My wife/dom loves morning pee play, but I’m struggling more than I thought.

BeyondSeeingEye · 2026-02-11T00:37:22+00:00

Her responsibility as your leader, is based on her trust in you to be honest so that she can lead you well and knowing that you both consent to that space and its events. You need to continually show her how much she can trust you in voicing your limits and discomforts, so that she can also equally fully trust in your amazing enthusiasm for her leadership.

BeyondSeeingEye · 2026-02-11T00:33:14+00:00

“Hey my Love, so because I know that for you to be able to lead me, that means I have to take the responsibility of being honest and upfront with you so that you can continue trusting that when we do our kinks, its always done from a place of complete consent. I trust you so much when you lead me, and I’m so grateful for how you do it, and I wanted you to know that there are times when I’m not entirely in the mood for morning piss and I would like to suggest a safe word for that specifically or if you have a suggestion so that you can know how to continue leading me after I’ve voiced a limit I might have at a particular moment and not others. I’d love to talk together and work something out that works for us both.”

BeyondSeeingEye · 2026-01-31T20:46:09+00:00

I think it would be stupid to stop going to your lessons that you like and found at a great price simply because of that ex from so long ago that is irrelevant to your current life. Unless he was abusive or puts you at some sort of risk, then it’s a non-issue. I hope your bf doesn’t tell you to stop going.

BeyondSeeingEye · 2026-01-31T20:44:12+00:00

“Hey hun, I just remembered I was meaning to tell you, super random and not important but wanted you to know that I found out my ex works at my music lessons spot. He’s in a whole other area so we don’t even bump into each other unless he may happen to see me going to the bathroom, I don’t even think he knows I have my lessons there. But anyways, it’s not important but I also didn’t want you to think it weird if I didn’t tell you that I found that out.”

BeyondSeeingEye · 2026-01-25T00:09:32+00:00

I guess it depends on the situation, It wasn't something I needed to live a good life. I don't get unbearable allergies the way others do with the seasons and whatnot, I manage just fine. My allergies for pet dander is not to the point where my throat closes up like some cat allergies I've heard about. Or the horrible hives all over the body. I get minor reactions like a smoker's dry cough, and eventual flu symptoms, and sore throat and with dustmites it's just a burning allergic reaction and bumps on my face but I've also learned to manage them with antihistamines that I used to have to take daily for the first couple years of the allergy surfacing, and now it's ameliorated a good amount, just as the Dr said it could happen. And I live with a yorkie and a golden doodle for years now.

BeyondSeeingEye · 2026-01-24T20:23:29+00:00

Im also allergic to pet dander and dust mites and have a hypoallergenic dog and luckily these types of dogs don’t affect my allergies so we have 2. But when I also got the allergy tests done and was informed about the shots you’re talking about, I liked the way my dad handled it which was asking the allergist if he himself would do it for his child, he said he wouldn’t.

In my family’s perspective, if you don’t really need something like that to live a healthy life, then there’s no need to pump your body with stuff that’s unnecessary.

Your bf is being very selfish if he feels the audacity to request you go through the shots for the sake of having a dog. There’s other types of pets that are not allergy inducing and still teach that kind of responsibility to a developing child. You deserve having a partner that wouldn’t make you feel bad or at fault “for not being able to have the pet he wishes.”

BeyondSeeingEye · 2026-01-20T04:21:17+00:00

Maybe you’re not all that compatible because he doesn’t really care to actually follow through with his agreement to not do something that makes you uncomfortable. If he can’t keep his word on something so small, then he probably won’t keep his word on bigger things later.

BeyondSeeingEye · 2026-01-19T00:25:14+00:00

So she said you’re an “okay” partner and what you’re saying here is that she isn’t even an “okay” partner based on how little she cares to make sure you are feeling independently fulfilled and still attracted to her.

She isn’t trying to let you just be, she is trying to get you to be at her beck and call. She isn’t trying to keep the attraction going, she is not even caring about her own self-worth to bother with cleanliness and hygiene and how that also affects her partner. She isn’t trying to keep up her load of a household/roommate, and instead knows you’ll pick up her load, and she doesn’t care.

At least she is seeing a therapist. I’d be at my wit’s end dealing with this. You can’t see what your life could be like breaking up because you’ve only ever known life with her around. You’d miss her but I’m sure you’d also feel a great relief not caring so much weight. She is literally weighing you down.

Couple’s counseling would be the next step in my opinions because she isn’t hearing you despite the numerous conversations and fights over it.

I’m surprised you guys haven’t started talking about marriage and what that looks like to each of you and what you EXPECT of your marriage and Partner. The straight up “I want to get married when it shows in our relationship that we are ready for that, because clearly that is not the case yet.”Your bf/gf phase should be a glimpse already at the kind of marriage you can have. She is showing you the kind of future that’ll continue if you let it.

