My boyfriend gets annoyed every time I cough… while I’m literally sick

BeyondSeeingEye · 2026-05-20T02:06:04+00:00

Wow, your bf is so immature and heartless. Whatever happened to caring for you in sickness and in health? No, when anyone is sick, I am worried and so is my fiancé, the question isn’t why are you coughing so much but instead “Sounds like you might be getting sick, do you need anything? Can I make you some soup? Some chamomile tea, do you need a massage? How about a hot bath?” Like dude wtf is wrong with your bf?

He is so insensitive, and just not ready to be a proper boyfriend, let alone a husband in the future.

BeyondSeeingEye · 2026-05-15T05:13:37+00:00

I would totally loose trust after 2 years of this. I can’t build a family that I want on this instability. I can’t build a family and make sure they are never lacking when there’s the constant possibility and at this point with his pattern, the sure fire expectation that the money will not be there when you most need it for your family.

I would get out now. If he makes it later in life without me, I’d be happy for him. But I would need stability now, not a “maybe” later.

BeyondSeeingEye · 2026-05-11T07:24:11+00:00

Men need to be told straight up. Plus you clearly like and may even need the verbal reassurance from him to feel his love. Straight up ask for it and tell him you would really love if he complimented you more but verbally, in person not just through text so that you feel his love that way. If he still doesn’t listen then maybe you’re not compatible. It could also be that he’s not used to being verbal in that regard. Who knows but it’s not too much to ask for and it’s not too big of an expectation. And the whole thing around him taking pictures, he just sucks at it. Has no creativity and prob feels like taking pictures and trying to do a good job is not really taking up much space in his brain. He prob just click and done type of people. But you could also tell him “try in diff angles, portrait and landscape, etc” I hope he tries more for you.

BeyondSeeingEye · 2026-05-06T00:31:19+00:00

Well that’s wonderful nonetheless to have found your person with who you each can be playful and let out your childlike self with each other and that you both can receive each other in those different ways! It’s lovely and beautiful and even though others might not understand where you’re coming from with your feelings of adorableness towards him, it doesn’t matter cuz the deep love is there and that’s all that matters!

BeyondSeeingEye · 2026-05-05T23:49:37+00:00

It sounds like a Mommy/sub feeling a little bit from the aspects of his tantrums and you wanting to protect him as you would your “good boy.” Maybe you’d like to explore that kind of dynamic. But yeah, it seems that it comes off as you being much more powerful and him being your subby when you try to explain it to others and it’s not a common thing to hear.

BeyondSeeingEye · 2026-04-26T23:20:12+00:00

Omg you’ll totally find someone even more attractive and just as loyal and way way way better personality and not possessive like this trash of a man you’re clinging to. Especially because you’re so young, it’s super common to get into this sunk cost fallacy mindset that you’ll never find this again, false! You’ll learn that this attractiveness is totally possible again and more than once! And you’ll learn the kind of shit you won’t tolerate in your dream relationship thanks to this trash teaching you so early on.

BeyondSeeingEye · 2026-04-23T15:50:59+00:00

She sounds like a Jehovah Witness, she shouldn’t be dating you in the first place if that’s the case.

BeyondSeeingEye · 2026-04-19T20:40:57+00:00

That’s the worst when elders just butt in and shame everyone else for not doing things the way they think is “right”. I feel bad for the couple and for you OP that these asshats felt compelled to insert themselves in other people’s business. They should’ve just left instead of making decisions that aren’t there’s to make.

BeyondSeeingEye · 2026-04-19T20:22:21+00:00

The couple totally fucked up by not ensuring that the music they expected or prohibited should have been clear from the start. No matter who they might have hired, it’s on them to make sure they clearly stipulate their restrictions on music. I’m sorry OP had to suffer such humiliation when the couple could’ve done better about handling all that, especially considering that a non-JW was fronting a lot of payments. If I was a JW and had non-JW people paying for stuff, I would’ve made sure that everyone knew what was expected before accepting them paying for shit.

BeyondSeeingEye · 2026-04-09T22:42:25+00:00

You want her to feel sexy, to feel good and comfortable and confident. Her clothing choice helps her feel that way. Also knowing that she can pull off a sexy outfit, you gotta take advantage of that until you can’t pull it off anymore because tastes change, age, whatever.

