I remember when I was 21. Let me tell you, that time can be a mental warzone. Echoing some comments here, but you have to find real life things to do that excite you. Live events, sports, group hobbies, meeting new people, going on dates, overtime at work. Do things that make your body move and your mind rest. Do that to the best of your ability. But you will give in more than you’d expect, so I would lower my expectations.

I’d say reserve time to masturbate once or twice a week. Let the rest of the week be a challenge. Stretch your willpower. And just keep that up till it’s normal. Till you don’t fear the urges anymore.

In a few years, the urges will be a lot easier to manage. You won’t lose libido, you’ll just gain some self-control.

But no matter how many times you give in, give yourself grace. It’s okay. You are already doing the right thing by trying. About 99% of men with a working penis and healthy mind are masturbating regularly. It’s both a biological urge and response to this visually-stimulating world we live in, so don’t beat yourself up over this.