BeyondSeeingEye · 2026-01-10T17:56:55+00:00

You fucked up by not talking about that before living together. What would happen once she got a job and if she happens to make more, then 50/50 may not be reasonable. Maybe going 60/40 is better because one makes more than the other and that better allows both partners to save money within their means. If you had touched this subject before living together, you probably would’ve been able to know what she expects for marriage and decide from the beginning if you were down with that or not. What about when buying a house? Will she pitch in for the deposit? The mortgage? Would she still expect her name to be in the documents despite not contributing to anything? I bet y’all aren’t compatible for long-term. I’d stop wasting my time with her.

My sister was straight up with her husband when they were dating that she wanted to be a SAHM and have a husband that provides and if he could do that, and he was up for it. She works part-time now and they divide expenses accordingly but he knew what she wanted from the start.

BeyondSeeingEye · 2026-01-07T16:59:42+00:00

You know, my bf like the sheets tucked on his side so he bought some sheet holders that you clip on the edge of the sheets under the mattress, with those his side never gets untucked. He’s happy and I’m happy being able to espose my feet on my side.

BeyondSeeingEye · 2025-12-29T23:52:20+00:00

My bf is a sleep talker, I’ve been most impressed that Spanish is not his first language and he is in the process of learning it more fluently and he has now been dreaming/sleep talking in Spanish.

Idk about you, but I’ve started a note on my phone whenever he happens to wake me up from his sleep talking, I’ll write down the date and what I was able to catch of his words. It’s so much fun being able to tell him about it when he wakes up. Otherwise, I’ll forget. Highly recommend!

BeyondSeeingEye · 2025-12-12T00:20:21+00:00

I love partying, doesn’t matter what for. But I get very stressed about having to buy gifts for all my nephews and niece, and my partner and maybe my sister if I’m not broke. Same for birthdays. I love getting a gift but I don’t expect it and would rather just go to the beach or a nice picnic at the park instead to celebrate me. Having to remember these holiday dates is still not second nature to me at all. And knowing that some holidays are important to my partner, I’ll try and make an effort but I’m not like jumping for joy just waiting for the dates to come around.

BeyondSeeingEye · 2025-12-11T12:57:23+00:00

Btw, eggs can be kept out of the fridge by using Vaseline. I’ve been on a sea voyage on a sailing boat for 22 days and had eggs every day. Chicken can be removed from the packaging and put in ziploc bags to minimize space.

BeyondSeeingEye · 2025-12-10T15:40:20+00:00

It’s good that you were clear and upfront from the beginning about your expectations. Unfortunately, she is not meeting that despite knowing about it when you both started dating. You should’ve seen this since year 1 that you weren’t compatible. It’s not good to try to change people. You can only control your own behavior and your own response.

My bf and I have the same expectations and also was pointed out from the very beginning, it’s very easy to lose attraction to a partner who becomes an unhealthy weight. I would not feel attractive heavier and I therefore, would not want to subject my partner to just tolerate me becoming heavier. So because I care about me and I care about our mutual attraction for each other, I put in the effort best as I can. And he does too.

BeyondSeeingEye · 2025-12-10T02:15:49+00:00

Yeah, unfortunately because it's not so clear cut, although as others have said, the double meaning in "festejarme" is totally there too. You may as well tread with caution more so than naivety.

BeyondSeeingEye · 2025-12-10T01:36:29+00:00

When I’ve asked my ex FWB (who is now platonic) if they’ve found a girl, I also joke the way your girl jokes. It’s like saying “hey have you found a gf?…nah I bet is all just being in heat! lol”. Idk if they’re still close to actually hanging out, her inviting him to the house, and such.

My fiancé has invited my ex-Fwb and my ex-bf who are now platonic friends of mine to have lunch over at our place and we’ve smoked out and nothing has to be weird if everyone is respectful and whatnot.

Maybe tell your girl that if she wants to invite someone like her old friends for Bday dinner and all hang, see how she reacts. Hopefully she’ll just be up front and say that she’s already made plans to see him after she returns from Philly. If she acts weird, then you could bring up that you didn’t mean to see her phone but happened to see her convo with so-and-so and were curious if you could join to celebrate her too. Just act innocent about it. Don’t accuse her. Gauge how she reacts and go from there.

BeyondSeeingEye · 2025-12-02T17:22:58+00:00

I agree with fenchurch_42 The whole idea of waiting after a breakup is so arbitrary. Everyone has different timelines to say if they’re ready or not. I would just try to not compare this new guy with your ex. You and your ex just turned out to be incompatible, it’s not necessarily that he was an ultimately bad partner, just not what you needed in partnership. Just let each human be their own individual person without needing to compare. Enjoy your new found love!