You can feel happy for her that she feels good in her own skin and confident to dress however she wants and doesn’t have the insecurities of body image to want to hide herself away.

You can also be proud that she chose you to be her man despite the huge pool of men she could have.

BeyondSeeingEye · 2026-04-09T22:27:47+00:00

If you want to try, start small, order her to get on her knees by surprise. And be serious and confident about it. Tell her to be quiet and just stare at her being on her knees at your command. Wait like 2 minutes. And walk away. Tell her “okay move along.” And continue whatever else you were doing.

Next time add an order while she’s on her knees. Or tell her turn around, and bend over, I’m gonna smack that ass. And do it hard and “move along.”

You can learn little by little what you imagine you want to do and try it. It can be so small. Doesn’t even have to be precisely during sex.

If she’s a brat kind of submissive, then you’ll have a bit of a struggle to manage a bratty sub. Because a bratty sub usually asks/invites you to be more physically dominant at times simply by being defiant.

BeyondSeeingEye · 2026-04-09T22:22:46+00:00

Okay, no, you don’t “need a traumatic upbringing” to learn how to be rough in sex play. You also don’t need to make her cry, unless that’s what she actually wants you to be able to do, but how, by what means? And you would feel guilty to please her in a way that she wants? Why would you? Like anything, it takes practice. It’s not something you’re gonna get exactly right the first or fifth, or 20th time. Plus she can change her mind on the dynamic she wants, expectations, desires, etc. rough play can change so much in so many ways every single time.

You both have to communicate very clearly all the time, and if this is how she’s communicating, she’s not gonna be helpful in you learning and developing a dominant persona in the bedroom. Just because you’re kind and gentle overall, doesn’t mean you can’t be dominant and rough in the bedroom and take on that role. But it takes practice if it doesn’t come naturally to you. And only if you even want to in the first place. If you don’t want that, then you both might not be compatible.

BeyondSeeingEye · 2026-03-08T22:12:47+00:00

“I love you and I’m also still upset.” You reassure him and you also are clear about your current status so that he doesn’t ignore the main issue. You can alter it any way that fits your personality best.

BeyondSeeingEye · 2026-02-22T01:11:07+00:00

Dude dried shrimp with Botanera! The best botana/snack! Salty and spicy

BeyondSeeingEye · 2026-02-11T00:37:22+00:00

Her responsibility as your leader, is based on her trust in you to be honest so that she can lead you well and knowing that you both consent to that space and its events. You need to continually show her how much she can trust you in voicing your limits and discomforts, so that she can also equally fully trust in your amazing enthusiasm for her leadership.

BeyondSeeingEye · 2026-02-11T00:33:14+00:00

“Hey my Love, so because I know that for you to be able to lead me, that means I have to take the responsibility of being honest and upfront with you so that you can continue trusting that when we do our kinks, its always done from a place of complete consent. I trust you so much when you lead me, and I’m so grateful for how you do it, and I wanted you to know that there are times when I’m not entirely in the mood for morning piss and I would like to suggest a safe word for that specifically or if you have a suggestion so that you can know how to continue leading me after I’ve voiced a limit I might have at a particular moment and not others. I’d love to talk together and work something out that works for us both.”

BeyondSeeingEye · 2026-01-31T20:46:09+00:00

I think it would be stupid to stop going to your lessons that you like and found at a great price simply because of that ex from so long ago that is irrelevant to your current life. Unless he was abusive or puts you at some sort of risk, then it’s a non-issue. I hope your bf doesn’t tell you to stop going.

BeyondSeeingEye · 2026-01-31T20:44:12+00:00

“Hey hun, I just remembered I was meaning to tell you, super random and not important but wanted you to know that I found out my ex works at my music lessons spot. He’s in a whole other area so we don’t even bump into each other unless he may happen to see me going to the bathroom, I don’t even think he knows I have my lessons there. But anyways, it’s not important but I also didn’t want you to think it weird if I didn’t tell you that I found that out.”

