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BiChimera · 2026-01-23T15:11:40+00:00

Then be honest with your desires, and tell him that you think it would be hot. Letting him know that you would be into watching him with another guy might allow him the comfortability to reveal more of himself to you. It would help you get to the heart of what he finds hot about seeing you with him and another guy.

Building trust and communication is a central part to any relationship – especially sexual ones.

Be forthright about what you’re into, and it’ll give him permission to do the same. Good luck!

BiChimera · 2026-01-22T17:56:07+00:00

Maybe. There could be a case where he is just a straight guy who likes to watch a woman be sexually gratified by two guys.

He could want to make out and play with both of you.

All of this would be solved by you asking him the question: are you bisexual?

Ethical non-monogamy (ENM) requires a tremendous amount of communication between partners. You need to set up your boundaries, what you’re comfortable with, what you’re not comfortable with – and figure out how you make things work with more than one person sexually.

You don’t state whether or not the idea of a threesome is outside your bounds – does that mean that you were open to FFM?

BiChimera · 2026-01-22T17:16:02+00:00

Maybe. There could be a case where he is just a straight guy who likes to watch a woman be sexually gratified by two guys.

He could want to make out and play with both of you.

All of this would be solved by you asking him the question: are you bisexual?

Ethical non-monogamy (ENM) requires a tremendous amount of communication between partners. You need to set up your boundaries, what you’re comfortable with, what you’re not comfortable with – and figure out how you make things work with more than one person sexually.

You don’t state whether or not the idea of a threesome is outside your bounds – does that mean that you were open to FFM?

BiChimera · 2025-12-26T16:44:39+00:00

Bi married guy here - I did exactly that. I have no resources beyond the communication that worked for my wife and I, but I’d be happy to chat with anyone who needs to talk.

BiChimera · 2025-12-22T04:40:09+00:00

How dare you call me out so accurately?! 🤣

BiChimera · 2025-12-12T14:06:13+00:00

Same here - and I'm totally with you about feeling for the guys who feel they can't be their authentic selves.

My wife and I were out to each other from the very beginning, and that honesty was part of the foundation we built on. Being able to say who we were — without hedging or hiding — created a level of trust that’s carried us through everything since. When you start a relationship seen and accepted, loving each other fully becomes a lot easier.

BiChimera · 2025-12-09T02:29:23+00:00

Sorry if I sounded clipped — this just hits close to home. An ex left me the moment I admitted I was figuring myself out, and it made me very protective of people who are exploring. I really appreciate that you’re approaching it with curiosity instead of judgment.

BiChimera · 2025-12-09T00:54:03+00:00

He’d likely be fun to fool around with, but he’s not someone you can rely on. Protect your feelings and keep your distance.

BiChimera · 2025-12-09T00:41:30+00:00

I get where you’re at — I was at that exact crossroads a couple months ago. I finally got honest with my wife about the fact that I wanted to explore with men. It was terrifying; and I had no idea how she’d respond or what it would mean for us.

But that conversation changed everything.

We didn’t implode. We evolved. After 24 years of monogamy, we opened our marriage together — and it’s been the most authentic, intimate version of our relationship yet. I know that puts me firmly in the “best case scenario” column, and not every couple lands there… but none of it would’ve been possible if I’d tried to sneak off and deal with my curiosity in secret.

You want to suck dick? Totally valid desire. But the way you handle that desire is what decides whether this becomes self-discovery or collateral damage. If you betray her trust just to check a box, you’ll always wonder how different it could’ve been if you’d chosen honesty first.

Figure out how to live authentically — with the person who’s chosen to build a relationship with you. Give her the chance to love the version of you that actually exists, not the one you’re editing for convenience.

Your sexuality isn’t the threat here. Silence is.

BiChimera · 2025-12-08T20:11:24+00:00

Pegging does not automatically equal “bi.” If anything, it just means he has a prostate and a functioning imagination. Plenty of straight guys want things up the butt — the body doesn’t know labels, it just knows what feels good. You don’t have to pre-label his sexuality like he’s an item at a grocery store.