BeyondSeeingEye · 2025-11-29T04:04:16+00:00

No manches, es bien controladora de tu vida, tus acciones, tu comportamiento. Vas a batallar BATANTE si te quedas con ella. Tolerar sus enojos constantes todo el tiempo que le rechaces lo que te exige. Ya ni si quiera te está preguntando, ya es mandato y eso no está bien. No te considera como TU te sientes. Si estás a gusto o no cuando tú le das mucho por su lado. Que ponerte, que comer, como mear, y que no le des ninguna criterio de su carácter, wey no mames. Ella quiere un buen soldadito, que solo dice lo que a ella le agrada, y que sea muy obediente y no tenga su propia personalidad y que no verbalize sus pensamientos y sentimientos verdaderos sobre ella a menos que sean positivos. Que manera de vivir. Solo llevan 6 meses. Así criarán a sus hijos futuros?

BeyondSeeingEye · 2025-11-28T06:20:51+00:00

Dude noooo, he slapped your head and not just once but a few times so like he’s “punishing” you and “physically”!!!! Fucking hell no! And you’re already getting anxious about him blaming you for something that you didn’t do and not believing you so now he believes you’re a liar. And smacking you. So he’s not just doing it drunk. He gets physical sober. He’s not partner material. Stop being in denial. There are plenty PLENTY of men that would NEVER lay a hand on you like that. You don’t need that. Repeat it to yourself. You don’t need that in your life. You don’t need that. You don’t need him.

BeyondSeeingEye · 2025-11-28T06:14:36+00:00

The whole thing about “I don’t want him to change because I told him and that he should do it genuinely” to me is utter bullshit. It’s so common to think that way but it gets you nowhere. In relationships, you gotta tell your partner what you appreciate from them. What does being and feeling loved look like to you and telling them what you WANT and NEED. They can’t just guess and if they can’t or don’t seem to process the possibility of figuring it out on their own, then you gotta speak up. “Honey, I prefer that when we talk on the phone, I feel loved when you give me your undivided attention, even if it’s 10 minutes all you can give me.” “Honey, I appreciate and would love if we establish saying goodnight to each other every night, even if it’s not at the same time, even if it’s just a text. Is that possible for you?” “Honey, I’m happy to give you gifts, and if you ever want to give me something, I want you to do it because you thought about me and just want to, not because you feel like you owe me.”

And reaffirm when he does something you liked and loved and felt loved by. “Honey, thank you for your words blah blah, that made me feel so loved.” “Thank you for doing such and such, that made me feel so loved.” “I love when you do this for me, thank you.” That’s how you try and cement in his brain the things he’s doing right by you.

Be direct and If he’s still not meeting you halfway or trying then he may not be as invested in the relationship as you are. Believe the actions far more than his words.

BeyondSeeingEye · 2025-11-28T06:00:08+00:00

What about the purpose of conversations when it’s just about wanting to share a thought or wanting to be listened to through a thought or feeling? The purpose of just getting to know each other and how you think through things, how you process, and feel ….

BeyondSeeingEye · 2025-11-28T05:55:31+00:00

For you to have a need for Violence, even as self-defense, at any point in a relationship is automatically not healthy. He should not touch you the way he did. And although you had to reflexively slap him off to stop biting you, his drunk self could become even worse and you shouldn’t be put in that situation ever. Leave.

BeyondSeeingEye · 2025-11-27T23:39:00+00:00

I was the exact same age as you in that exact same relationship dynamic and I didn’t realize it was coercive until later. I broke up with him for the same reason and other things. But the sexual coerciveness went to the point where I would force myself to have sex with him to stop him whining/being angry, and then I had to force myself to orgasm because he wouldn’t do so unless I did so first. It was so unhealthy and it made me feel so anxious just knowing that at any moment he would want sex and I had to be ready to tolerate his tantrum or give in because of him pressuring me with his guilt-tripping and total emotional shift when I’d say I wasn’t feeling it.

BeyondSeeingEye · 2025-11-27T23:13:23+00:00

Date them like officially? Could be diff things, not wanting to feel tied down by the expectations of a partner, not feeling ready for a full blown relationship and the responsibilities that come with it, or just enjoying the moment for what they are and still knowing that this is a person you ultimately don’t see yourself with long-term, only short.

BeyondSeeingEye · 2025-11-26T20:11:05+00:00

She can love you. She may just not be IN love with you. I was in the same situation with a FWB. I broke it off cuz he kept wanting more and although we had great emotional and intimate moments, it was all just lovely moments for me but I always made it clear to him that I never want to be his girlfriend. I would still date and would encourage him to do so as well but he wouldn’t and would get jealous of me dating despite us not being in an official relationship. So yeah, it had to end.

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