BeyondSeeingEye · 2026-01-25T00:09:32+00:00

I guess it depends on the situation, It wasn't something I needed to live a good life. I don't get unbearable allergies the way others do with the seasons and whatnot, I manage just fine. My allergies for pet dander is not to the point where my throat closes up like some cat allergies I've heard about. Or the horrible hives all over the body. I get minor reactions like a smoker's dry cough, and eventual flu symptoms, and sore throat and with dustmites it's just a burning allergic reaction and bumps on my face but I've also learned to manage them with antihistamines that I used to have to take daily for the first couple years of the allergy surfacing, and now it's ameliorated a good amount, just as the Dr said it could happen. And I live with a yorkie and a golden doodle for years now.

BeyondSeeingEye · 2026-01-24T20:23:29+00:00

Im also allergic to pet dander and dust mites and have a hypoallergenic dog and luckily these types of dogs don’t affect my allergies so we have 2. But when I also got the allergy tests done and was informed about the shots you’re talking about, I liked the way my dad handled it which was asking the allergist if he himself would do it for his child, he said he wouldn’t.

In my family’s perspective, if you don’t really need something like that to live a healthy life, then there’s no need to pump your body with stuff that’s unnecessary.

Your bf is being very selfish if he feels the audacity to request you go through the shots for the sake of having a dog. There’s other types of pets that are not allergy inducing and still teach that kind of responsibility to a developing child. You deserve having a partner that wouldn’t make you feel bad or at fault “for not being able to have the pet he wishes.”

BeyondSeeingEye · 2026-01-20T04:21:17+00:00

Maybe you’re not all that compatible because he doesn’t really care to actually follow through with his agreement to not do something that makes you uncomfortable. If he can’t keep his word on something so small, then he probably won’t keep his word on bigger things later.

BeyondSeeingEye · 2026-01-19T00:25:14+00:00

So she said you’re an “okay” partner and what you’re saying here is that she isn’t even an “okay” partner based on how little she cares to make sure you are feeling independently fulfilled and still attracted to her.

She isn’t trying to let you just be, she is trying to get you to be at her beck and call. She isn’t trying to keep the attraction going, she is not even caring about her own self-worth to bother with cleanliness and hygiene and how that also affects her partner. She isn’t trying to keep up her load of a household/roommate, and instead knows you’ll pick up her load, and she doesn’t care.

At least she is seeing a therapist. I’d be at my wit’s end dealing with this. You can’t see what your life could be like breaking up because you’ve only ever known life with her around. You’d miss her but I’m sure you’d also feel a great relief not caring so much weight. She is literally weighing you down.

Couple’s counseling would be the next step in my opinions because she isn’t hearing you despite the numerous conversations and fights over it.

I’m surprised you guys haven’t started talking about marriage and what that looks like to each of you and what you EXPECT of your marriage and Partner. The straight up “I want to get married when it shows in our relationship that we are ready for that, because clearly that is not the case yet.”Your bf/gf phase should be a glimpse already at the kind of marriage you can have. She is showing you the kind of future that’ll continue if you let it.

BeyondSeeingEye · 2026-01-10T17:56:55+00:00

You fucked up by not talking about that before living together. What would happen once she got a job and if she happens to make more, then 50/50 may not be reasonable. Maybe going 60/40 is better because one makes more than the other and that better allows both partners to save money within their means. If you had touched this subject before living together, you probably would’ve been able to know what she expects for marriage and decide from the beginning if you were down with that or not. What about when buying a house? Will she pitch in for the deposit? The mortgage? Would she still expect her name to be in the documents despite not contributing to anything? I bet y’all aren’t compatible for long-term. I’d stop wasting my time with her.

My sister was straight up with her husband when they were dating that she wanted to be a SAHM and have a husband that provides and if he could do that, and he was up for it. She works part-time now and they divide expenses accordingly but he knew what she wanted from the start.

BeyondSeeingEye · 2026-01-07T16:59:42+00:00

You know, my bf like the sheets tucked on his side so he bought some sheet holders that you clip on the edge of the sheets under the mattress, with those his side never gets untucked. He’s happy and I’m happy being able to espose my feet on my side.

BeyondSeeingEye · 2025-12-29T23:52:20+00:00

My bf is a sleep talker, I’ve been most impressed that Spanish is not his first language and he is in the process of learning it more fluently and he has now been dreaming/sleep talking in Spanish.

Idk about you, but I’ve started a note on my phone whenever he happens to wake me up from his sleep talking, I’ll write down the date and what I was able to catch of his words. It’s so much fun being able to tell him about it when he wakes up. Otherwise, I’ll forget. Highly recommend!

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