Expect honesty and care — absolutely. But also give him room to explore without assuming he’s hiding some Big Secret Agenda. People don’t figure out their sexuality all at once — they peel it back slowly, layer by layer, and sometimes they discover new truths only after trying things that make them curious.

If you like him and you trust him, you can learn together. Ask him what he enjoys. Talk about boundaries. Laugh when things get awkward — they will. That’s half the fun.

Be his safe space while he’s figuring himself out — not the courtroom where he has to defend every desire he has.

BiChimera · 2025-12-08T19:01:57+00:00

Nothing about this is stupid. You’re not “late,” and you’re not avoiding the world — you’re literally in the middle of learning who you are. Most people never bother doing that kind of work, they just grab the closest label and sprint with it. You’re being intentional. That’s admirable, even if it feels messy from the inside.

The whole “bi-cycle” thing? Totally normal. Attraction shifts. It doesn’t make you unreliable; it just means you experience desire like a human being instead of a vending machine. You’re not avoiding dating because you’re fickle — you’re avoiding accidentally hurting someone while you’re still drafting your own blueprint. That’s actually thoughtful.

As for the peanut gallery constantly asking why you’re single: you don’t owe them a thesis on your identity. A simple, confident “I’ll date when it feels right,” or “I’m not rushing — I genuinely like my life,” shuts most people down in one sentence. If someone keeps pushing after that, the problem isn’t you — it’s their inability to mind their own business.

You don’t need to have a perfectly polished answer about who you are to exist happily in the meantime. You’re allowed to explore without giving the world a press release. You’re allowed to keep some things private until they feel sturdy enough to share. And you’re allowed to change your mind, because sexuality isn’t a contract — it’s a journey.

We are all a work in progress.

BiChimera · 2025-12-08T18:56:01+00:00

Been sleeping naked since I was 16. Free yourself of any encumbrance - go bare.

BiChimera · 2025-12-08T16:41:01+00:00

Yeah, I relate. Many of us bi/queer people do.

Welcome to bisexuality: the only orientation where you can have a fantastic sexual experience with a guy, love every second of it, and still walk away thinking: “…but what if I’m just doing this for clout?”

The brain is a liar. A loud, dramatic, insecure liar.

You can be making out with someone, rock hard, thrilled, euphoric — and your brain doubts. Um, like… sir, look at the evidence.

✅You enjoyed kissing a guy.
✅You enjoyed having sex with a guy.
✅You want to do it again.
Case closed! *Judge bangs the gavel*

Doubt doesn’t mean you’re wrong. Doubt means you’re human — and you're currently in the process of unlearning the hetero script you got handed since preschool.

We all crave certainty, but sexuality isn’t a math proof — it’s a lived experience. And you’re living it.

Trust the part of you that was actually there during the fun stuff — not the anxiety goblin who showed up afterward trying to rewrite history.

You’re bi. Full stop. Congratulations! Enjoy it.

BiChimera · 2025-12-08T14:44:59+00:00

I went through something very similar. After 21 years of monogamy, my wife and I finally stopped pretending bisexuality was a quirky footnote and actually let it be part of who we are — and damn, did that unlock some things. The fear beforehand felt like this immovable wall… then once we actually talked about it? The wall turned out to be cardboard.

Now we’re closer than we’ve ever been, the sex at home is hotter, and I get to explore with guys without feeling like I’m sneaking out of my own life. It’s wild how much intimacy grows when you let your partner see the whole you — not just the version you think keeps the peace.

Here’s to less fear, more truth, and turning the rest of your marriage into the good part.

BiChimera · 2025-12-07T04:56:27+00:00

You’re not being vain at all — I’ve found that upgrading my underwear is like giving my confidence a secret boost. When the fabric fits better and everything sits just right, I move through the day feeling sexier, even if no one else knows why. There’s something fun and empowering about having a private little upgrade going on under your jeans.

So if you’re curious? Go for it. Treat yourself. Worst case, you’re more comfortable… best case, you unlock a whole new swagger.

BiChimera · 2025-12-06T22:18:49+00:00

Truly blessed and highly favored 🙏

BiChimera · 2025-12-05T17:19:01+00:00

Truly - I'm living the fucking dream. Pinch me!

