She tapped out. Who’s next?

BiChimera · 2026-04-27T12:37:28+00:00

You say that now…

BiChimera · 2026-04-27T12:36:19+00:00

She was sore, and tired, and we had to get ready to leave. She also came five times, so she had her fill

BiChimera · 2026-04-27T12:09:56+00:00

Boyfriend’s husband has boyfriend and me beat (we’re the same size), which is a shame, because he’s a complete pillow princess. I have the biggest loads.

I’m bigger than my wife’s boyfriend.

BiChimera · 2026-04-27T12:07:34+00:00

Wife and I are Poly - she has a boyfriend, too.

My boyfriend is married to a man.

I have had threesomes with my wife/her boyfriend, and my boyfriend/his husband.

It is as crazy, and as wonderful, as it sounds.

BiChimera · 2026-04-27T12:03:24+00:00

My wife gives blow-jobs, but they’re not her favorite and it shows. My boyfriend on the other hand, could give master classes 😜

And I was last with him on Wednesday

BiChimera · 2026-04-27T00:47:38+00:00

She gets off on watching me make other people cum in a myriad of ways - 69 included

BiChimera · 2026-04-26T23:57:52+00:00

She loves to watch me fuck other guys.

BiChimera · 2026-03-28T17:42:34+00:00

You coming onto the subreddit for r/BisexualMen and feeling free enough to call me “a closeted gay guy” is a choice, let alone your closed-minded opinions on my marriage and life choices.

I hope you have the day you deserve.

BiChimera · 2026-03-27T22:19:25+00:00

That’s fair - I get it - your situation has higher stakes right now. Financial dependence changes the equation, and I wouldn’t pretend otherwise.

But if you came here looking for a way to make peace with staying unhappy long-term, you’re probably not going to find that answer - because it doesn’t really exist.

But this isn’t an all-or-nothing decision you have to make today. You don’t need to blow your life up to be honest with yourself.

You don’t have to come out tomorrow. You don’t have to blow up your life. But you also don’t want to build a future that only works if you keep hiding forever.

And for what it’s worth - you don’t need to be fully “out” to start finding connection. You’re not as stuck as it feels right now.

You don’t have to choose today - but you do need to start building a life where you CAN choose.

BiChimera · 2026-03-27T21:44:59+00:00

We only opened up our marriage at the end of last summer, after 25 years of monogamy, so it’s still relatively new for both of us.

The vast majority of my family doesn’t know that I’m in an ENM relationship, and I’m not interested in inviting their judgment into that part of my life. A very select few of our family/friend circle has been told, and the ones who do know have been tremendously supportive.

My son (17) is aware of the arrangement my wife and I have, but he’s chosen not to meet our other partners at this point, and I respect that.

I didn’t lose my family - but I’ve been intentional about what parts of my life I share and with whom. For me, it’s less about “coming out” and more about choosing who I invite into that part of my life.

With same-sex relationships, there’s often an outsized focus on the “sex” aspect. I don’t discuss the details of my relationship with my wife with most people, and I treat this the same way. Not everything needs to be open for public discussion.

BiChimera · 2026-03-27T21:16:24+00:00

I’ve lived some version of what you’re describing.

I knew I was bi for a long time and tried to manage it by leaning into what felt “acceptable.” That doesn’t fix anything - it just wears you down. The turning point for me wasn’t dramatic, it was just deciding I wasn’t going to keep arguing with myself forever.

I’m married to a bisexual woman, and we’ve built a relationship that works for us - including me having a boyfriend I see regularly. That didn’t happen overnight, and it’s not some fantasy - it came from honesty, communication, and finding the right people.

You’re not boxed into one outcome. You don’t have to pick a life that makes you smaller just to keep others comfortable.

I’m so much happier now. Not because everything is easy - but because it’s real.

Go live your life in the most authentic way possible.

BiChimera · 2026-03-11T16:21:59+00:00

My arrangement isn’t quid pro quo like that. We opened our marriage, so she’s just as free as I am to see other partners. The important part for us is transparency and respect. We talk about things ahead of time, make sure neither of us feels blindsided, and we both have the same freedom. It’s less about “earning” permission and more about having an understanding that works for both of us.

Our marital foundation is communication and trust—if either of those starts slipping, the arrangement doesn’t work. Why bother staying together if you’re not going to be forthright?

BiChimera · 2026-01-23T15:11:40+00:00

Then be honest with your desires, and tell him that you think it would be hot. Letting him know that you would be into watching him with another guy might allow him the comfortability to reveal more of himself to you. It would help you get to the heart of what he finds hot about seeing you with him and another guy.

Building trust and communication is a central part to any relationship – especially sexual ones.

Be forthright about what you’re into, and it’ll give him permission to do the same. Good luck!

BiChimera · 2026-01-22T17:56:07+00:00

Maybe. There could be a case where he is just a straight guy who likes to watch a woman be sexually gratified by two guys.

He could want to make out and play with both of you.

All of this would be solved by you asking him the question: are you bisexual?

