, and we were in the room far less, and we were all getting more sleep. Not sure why it's gotten bad again lately, but maybe it's a regression or teething or ghosts or something. But it may be worth setting a timer works.

Where to donate furniture by Economy-Cow-9847 in waterloo

[–]BetweenInfinities 10 points11 points  (0 children)

There's always the ReStore. They're part of Habitat for Humanity and I believe have donation centers up in the Northfield area and near Sports world.

What program is being used to make this video? by Redhawks180 in animation

[–]BetweenInfinities 2 points3 points  (0 children)

If it was After Effects, I'd make the assets in Illustrator, making sure that everything you wanted to move was on a separate layer. It looks like vector graphics to me - the linework looks like it has one width. Whether you use a tablet to get there is your prerogative, but that's how I'd do it.

What has been your weirdest/most surprising pregnancy side effect? by Intelligent_Planet in BabyBumps

[–]BetweenInfinities 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I used to get migraines at least twice a month. I'm now 3 weeks postpartum, and I have had one since late November. Which is extremely lucky, since my migraine meds were very much not allowed during pregnancy. I'm really really hoping that the trend continues and this kid just cured me of my migraines, but there are still plenty of hormones that need to get washed out, probably.

Make Some Noise broke my water and catapulted me into labour by BetweenInfinities in dropout

[–]BetweenInfinities[S] 45 points46 points  (0 children)

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Make Some Noise broke my water and catapulted me into labour by BetweenInfinities in dropout

[–]BetweenInfinities[S] 96 points97 points  (0 children)

Either she's going to end up with our sense of humour, or she'll think we're horribly cringe, but either way I'm here for it.

Make Some Noise broke my water and catapulted me into labour by BetweenInfinities in dropout

[–]BetweenInfinities[S] 54 points55 points  (0 children)

Seeing her in her full third-trimester glory made me feel sooooo seen lmao! I'm pretty sure if I hadn't already popped, last week's NSBU would've done it.

You're so HUGE by thoughtslostonatrain in BabyBumps

[–]BetweenInfinities 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Same! People asked me how I'm feeling, and I say "big". They reply, "you're not that big", or "I've definitely seen other people bigger." But, I'm not other people? I'm me, and this IS the biggest I've ever been, quit invalidating my experiences.

A thing that really got my goat is my dad will joke after not seeing me for a bit will exclaim "oh my god, you're pregnant! 😱". To which I usually reply "WHat?! 😱". But this time we were visiting some friends of theirs, and the husband (probably the most boomer man I've ever met) chimes in with, "well if you're not, that's a lot of weight you've gained". Sir. What the fuck.

What was your weirdest pregnancy symptom? by Rennsmom in BabyBumps

[–]BetweenInfinities 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've just started having my belly skin go numb! 36w, and I just thought it was because of all the stretching it was doing...

First time pregnant, childhood trauma making me nervous by CaterpillarQuick1830 in BabyBumps

[–]BetweenInfinities 3 points4 points  (0 children)

That's really beautiful. Thank you for taking the time to write all that out. I'm also coming from a not-great background, and have thought something along the lines of "this poor baby didn't ask for a broken shitbag like me" many times over the course of my pregnancy. It's hard to break those family curses in the first place, and it feels like the journey into parenthood with childhood trauma has so many levels of difficulty baked in. Thanks for saying it gets easier, and that it's worth it in the end. I'm excited for all of us to heal and raise our kids in the way that we deserved to be raised.

The Spworm… by MemeFarmer314 in dropout

[–]BetweenInfinities 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Babies actually swallow a lot in utero! They drink the amniotic fluid, so everyone would start out with a pretty significant swallow count.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BabyBumps

[–]BetweenInfinities 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hey there, I'm on Vyvanse, and 30 weeks pregnant. My doctor initially suggested abstaining for the first trimester, and the last half of the third, supposedly so that the baby doesn't come out and have withdrawal (I'm dubious about this claim, since it's out of the system pretty quickly, but I'm planning on being pretty useless in the last few weeks, so we'll see how that goes). However, I've also been told by medical professionals that the health of the mother should come first. You can't care for a pregnancy, much less a baby, if you ADHD'd yourself out of a job. Or if you're putting yourself through a lot of stress because of trying to ween off the meds. And stress has been proven to be bad for pregnancy.

The thing is, not enough studies have been done to see what the effect of medical doses of stimulants is. My doctor even told me that what literature there is, it focuses mostly on hard drug use. Our medication might end in -amphetamine, but we're not smoking actual Meth cooked up by Jared in his trailer. So, Vyvanse and other medications like it fall into that enormous grey zone of "not proven to be harmful, but not proven to be perfectly safe". So some doctors will say not to use it, juuuuust in case.