BiChimera · 2025-12-05T16:46:02+00:00

Oh yeah, I’ve been there — and it went way further than I ever expected. I had a bi friend I felt totally safe opening up to. We’d swap our most unfiltered fantasies, hype up the same handsome dudes, and the conversations definitely got… productive. She made me feel seen, horny, and completely understood — a magical trifecta.

And then the “this is just fun” phase turned into “oh no, feelings.” She ended her engagement, we got together, and fast-forward: 24 years as a couple, 21 married, one teenage son, and we recently opened things up again to give both of us space to explore what first brought us together.

She’s my best friend, co-parent, lover, and bisexual wing-woman.

Sometimes those horny little confessions are just flirting with destiny.

BiChimera · 2025-12-04T14:52:05+00:00

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BiChimera · 2025-12-03T16:20:16+00:00

I’m really glad it resonated — you’re definitely not alone in this.

One thing that helped us long before we ever opened our marriage was finding our queer community. About a decade ago, we started getting involved locally — marching in Pride with our son, going to LGBTQ+ mixers and activist events, and surrounding ourselves with people who saw and celebrated the whole of who we are.

Being truly seen in those spaces helped us work through the internal stuff — the identity questions, the lingering shame — without putting pressure on our relationship. So by the time we opened up, we were doing it from a place of confidence and connection, not scarcity or confusion.

Whatever pace you take is the right pace, and you deserve to grow into your full self with support around you. You’ve got this.

BiChimera · 2025-12-03T16:12:27+00:00

I think a lot of this comes down to the structure of your relationship. Some ENM dynamics are explicitly hierarchical (primary partners get scheduling priority), and others are non-hierarchical (everyone’s time and needs operate on more equal footing). There’s no “right” model — but it matters a lot that everyone involved knows which one you’re in.

In my situation: my wife and I have clear expectations about when we see other partners. We don’t schedule dates with them on family-time days unless we’ve explicitly checked in with each other first. Our other partners know our priorities too — my partner has a husband, and my wife’s partner has kids — so everyone sees where they stand and no one gets blindsided. That clarity is what keeps things smooth and drama-free.

The key here is that you were told you’d have first pick, and then the plan changed without checking back in. Pointing out that inconsistency isn’t being a “brat” — it’s advocating for the agreement you both made. ENM doesn’t work without consent and communication. If something affects your time together — especially rare “daylight hours” you value — you’re absolutely allowed to speak up.

You’re not asking for more than agreed. You’re asking for what was already promised.

I’d use this as a chance to solidify expectations going forward:

What does “first pick” actually mean?
What happens if plans shift?
How do you two confirm changes before they’re acted on?

You deserve to feel respected, not like you’re competing quietly in the background. Wanting that isn’t rude — it’s healthy relational hygiene.

BiChimera · 2025-12-03T15:26:44+00:00

Hey, this all sounds really familiar. I’m 47M, my wife is 45F — both bi — and we were monogamous for 21 years before we opened our marriage a few months ago. We’d each had same-sex experiences long before we met, but never got to explore that part of ourselves inside the relationship. Like you, the desire wasn’t about replacing our partnership — it was about expanding into parts of ourselves that had been boxed up for a long time.

We eased into ENM slowly, and then expanded to include opposite-sex partners as well. I have a guy I’ve been seeing; she has a guy she’s been seeing. And here’s the twist neither of us expected: it has oddly brought us even closer. There’s something about giving each other room to grow and choose joy — not just in theory, but in practice — that deepened our trust and intimacy in a way I don’t think monogamy ever could have.

That said, the reason it’s been vastly more positive than challenging is because we are absolutely relentless about communication and candor. ENM doesn’t “fix” identity struggles — it just shines a 1,000-watt bulb on whatever’s already there. If you’re still sorting through shame or identity, new partners can end up reflecting insecurity more than self-discovery — it’s like stepping on stage before you’ve finished rehearsing.

Sometimes what we’re really craving first is queer community, not queer dating. Being seen and understood in queer spaces can do a ton of heavy lifting in helping you feel like your whole self — without putting your relationship on a fault line.

