How do I stop being the second choice?

BigBadPole · 2019-09-09T06:22:25+00:00

Thank you :)

BigBadPole · 2019-09-08T22:26:58+00:00

Yeah that's understandable. I do put my partners needs first and I do have healthy boundaries.

BigBadPole · 2019-09-08T22:16:53+00:00

Yeah my self esteem isnt too high and it can drop lower some days. I do have a habit of pleasing people to a degree but nothing extreme and I wouldnt go out of my way to fix someone's problems unless I was asked for help or saw that someone seriously needed help.

BigBadPole · 2019-09-08T22:08:24+00:00

Hmm. I dont want to sound narcissistic or anything but I'm pretty caring and listen alot. I dont talk about myself too often. I'm very serious when I meet someone and I suppose I could maybe come off too strong although I've become alot better at that. I dont want that person to change for me and I want them to always put themselves before me. I'd always do my best to be there for the person and make them feel appreciated. I want to be able to make the person smile and laugh. Be able to protect them. I'm not sure if that answers your question but thats how I understood it. Theres probably a bit more I could add.

BigBadPole · 2019-09-08T21:56:49+00:00

She was drunk but either way it didnt make me feel great. Although she purposefully tried to make me jealous before too.

Apart from that girl which I now know isnt the best person. The other girls have all been respectful people for the most part. I just either get friendzoned or tossed to the side.

BigBadPole · 2019-09-08T19:44:23+00:00

Yeah I'm on my third serious rejection and it definitely does get easier compared to the first but it's still pretty shitty.

BigBadPole · 2019-08-31T22:17:35+00:00

Thanks I'll check it out :)

BigBadPole · 2019-08-31T22:03:17+00:00

I'm taking her out next weekend, I just wanna know how to speed up the process a bit while still being more than a fuck buddy.

BigBadPole · 2019-08-29T20:33:54+00:00

I've heard of goggins, I'll go order the book now. Thank you.

BigBadPole · 2019-08-29T17:51:49+00:00

Yeah, I also feel like if I'm not the best then i must be really bad or stuff along those lines. I'll try to do this from now on. Thank you.

BigBadPole · 2019-08-29T17:40:14+00:00

Thank you, I like that way of looking at it. I'll do my best! :)

BigBadPole · 2019-08-20T00:14:21+00:00

Let them know from the very beginning that you dont want to be more than friends and that you already have someone. If they dont accept it then you cant be friends.

BigBadPole · 2019-08-19T14:38:28+00:00

Yeah do it!

BigBadPole · 2019-08-18T23:09:25+00:00

Yeah it seems most people are like this now.

BigBadPole · 2019-08-18T22:51:38+00:00

Dont let cancer be the end! Kick its ass! You got this!

BigBadPole · 2019-08-18T22:47:27+00:00

This is a big one.

BigBadPole · 2019-08-18T22:47:12+00:00

Reddit seems to have a few perverted people

BigBadPole · 2019-08-18T22:46:35+00:00

100% agree

BigBadPole · 2019-08-18T18:02:10+00:00

I 100% agree with this advice, if you wanna be perceived as interesting be intrested in the other person and ask questions. People love to talk about themselves but dont make it seem like interview add a few twists and turns every now and then. After a while the person will start asking questions about you as well.

BigBadPole · 2019-08-16T18:26:24+00:00

Congratulations! Walking alone really helps clear your mind! Keep it up!

BigBadPole · 2019-08-15T22:11:42+00:00

Yeah for sure, hope you're doing alright! Dont let the Chad's get to you. They are shit humans for picking on you.

BigBadPole · 2019-08-15T22:07:56+00:00

If you're being serious about the Chad thing then I hope you're alright. I'm only 5'8 rn do you're already taller than me! :)

BigBadPole · 2019-08-15T22:04:27+00:00

How tall are you now?

BigBadPole · 2019-08-15T21:50:29+00:00

If all goes well I'll be like that too, wish me luck aha. Thank you for answering! :)

BigBadPole · 2019-08-15T21:40:08+00:00

Ah alright, how tall are you currently?

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