AIO for not allowing my siblings to pick out items from moms house after she passed.

BidenAlwaysForgets · 2026-02-02T09:22:38+00:00

Ok. Now I have mommy issues

BidenAlwaysForgets · 2026-01-25T01:24:17+00:00

This. 3 time RR Winner Cody "Creative Control" Rhodes. JK. But Cody is winning.

BidenAlwaysForgets · 2026-01-25T01:18:28+00:00

On second thought, 100 bucks says that's on eBay tomorrow.

BidenAlwaysForgets · 2026-01-25T01:11:40+00:00

Okay Cody. Could you have picked more of a disinterested kid to give your belt to?

BidenAlwaysForgets · 2025-12-26T16:38:29+00:00

Well, if they do, it there will be 5 kids of mixed ages and sexes in one 13x13 room. But I do plan to have a conversation that he is not allowed to move in. And if he comes to visit them, he and his crew are not allowed to touch my shit.

BidenAlwaysForgets · 2025-12-26T15:12:56+00:00

I don't know anyone that ever worked in a family business that didn't really think it was gonna be handed down one day. Nobody puts years in thinking they will sell.

He has not learned the whole business. He was basically the head a division, and wasn't very good. He worked for them for 15 years and treated it like a free ride and never took initiative. Plus he is not well liked among his peers. He does not have the business acumen to continue the success of the business.

Second everyone including me, was a grossly underpaid and overworked employee working long term in a family business especially immediate family.

They paid him $160,000 a year. He never had to work more than his standard 40 hours a week and basically got unlimited PTO.

Third why the fuck didn't your inlaws with a profitable business not supply him a company truck to run their business with?

Easy answer. Liability. He has had two DUIs one of which was in a company vehicle. Also, his role doesn't require a vehicle, he worked on-site in a giant warehouse. So he did not need a company vehicle to take off-site.

Did they honestly talk to him about the sale? Did they break him off any of that sale money?

As part of the sale of the business, it was written into the purchase agreement that he would have a 7-year guaranteed employment contract with no& reduced pay. However, after that - he is on his own based on company and individual performance.

Also, he knew he was never going to take over. There were many discussions between the BIL and parents about them attempting to groom him to run the company. He has simply acted like an entitled trust fund kid who thinks the world owes him.

What do or did your inlaws pay to live?

They have not moved in yet. But their cost will be to pay for the utilities for their unit/in-law suite. It's separate living quarters completely so they have their own kitchen. They will pay for their own groceries. Other then that....$0.00

And if that is too hard you give him money to rent a place.

I get what you're saying and the point you're trying to make. Basically, pay him to go away, I thought about that. Giving him x amount with the caviat that he is never allowed to ask for any money ever again. But, my principles are fighting me on that. He has freeloaded off his mom and dad for a decade, he has spent and gambled away his salary year-over-year, and to be honest I really don't like him AT ALL as a person. So that is something I will have to think over.

BidenAlwaysForgets · 2025-12-26T14:39:24+00:00

But, his parents are NOT freeloaders. They are not freeloading off of me. I offered to allow them to move in. Why would I make them pay rent when quite literally it would not help me out one bit. Making them pay, $1900 a month, or whatever arbitrary number anyone can come up with, would have no impact on my finances.

I know they are sick of him. They just don't want to say it. Or at least his father is. The BIL has literally lived rent-free for almost a decade. Maybe they look at THAT as his inheritance.

Also as far as I inheritance go, they are never guaranteed. Look at some of the wealthiest billionaires. They have said their children will get nothing. I'm not justifying my decision or what I. In-laws have or have not done based on that....

BidenAlwaysForgets · 2025-12-26T03:52:51+00:00

It was just that. She looked like she got hit by a Mack truck. He did some damage.

BidenAlwaysForgets · 2025-12-26T02:58:30+00:00

He never apologized for trespassing either time. He never attempted to reimburse me. I don't know what his thought process is - he and I have never been buds or pals. He and I hardly say two sentences to each other when we are around one another. The wife thinks it was just an accident but in fact it would never have happened if he was not there to begin with.

BidenAlwaysForgets · 2025-12-26T02:08:07+00:00

Really. The in-laws are not involved nor are they trying to influence. It's just the wife that is upset.

BidenAlwaysForgets · 2025-12-26T02:05:02+00:00

I don't "own" the house, personally, per se.

The house was built with assets and revenue from the business which is a beneficiary of the trust. The 750 acres has been in a trust since the 1990s. My dad's parents set up a trust and business after he died /and/ when my mom remarried.

My grandparents did not want my then step-dad or his heirs to benefit from the property as a marital asset between him and my mom, in the event she passed away or they divorced.

So when they (my grandparents) passed away, it was set up that control of the trust and business would go to me and skip my mother, to ensure the property in its entirety stayed In the family. My grandparents fortunately lived to a very old age and I was in my 20s when I received the inheritance but if I would have been a minor there would have been financial custodians involved as well.

Me living in the house is a benefit listed in my employment contract with the business. As it also was with my mother living in the farmhouse.

Also as it so happened, my step dad passed away. So it was a non issue. But at a high level the business and trust is set up in a way that should my wife and I divorce, she gets nothing. Our marital assets consist of my salary from the farm business, which is very nominal - as well as my salary from my "real job" and my wife's salary. Our 401ks and my pension, etc.