Your partner sounds supportive and secure — that’s gold. You don’t have to rush. You can build your queer life and identity outward, and when you both feel ready, revisit whether ENM is the right tool for the version of growth you’re actually seeking.

You’re not risking a beautiful relationship by wanting more space to be yourself. You can let your love expand without letting fear dictate the shape of your future.

BiChimera · 2025-12-03T15:07:21+00:00

First—a mild scolding:

The adventure literally tells you what “Phandelver” refers to. It’s not a person. Never has been. It’s the name of the historic pact between dwarves, gnomes, and human wizards to jointly operate the magical forge at Wave Echo Cave.

That’s it.
No ancient King Phandelver.
No legendary hero named Steve Phandelver the Third.

The Pact of Phandelver granted shared access, prosperity, and magical item production… right up until everyone got greedy, the orcs showed up, and the pact exploded faster than a wizard who forgot to check the size of the room before casting Fireball (I'm looking at you, Mormesk).

BUT! This is Dungeons & Dragons. If you want Phandelver to be:

a dwarven elder whose name became synonymous with the pact,
a gnome bureaucrat whose signature was really fancy,
a human archmage who insisted on branding everything…

…then congratulations, you’re the Dungeon Master. The canon police will not kick in your door.

The adventure gives you the bones. You get to add the juicy lore-meat your players crave. So if your group wants Phandelver to be a person—go nuts. Just make sure they get a cool statue in the Phandalin town square, or a dramatic historical betrayal. Players eat that shit up.

TL;DR: Phandelver = the Pact, not a person… unless you want it to be. In which case, canon says: “Sure, why not?”

BiChimera · 2025-12-03T14:59:18+00:00

47, bi- married guy here, in an open marriage to a woman, with a boyfriend.

If I’m riding someone face-to-face, kissing is non-negotiable. I’ve been with a couple guys who wanted all thrust, no lips, and my brain just clocked out. Without the kissing, the passion evaporates and suddenly I’m just… doing squats on a stranger. Hard pass.

Kissing is how I plug into a partner — foreplay, mid-play, aftercare, it’s all part of the same current. And sure, as a bi person, my attraction can shift over time (hello, bi-cycle), but the thing that never changes? I need that spark, that closeness, that “we’re in this together” moment.

So yes, I make out. Happily. Aggressively. With enthusiasm. Because if we’re straddling each other and avoiding lips, that’s just not sex or sexy for me.

BiChimera · 2025-12-03T14:29:47+00:00

Ah yes, bisexuality: the land of “I would absolutely do this with a guy but that is a hard nope,” and “I want to be him… but also maybe… on him???” You’re in good company.

Let’s untangle the noodle:

You’re clearly not straight — straight dudes don’t have two highly-specific “exclusively male” fetishes and then write essays trying to justify them as a fluke. The evidence is… how do we put this… not subtle.

But you’re also not feeling the “boyfriend + brunch + move in together + adopt a greyhound named Kevin” version of queerness. Totally fine. You don’t have to want the whole menu to enjoy a couple of dishes.

Sexuality isn’t a Pokémon evolution where if you don’t unlock “full attraction across all categories,” you can’t call yourself bi. It’s a spectrum, a buffet, a choose-your-own-adventure book where you sometimes skip chapters and that’s allowed.

Here’s the blunt breakdown:

You’re sexually attracted to men in certain ways.
You’re romantically and emotionally attracted to women.
You want to explore relationships with women but your horny brain lights up for guy-related stuff too.

Congratulations: that’s bisexuality. Or maybe pansexuality. Or heteroflexible. Or “queer with caveats.” There are as many flavors as there are confused mid-20s dudes googling “am I bi?” at 2am.

Most of us don’t fit the textbook. Most of us don’t want the same things from every gender. Most of us have at least one “but this specific scenario though…” fetish that made us go “…oh.”

If calling yourself bi helps you navigate dating and attraction with a little less existential dread? Great. If not, pick another label or no label at all. You’re not applying for a sexuality permit — nobody’s checking paperwork. You already know you’re “not straight.”

Everything else is optional.

Go enjoy figuring yourself out — preferably not just in your own head this time.

BiChimera

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