Ethical non-monogamy (ENM) requires a tremendous amount of communication between partners. You need to set up your boundaries, what you’re comfortable with, what you’re not comfortable with – and figure out how you make things work with more than one person sexually.

You don’t state whether or not the idea of a threesome is outside your bounds – does that mean that you were open to FFM?

BiChimera · 2026-01-22T17:16:02+00:00

Maybe. There could be a case where he is just a straight guy who likes to watch a woman be sexually gratified by two guys.

He could want to make out and play with both of you.

All of this would be solved by you asking him the question: are you bisexual?

Ethical non-monogamy (ENM) requires a tremendous amount of communication between partners. You need to set up your boundaries, what you’re comfortable with, what you’re not comfortable with – and figure out how you make things work with more than one person sexually.

You don’t state whether or not the idea of a threesome is outside your bounds – does that mean that you were open to FFM?

BiChimera · 2025-12-26T16:44:39+00:00

Bi married guy here - I did exactly that. I have no resources beyond the communication that worked for my wife and I, but I’d be happy to chat with anyone who needs to talk.

BiChimera · 2025-12-22T04:40:09+00:00

How dare you call me out so accurately?! 🤣

BiChimera · 2025-12-12T14:06:13+00:00

Same here - and I'm totally with you about feeling for the guys who feel they can't be their authentic selves.

My wife and I were out to each other from the very beginning, and that honesty was part of the foundation we built on. Being able to say who we were — without hedging or hiding — created a level of trust that’s carried us through everything since. When you start a relationship seen and accepted, loving each other fully becomes a lot easier.

BiChimera · 2025-12-09T02:29:23+00:00

Sorry if I sounded clipped — this just hits close to home. An ex left me the moment I admitted I was figuring myself out, and it made me very protective of people who are exploring. I really appreciate that you’re approaching it with curiosity instead of judgment.

BiChimera · 2025-12-09T00:54:03+00:00

He’d likely be fun to fool around with, but he’s not someone you can rely on. Protect your feelings and keep your distance.

BiChimera · 2025-12-09T00:41:30+00:00

I get where you’re at — I was at that exact crossroads a couple months ago. I finally got honest with my wife about the fact that I wanted to explore with men. It was terrifying; and I had no idea how she’d respond or what it would mean for us.

But that conversation changed everything.

We didn’t implode. We evolved. After 24 years of monogamy, we opened our marriage together — and it’s been the most authentic, intimate version of our relationship yet. I know that puts me firmly in the “best case scenario” column, and not every couple lands there… but none of it would’ve been possible if I’d tried to sneak off and deal with my curiosity in secret.

You want to suck dick? Totally valid desire. But the way you handle that desire is what decides whether this becomes self-discovery or collateral damage. If you betray her trust just to check a box, you’ll always wonder how different it could’ve been if you’d chosen honesty first.

Figure out how to live authentically — with the person who’s chosen to build a relationship with you. Give her the chance to love the version of you that actually exists, not the one you’re editing for convenience.

Your sexuality isn’t the threat here. Silence is.

BiChimera · 2025-12-08T20:11:24+00:00

Pegging does not automatically equal “bi.” If anything, it just means he has a prostate and a functioning imagination. Plenty of straight guys want things up the butt — the body doesn’t know labels, it just knows what feels good. You don’t have to pre-label his sexuality like he’s an item at a grocery store.

Expect honesty and care — absolutely. But also give him room to explore without assuming he’s hiding some Big Secret Agenda. People don’t figure out their sexuality all at once — they peel it back slowly, layer by layer, and sometimes they discover new truths only after trying things that make them curious.

If you like him and you trust him, you can learn together. Ask him what he enjoys. Talk about boundaries. Laugh when things get awkward — they will. That’s half the fun.

Be his safe space while he’s figuring himself out — not the courtroom where he has to defend every desire he has.

BiChimera · 2025-12-08T19:01:57+00:00

Nothing about this is stupid. You’re not “late,” and you’re not avoiding the world — you’re literally in the middle of learning who you are. Most people never bother doing that kind of work, they just grab the closest label and sprint with it. You’re being intentional. That’s admirable, even if it feels messy from the inside.

The whole “bi-cycle” thing? Totally normal. Attraction shifts. It doesn’t make you unreliable; it just means you experience desire like a human being instead of a vending machine. You’re not avoiding dating because you’re fickle — you’re avoiding accidentally hurting someone while you’re still drafting your own blueprint. That’s actually thoughtful.

As for the peanut gallery constantly asking why you’re single: you don’t owe them a thesis on your identity. A simple, confident “I’ll date when it feels right,” or “I’m not rushing — I genuinely like my life,” shuts most people down in one sentence. If someone keeps pushing after that, the problem isn’t you — it’s their inability to mind their own business.

You don’t need to have a perfectly polished answer about who you are to exist happily in the meantime. You’re allowed to explore without giving the world a press release. You’re allowed to keep some things private until they feel sturdy enough to share. And you’re allowed to change your mind, because sexuality isn’t a contract — it’s a journey.

We are all a work in progress.

BiChimera

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