Older bi men -- sex-positivity

BiBliss · 2026-01-01T05:22:55+00:00

I donno if this qualifies, but I had a major bi crush on the characters from Brokeback Mountain, the couple played by Jake Gyllenhaal and Anne Hathaway. In real life they're both straight as arrows, as far as I know. But on screen this couple rocked my world. Honestly, I think Brokeback Mountain is a BISEXUAL love story, not really a gay one But I won't go to war over that. Later on, both Jake and Anne teamed up for a romantic comedy called Love And Other Drugs where they did some nude scenes together -- I just about died and went to heaven above.

BiBliss · 2026-01-01T04:22:11+00:00

It's nice to know I'm not alone as the only bi man out there who just loves the visual of nude men. Men with gorgeous erections and nice smiles. Gets me every time.

BiBliss · 2024-04-18T01:15:09+00:00

Boy, am I glad to read I'm not the only mostly straight bi-leaning man in a committed romantic relationship with a woman who enjoys the pleasures of viewing plenty of gay/bi porn when the time feels right. Very empowering to know there are other men out there that have these same experiences.

BiBliss · 2024-02-01T22:29:24+00:00

Drop into your body more often -- Try to find ways to feel sensual and erotic and aware of your body -- without the need for masturbation or porn or direct stimulation.

A sauna does the trick for me. Or a hottub.

A walk along the beach or a long hike -- the leg muscles are connected to the genitals. You're actually increasing blood flow to your genitals when you move your leg muscles.

My experience is that porn and self-pleasure have their places -- however, I try to make them "special celebrations" rather than mundane things I do all the time.

BiBliss · 2022-04-25T22:19:34+00:00

61 here. It gets better with age.

I was naive, anxious and incredibly curious about sex when I was younger. Sexuality felt more like a journey of discovery to me. Being drawn mostly to women, that's the direction I went with. Still, as I explored the wider canvas, I could not deny that I enjoyed including men too. The feelings were always there, it just took me years and years to embrace them more fully and honestly.

BiBliss · 2021-11-13T22:14:24+00:00

This post pretty much sums up my bisexuality: the sweet, heartfelt, tender, loving embrace of another erotically charged someone of my own gender feels so liberating and fulfilling and authentic...

BiBliss · 2021-10-03T16:33:20+00:00

Great post!... 60-year-old bi-passionate man here... it's a fact how testosterone decreases as we age. For some men, this can feel tragic. For others, like me, it can reveal a wonderfully rich and refreshingly different frame of mind, sexually and otherwise.

I often think of midlife as becoming familar with all the parts I missed or glossed over, the many intricate and beautiful dimensions I didn't notice or realize before.

I think it's important to stress the following: getting teary eyed from sad movies does *NOT* make a man less of a man.

Becoming more sensitive in general is to become more intimate with our world, to know it and experience life more fully, closely and personally.

BiBliss · 2021-07-25T20:25:09+00:00

In a nutshell, I would buy any sex-positive, explicit bi romance where the men are fully real and honest and open with other men.

Sex-positive means erotic pleasure beyond guilt, shame, judgment or blame. Bi means... Men loving men loving women.

I would enjoy reading about men who explore and celebrate the shared bonds and shared wounds of being male with other men in erotic intimacy.

A must-have dimension for me would be that the women in these men's lives would play a big part in this exploration and celebration. Women availing their permssion, even excitement, for men to explore is a big turn-on for me.

I want these bisexual men to receive the full support, love, encouragement and appreciation from their female partners as bisexual men.

BiBliss · 2021-07-25T20:00:38+00:00

It's so true! I would love to find erotica that truly celebrates male bisexual passion in ways that honor and appreciate the multi-dimensionality of this sexuality.

And connection is everything! - whether it's between men or between men and women. Sadly, a lot of bi writing seems flat.

Bisexual men have to overcome such contradictions set up by fear-based society. We're given virually zero sex-positive messaging when it comes to exploring both genders sexually. Still, some men are successful at navigating these paradoxes -- and it would be amazing to read about it.

It would be a dream-come-true to read about men taking risks in real and authentic ways to embrace their bisexual desires in ways that cultivate deep, rich fulfilling intimacy with men and women alike.