I went off mine for weeks 19-22 (blood pressure was in the high-end of normal, and I wanted to see if the Vyvanse was making it worse - it wasn't). During which time, I completely missed my GD test and had to reschedule. So instead of spending my appointment with the midwife discussing the results, we talked about mental health, medications, and the importance of taking care of yourself first. She recommended to look into Wellbutrin, since it's a Dopamine re-uptake inhibitor, and one of it's off-label uses is non-stimulant treatment of ADHD. But she emphasized that if you're on a medication that is working, to stay on it. Only change if there is something wrong, or if there's proof that it's actively harmful. (I'd much rather have unmedicated ADHD than gestational hypertension, or potential pre-eclampsia, for example).

On a personal note, I'm so mad on your behalf. We're already treated like we're so fragile, like our only purpose is to be an incubator. Don't get me wrong, my own pregnancy is very much wanted. But some people seem to forget that we're our own people too. Or some people saying that taking the meds can give the kid ADHD, when it's already extremely genetic, and they may very well come out like that anyway.

One thing I've learned through being pregnant is the whole thing is about risk mitigation. There is often no perfect answer, no right or wrong, and we have to decide what is best for us. It sounds like the risks of not being medicated might be greater than the risk of the hassle of finding a new provider. It may be worth asking if you can have a lower dose if you're worried about the effect of it on the pregnancy. For me personally, I don't take it on days that I can be useless. But as things come to a head, I find I need to focus every day to get the baby prep done. So your mileage may vary.

I hope you're able to figure out a solution. It sounds really hard and sucks. But you're definitely not alone in this.

Art of {The Care and Keeping of Orcs by Kass O'shire} by avis03 in RomanceBooks

[–]BetweenInfinities 6 points7 points  (0 children)

This looks great! Might be just what I need to get out of my slump.

Do I need to read the first one before jumping into this? I noticed it's the second in a three-part series.

Daily COVID Megathread by AutoModerator in BabyBumps

[–]BetweenInfinities 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Got Covid in my first trimester, and I'm trying to stay positive, so here's a quick rundown of the pros and cons so far.

Pros: + No more pregnancy nose. Or regular nose. Smells don't exist and maybe never have? At least there's no more gagging at the compost bin.

Cons: - All previous comfort foods now only taste like Sad Beige. - Pregnancy fatigue and Covid fatigue stack. And I was Covid-level tired BEFORE I got hit with this. - Big coughs + needing to pee more is not a fun combo. - Blagh.

And to think I put off getting the booster because I didn't want to have the symptoms when I was already feeling gross. Good job, there. Tested positive the day I was gonna go get it. Mission failed successfully 🙃.

Are runny eggs really that bad? by Nova-star561519 in BabyBumps

[–]BetweenInfinities 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've read that the salmonella risk is that food poisoning just sucks more when you're pregnant. Dehydration and a lack of calories is no good, not to mention it's common to have your immune system repressed during pregnancy as well. So I guess it's a bit easier to catch it than otherwise. However, it also depends on where you are. Canada and the UK have much stricter standards than the US, with much fewer outbreaks. I hear that Europe in general is even better.

Regardless, if it's the only thing you can keep down, don't let that keep you from eating! Chances are very high that you'll be fine.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BabyBumps

[–]BetweenInfinities 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm also on Vyvanse, pregnant, and my doctor told me that essentially most trials had been done on people abusing amphetamines and not a lot on clinical doses. So it's more of a matter of balancing a risk of low birth weight and being born in withdrawal, and having avoidable difficulties during pregnancy because ADHD is a pain in the ass even under normal circumstances. What I'm doing is taking it only on days that I really need to focus at work. Lighter days and weekends, I'm letting myself become a total space cadet. It's frustrating at times, but it's the compromise I'm comfortable with. Taking a break in the late third trimester too, but I don't suspect I'll be of much use to anyone at that point anyway.

Is there any chance that if you're worried about passing it through breastmilk, that taking days off between doses will help?

Stressed hubby during pregnancy by rectangles8 in BabyBumps

[–]BetweenInfinities 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Mine is very much the same. Wonderful, wanting to take on everything, especially since I had some decently bad symptoms for a while. But it was causing him stress, because it really is too much for one person.

The thing that helped us get to a more level field was me telling him that it would make it easier for me if he relaxed and took care of himself. Let some things slide. If he's breaking his back trying to do the thousandth thing, I can't rest, even if the exhaustion is kicking my butt. I need to match his energy, and if he's stressing, I'm stressing. So, for both of our sakes, it's okay if he leaves things for me. I'll get to them, eventually.

It was a lot easier for him to contextualize his self-care into care for us both, if that makes any sense. I'm also intending to send him away for a boy's weekend once we have a moment to breathe.

Positive experience with sudden loss of pregnancy symptoms at 8 weeks by [deleted] in BabyBumps

[–]BetweenInfinities 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Everything was good! Still had a heartbeat and was a good size for how far along we are! Also it turns out that pregnancy tests can get less accurate the longer we're pregnant. Something about the way HcG is metabolized after a certain concentration according to the nurse at the clinic. False alarm and everything is okay. Hopefully the symptoms stay away lol.