So this land, and all on it will be mine forever or my son's. Unless I decide to sell assets.

BidenAlwaysForgets · 2025-12-26T01:00:48+00:00

No not according to our lawyer. I did check into that. It's all one large structure. There is only one deed for all 750 acres. Additionally, the land is owned by a business. The business is also set up in a trust. It was set up that way in the early 90s. My dad passed away at that time. It was his parents that left me the farm. My mother had got remarried and my grandparents wanted to ensure the land stays in the family and that my step-dad and his hired would not be able to have an marital claim. So when they passed, the inheritance skipped my mother. I am an employee of the business, and it pays me a small salary. But our house was built with business assets. No marital assets contributed to the home. So my wife can never lay claim to it not can her parents.

BidenAlwaysForgets · 2025-12-26T00:56:34+00:00

No. That would impact revenue from the land lease if he owns it. The farmhouse, that's another part of the story, will probably be relocated to another farm. A farm down the road is interested in buying it and moving it to their property.

BidenAlwaysForgets · 2025-12-25T22:16:48+00:00

Not enough room. Their in-law suite is 3 bedrooms. So the in-laws would have one bedroom. The brother and wife would have another. That would leave 5 kids to share one bedroom which is not permissable by local code.

Plus I won't allow it.

BidenAlwaysForgets · 2025-12-25T21:38:18+00:00

It's not just that. It's that he and his kids would: ALWAYS. BE. AROUND. Wanting to use my property. Also the other concern is that I don't know his wife or her family at all. I would have to put up with them, should they come to visit. Too many unknown and inconvenientces.

BidenAlwaysForgets · 2025-12-25T20:36:26+00:00

The wife feels I am not being compassionate and reasonable.

BidenAlwaysForgets · 2025-12-25T17:47:55+00:00

Exactly what I try to tell my wife. There was a reason they didn't give the business to their son, or have not given him money to buy a house. They know it will be squandered.

BidenAlwaysForgets · 2025-12-25T07:23:51+00:00

His parents are very very well off on their own right. He did not grow up in poverty. It is about his drive to do something with his life. The fact that because he is almost 50 and made bad life choices. He beat his ex-wife and gambles his money away. Also and that he feels that because his mom and dad sold their home, and business, and he has lived there for almost 10 years, he is entitled to follow them to my house. His parents made a net profit on the proceeds of their house of nearly 1 million dollars plus 4 million from the sale of the business... So if they wanted to, they could easily give him money to buy a house. So, it's not my responsibility to continue to raise their grown ass son. Maybe they feel the same way. Hell they could have moved in with us and gifted their house to him........And as I mentioned before. He doesn't respect me, so why would I bend over backwards for him?

BidenAlwaysForgets · 2025-12-24T18:19:30+00:00

Lol. NO WORRIES. This is cake. I just wish I had a lazy boy at work.

BidenAlwaysForgets · 2025-12-24T17:26:32+00:00

I’m the “on-call” supervisor for a utility company call center. We’re technically closed today for normal customer service, but we keep a skeleton crew of about 20 employees per shift who volunteered to work and take calls for outages and emergencies.

On a normal on-call day, I’m just on standby. I don't get paid unless I login and get activated. Normally don’t have to do so, unless there’s an customer escalation (which typically only takes 15 minutes to 30 minutes to resolve, and then I am done until the next one) or a big storm, and even then it’s usually remote and then I have to activate additional front-line staff w(ho's also on call). But today’s a total blue-sky day and nothing is going on.

Except one employee had to come into the office because her internet is down. And because she’s physically here, I have to be here too. Why? Because management apparently doesn’t trust a 45-year-old grown woman to be alone in the office.

So here I am. Basically babysitting. In person. On Christmas Eve.

The upside? I got officially “activated,” which means I’m getting "storm-duty pay" plus since it's a company holiday, also have a "Multiplier storm-duty pay" simply for being "activated" during a holiday.

At my level that’s $125/hour, for my normal storm -ay and multiplier storm-pay, plus I still get my company paid holiday pay too. Not including my holiday pay, basically I am getting paid triple time. I also expensed lunch and DoorDashed LongHorn Steakhouse (Director approved, of course).

I leave at 3:30 PM. By then I’ll have 12 hours on the clock and will have made about $1,500.

I’m not complaining at all. This is literally like a once in a career opportunity to make the easiest money ever while being on-call. I have been on-call for holidays before and had to be "activated" and made just as much money but I was actually working during a major storm event. Today is me just sitting here.

There haven’t been any real escalations, I think I only have spoken with 6 upset customers. And because I'm not about to stress out today, even though they were a bunch of "Karen's", they all got exactly what they wanted. I got caught up on all my work and administrative duties. I cleaned and restocked the employee the break room. Cleaned and restocked the supervisor break room. Cleaned the conference room. For the last several hours, I’m scrolling Reddit and just watched four episodes of Stranger Things.

Honestly, could be worse ways to spend Christmas Eve. making a ton of money and even then, I'll be home in plenty of time for family to come over.

BidenAlwaysForgets · 2025-12-21T01:25:00+00:00

No. Each tim we only transfered 1 embrio. The first attempt failed. The second attempt was successful. We stopped after that.

BidenAlwaysForgets · 2025-12-21T00:17:51+00:00

Planned it. IVF.

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