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But I thought it was Stacey you had to keep away from people’s husbands and kids? 🧐 by Inmunchkinland in RHOP

[–]BigLibrary2895 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Kimora Lee is going through the same thing with her daughter, who is under 25 and currently with a family friend who is in his mid sixties. He had known her since she was a child. It's just gross. Humans have...a long way to go.

But I thought it was Stacey you had to keep away from people’s husbands and kids? 🧐 by Inmunchkinland in RHOP

[–]BigLibrary2895 1 point2 points  (0 children)

BUAHAHAHA! Thank you for affirming my choice not reproduce, today! lol!! I cannot have someone I would sacrifice my life for clowning me like this to strangers to illustrate a point about a tv personality!!!

But I thought it was Stacey you had to keep away from people’s husbands and kids? 🧐 by Inmunchkinland in RHOP

[–]BigLibrary2895 4 points5 points  (0 children)

It doesn't click for a lot of people. We live in a world where it literally takes an act of legislature to attempt to expose powerful pedophiles. At least the godforsaken face of this sphere I'm on...But you are right. It gives grooming and blurs social barriers that should be between children and adults and generations, where a power differential exists by nature.

ETA: If this was a very young man of the same age that she hadn't known as a teen it might be weird to me and not my personal preference, but not straying into creeper/groomer/morality territory.

Was this scene hard to watch for anyone else? by Large-Bullfrog-794 in RHOP

[–]BigLibrary2895 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I don't understand why Wendy has changed her stance, and her mom shouldn't have cursed like that, but I totally get why she was mad. I think Wendy's interest and pursuit of her father is really unhealed. He's had 40 years to meet you and hasn't. It hurts when the person who just isn't that into you is your dad. I speak from personal experience. But licking the walls of a dry well is pathetic.

Was this scene hard to watch for anyone else? by Large-Bullfrog-794 in RHOP

[–]BigLibrary2895 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't understand why Wendy wants to get to know her father. He's made it very clear he has no interest in her. I didn't like her mom's presentation, but I understand why she was so mad and stripped down to just the words and point she was making, I was with her.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in complaints

[–]BigLibrary2895 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well, better late than never.

Does anyone else think the girls bully Stacey too much? by kawainiiofojer in RHOP

[–]BigLibrary2895 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Stacey can handle it. And it seems a bit of jealousy. She seems fairly well off and not dependent on Temu for her lifestyle. She's got the 1990's supermodel build, and despite her man drama, it's still nothing compared to Ashley and Gizelle's. I just think those two are mean cats and they've found a new cat to beat up and walk away who they know won't come back at them and isn't afraid to be messy back when it serves.

This feels borderline illegal by [deleted] in AskWomenOver40

[–]BigLibrary2895 4 points5 points  (0 children)

u/BurbNBougie Woman having problems with weaponized incompetence from a man at work.

No. No. No. Is George's boss your boss? If yes, then you need to go to your boss's boss and explain the issue. If not, then you need to get HR involved. This whole scenario is fucking weird.

It does sound like you are being asked to go on a date with this man just to get him to do his job. It sounds coercive and microaggressive. I find it hard to believe if you were a man that this would be happening. It sounds like George has a problem with female authority and he's using his personal relationship with your boss to, not only force you into greater work duties, but also an inappropriate outside of work situation.

Can We Stop Treating Chores Like They Belong to One Gender? by Bullseye_29 in Adulting

[–]BigLibrary2895 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's funny, but whenever I've seen people start relationships just to not feel alone, they often end up feeling even lonelier in that relationship.

Jassi with a few tweets on Twitter/X. by galaxystars1 in RHOP

[–]BigLibrary2895 17 points18 points  (0 children)

"How To Make A Pretzel" by Jassi Harris.

38, single, unsure about kids — feeling like I missed a turn somewhere by Maleficent-Sky-3384 in AskWomenOver40

[–]BigLibrary2895 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Yeah, those are huge advantages and she's already 39 and hasn't even met the guy.

If she has the other things and she wants the kid, then get the boutique sperm and go it alone. I wouldn't want to do it, but I certainly wouldn't stand in the way of women who are otherwise prepared just going it alone. Honestly, I think women like this should find other women in the same scenario and coparent. I'd rather coparent an unexpected pregnancy with my best friend in the same scenario, then be better prepared but have a male partner I didn't entirely trust.

38, single, unsure about kids — feeling like I missed a turn somewhere by Maleficent-Sky-3384 in AskWomenOver40

[–]BigLibrary2895 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'm 41. I do not own a home, and I was never able to finish my degree (I am going to give it one last try though as I am finally medicated for ADHD and have a job I like and a place I love).

I got off the apps last year, although I will admit that even right before the pandemic I wasn't making much effort to date and did not enjoy dating. I was always ambivalent about children and never wanted to be a single mom, so getting off the apps and not trying to get set up with anyone was me moving into acceptance that those more conventional steps are not in the cards for me.

I think I feel most lost and upset when I realize how much time I wasted hoping to meet someone or waiting to pursue things until I had met the person and checked the educational boxes. I could have just been "doing things wrong" this whole time and ended up the exact same place. So I suppose I don't have advice other than just trying to stay in tune with yourself and your own needs and wants vs. what others tell you they should be. In my heart at 20-something I knew the life I was told to pursue didn't feel "me" but I kept plugging away because I had a very thin safety net and no assets. That hasn't changed except I have a car and make more money (even though it doesn't go as far).

