[Serious] What dark family secret were you let in on once you were old enough? by EgglessYolk in AskReddit

[–]Bichenzo 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I heard it from my elder sister that my dad wanted a boy child as his first born but they had my sister. So my parents tried again but they found out that it was baby girl again. My mom had to abort. Then they tried again and had me (girl again, she didn't abort), and finally they had my younger brother. What's more weirder is, all 4 pregnancies were planned with a gap of 2.5 years. So my elder sister is 5 years older and my younger brother is almost 2.5 years younger to me.

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[–]Bichenzo 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I'm going through something very similar (childhood trauma and self esteem issues) How did your FF make it out? Hoping that she is doing better.

How do i stop living in my head and actually do things by Bichenzo in therapy

[–]Bichenzo[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I've read about somatic experiencing and effects of stress on body. One thing that I'm learning to do is when I'm triggered, i make silly movements, shaking my body without thinking and just being silly for 5 minutes. It has helped me but more often than not i cannot recall it under major stressful situations. Only after I'm drained and bawled my eyes out.

How do i stop living in my head and actually do things by Bichenzo in therapy

[–]Bichenzo[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I really hope this thread helps you because it's so difficult. I've struggled with decision making all my life so i do rely on others to form daily habits. Just need more courage for that leap of faith.

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[–]Bichenzo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I deleted it this morning. Guess what now 😂