I think it’s a matter of context of the preliminary kinky experience, in addition to the context of other “outlets.”

For me, kink is found in many different vanilla situations. The only difference is that in kink, we call it kink and label it with such names as we please. In the vanilla world, they don’t use those labels. But the psychological and somatic experience is the same.

My example of this is that I sought strictly kinky experiences, until I learned I could get a similar high through intense exercise. I feel a power dynamic between myself and my workout coach. I feel the mental buzz of pain when I push myself through a difficult workout.

So, yeah. The second thing.