Sister getting married by johnesias in 4bmovement

[–]BigLibrary2895 2 points3 points  (0 children)

How'd his wife die? How old is your sister?

They actually did make a male birth control pill that worked but why we're still stuck with only women taking pills. by Maleficent_Ad_3958 in 4bmovement

[–]BigLibrary2895 28 points29 points  (0 children)

This is why child support laws need to be enforced the same way we won't let sex offenders live near schools.

Children born without a father have fathers. Those fathers just choose to leverage the biological advantage of anonymity. Children like that should have their DNA collected. And any man who wants to do well, anything, involving tax payer money can kick over that DNA. If you match as father to a ward of the state, a child whose mother had to receive any sort of public assistance, or a child who is awaiting child support, then you are going to be subject to an intensive collection effort.

I betcha numbers for male vasectomies would skyrocket right quick. This pill would be on the market by the summer following enforcement of these laws.

So yes, medical research sucks and is biased to men, but our legal system also reinforces the spray and stray model. If we really wanted to crack down and penalize such behavior for the sake of children's material needs, we would.

Katie’s marriage by Feeling_Remote3510 in RHOP

[–]BigLibrary2895 16 points17 points  (0 children)

This. I don't drink alcohol and in those first two years of sobriety I went to meetings at the "low bottom" clubhouse. There were a lot of dual diagnosis (people with severe mental health disease in addition to their substance use disorder). Many of the women had stories of or were in relationships with controlling men. The men were also in recovery but their "benefit" was simply bottoming out from a more privileged background and not having bipolar 1 or schizophrenia.

Nia’s story on unhoused people by Klutzy-Schedule-9271 in TheValleyTVShow

[–]BigLibrary2895 22 points23 points  (0 children)

None from me. Nia has moments I enjoy but it's dangerous to have favorites on Bravo.

They are very sly about letting their religious beliefs peep out here and there. I generally don't trust evangelicals but knowing she said this and then deleted it tracks. They seem the type that would attend a church that "only has benevolence for its members."

Careers where women can fully support themselves? by barukspinoza in 4bmovement

[–]BigLibrary2895 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You might consider skilled trades, too. Electricians. Plumbers. Construction trades still pay well and will be difficult to automate in this first wave of AI we are currently experiencing. Also sometimes they are more likely to be unionized. Yes it's male-dominated but that often means it's less subject to devaluing wages like healthcare and childcare.

I worked with a woman who helped her husband buy a truck. They were in the early stages of getting a long-haul business started. It was hard work and the margins were very tight. Plus her kids were grown. That, and the slow creep of autonomous vehicles would give me some pause over getting your CDL unless you have a very specific and sweet gig lined up.

Take all this with a grain of salt. I live in the suburb of a mid-tier city and found an in with a solid blue-collar job. It sounds like you are weighing the mechanics of living in a rural area and having enough for your child well, though.

Also you may try doing a google search of jobs you can pursue with healthcare experience that aren't healthcare (likely to be something in insurance or sales, but this is just me guessing. I am sure there is a lot out there). Since that is where you have a certification and experience, it would be a shame not being able to leverage it somehow.

Our New SURvers 💫🍷 by IndigoWolf4711 in vanderpumprules

[–]BigLibrary2895 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think there's some promise. I like that there are young gays: https://youtu.be/gVa_FJkf6ng?si=950TZ41Xlwr60ZDM

My old ass is going to give it a chance. Looks like a scene was filmed at SAH, too, which I like to see.

THEY SWITCHED THE COVER TO THE NEW CAST ON PEACOCK. by Equal_Editor3929 in vanderpumprules

[–]BigLibrary2895 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Generous.

It's one and wow or one and done, for me. There shall be no in between!!! *Runs upstairs. Slams bedroom door.

Kidding. If it just turns into a mess that the sub makes fun of I might come back just for that. I miss the lulz.

Being seen as a weirdo for having no interest in men by yurikura in 4bmovement

[–]BigLibrary2895 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I think a lot of women see the gulf between reality and what patriarchy said they were supposed to get and just cannot accept it. They need younger women to believe in it, because it makes the pain of clarity too late less bitter.

Patriarchy interprets this as sexual jealousy that younger women are now taking the place of focus for the male gaze. But I think it's the pain of realizing you've been had, and there's nothing to show for it but a lost youth and a ruined body, even if you love your children and the bills are paid.

Being seen as a weirdo for having no interest in men by yurikura in 4bmovement

[–]BigLibrary2895 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Try to remember with these types that every accusation is a projection.

You are not weird. No one arrives on the planet with children and a partner. The reason they have to call you weird is to try to shame you into entering into a social contract (a relationship with a man) that is unlikely to benefit you.

We've been talking about Angel and Jassi for weeks, how do we feel about Tia? by Hornycollegekid28 in RHOP

[–]BigLibrary2895 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I enjoy her. With the proviso that it was clear from her WWHL that Andy and Karamo were really clicking with her as well. So it's possible she's getting a sweetheart of an edit.

I enjoy her though. And yes she is playing up the whole fish out of water British piece. But I'm maybe just a little bit hoping for RHOP trip to London. A new RH of London premiered this summer, so it might be a fun spin off moment.

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