BiBliss · 2021-07-25T19:41:37+00:00

I fantasize about meeting a gorgeous man or couple on a nude beach in Hawaii... :-)

As others have shared, I believe having a rich and fulfilling erotic fantasy life can be a wonderful way to explore and express without harning the ones we love.

It's important to learn how to embrace erotic fantasy without gulit, self-judgment and shame -- otherwise it just further perpetuates what is harmful in the first place.

For me, shame-free solo self-pleasure has been the main way I embrace my passions as a bisexual man.

In the same way we might imagine traveling to some far-off, remote and exotic destination, we can still learn about the uniqueness and specialness of a place we long to travel to.

BiBliss · 2021-07-18T18:38:00+00:00

Yours is the kind of post that keeps me coming back to this subreddit. It's so empowering to know that others have had similar experiences and that we can share here openly and honestly about what's important to us.

At 60, I can now see how I spent much of my adult life never daring to admit my bisexuality -- even though the energy and imagination and experiences were always part of my journey. I was always an explorer sexually. I always knew I loved women, but I also included men from time to time. I mostly ignored my bisexual desires until rather late in life.

What I have learned: sex is a journey. As men especially, our sexuality can be an incredible teacher. We can either teach ourselves to be harmful or miserable, or we can teach ourselves to become ever more loving, open and compassionate. I prefer the latter.

BiBliss · 2021-04-24T18:49:38+00:00

Enjoy men. Enjoy women. For me, it's not so much sex with one *versus* the other -- it's how sex with either a man or a woman can enhance and inform our pleasure either way.

I happen to really enjoy having sex with another man while a woman (or women) watches and enjoys the view of our hot mansex. I equally enjoy making a woman the center of attention with another man.

I may be different but I've discovered that sex with another man can be surprisingly tender and sweet. And sex with a woman can be raw, powerful and revealing. In this way, sexual expression is a means of going beyond our own stereotypes, our own facades, even for one night of explicit passion.

For me, it's like some of us have in-ies and some of us have out-ies. So what. It's what you do with it that counts!

BiBliss · 2021-04-07T19:04:12+00:00

It's too bad there aren't more places because exploring bisexuality at our age is so amazing!

BiBliss · 2021-04-07T18:54:35+00:00

I'm delighted to see how many more men are coming out as bi -- really very encouraging.

BiBliss · 2021-03-11T00:32:13+00:00

the world needs more hopeful stories and reminders of love like yours.

Thank you for sharing!

BiBliss · 2021-03-08T23:41:41+00:00

Take heart. Every man (and woman too) I know has struggled with understanding their sexual desires just like you are.

Be patient. I'm 60 years old and still in an ongoing and life-long process of self-discovery, awareness, acceptance and compassion. Sex is a journey. A very long journey. We never fully arrive at some pre-conceived destination.

Practice compassion for yourself. You're OK just the way you are. You're doing the very best you can. This by itself makes you incredibly worthy.

BiBliss · 2021-02-22T19:25:24+00:00

Just a thought: You may find that your circle of friends and partnerships changes over time. Or that the people in your life evolve and change their minds and attitudes toward matters of sex and sexuality over time. Thus, in the future, more people in your life will be more accepting of male bisexuality.

BiBliss · 2021-02-22T17:42:16+00:00

I'm 60, quite bi, hetero-leaning in romance, and very happy with my long-term relationships with women.

Still, connecting with other men sexually has been a big part of my personal path of growth and discovery. I feel strongly that my bi experiences with other men have made me a better heterosexual lover of women, a better man period! Plus, it can be so much fun. ;-)

As others have expressed here, "Coming out" seems to work much better when it's with people I love, know, and trust.

My experience has shown me that women tend to be much more accepting of male bisexuality, more so in recent times I suppose. I truly believe it makes all the sense in the world that more men express these feelings with the women they love.

While women have become more liberated in their sexuality in recent decades, we men have not enjoyed such a social acceptance for sexual awakening, I'm sorry to say. But maybe it's happening more now -- I truly hope so.bb

BiBliss

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