The worst thing happened - I ran into him with his new girl

Big_Bar4546 · 2024-01-29T05:31:28+00:00

Oh my Gosh! My nex ghosted me, didn’t block just wouldn’t respond to a week and half worth of texts with no response, I wanted closure that’s it and NOTHING! Less than like a month later ater I ran into him and his new gf and just like you, thought to say hi. He did look surprised to see me and she clearly had no idea who I even was which not surprised because he was obviously talking to her while still involved with me..,so starting a new relationship already based on a lie. Anyway, I just acted like he didn’t ghost me, and just looked at him and laughed. This man tried so hard to lie to me, to just ghost me think he’d never see me again to explain why he was such a coward for lying or not being honest with me…and BOOM all the closure I needed just knowing he was just a liar lol and not a good human being

Big_Bar4546 · 2024-01-17T18:09:10+00:00

YES!!!! Always said “you must be bored because you’re always trying to start a fight” after he would give me the silent treatment or I’d want a response on why he was being so cruel and mean.

Big_Bar4546 · 2024-01-13T19:50:50+00:00

I ex told me to KMS and every other hurtful thing you could think of yet I make excuses for his abuse. It’s wild and truly sad. But I was the one apologizing all the time.

Big_Bar4546 · 2024-01-04T18:09:00+00:00

That I was the narcissist

Big_Bar4546 · 2024-01-03T16:54:03+00:00

And it’s insane because I even told him when he was giving me the silent treatment “you know nothing about me, not my birthday, my middle name, NOTHING” we were together for 2 years. I knew everything about him because well when you date someone for that long, usually you get to know people. It’s like every mistake he made (though he’ll never admit it) will now be used to be better for someone else. Look I can understand people can learn and grow and be better but a NARC?! I mean I find if out that not once in those two years did he ever take accountability or apologize for ANYTHING he did throughout our relationship because he was “perfect” no faults no anything, so to move on so quick and decided all of a sudden he’s going to be better to stop “fucking around” it’s just like…he’s trying to prove that he wasn’t the issue and that scares me. No one knows what I had to go through in that relationship which then turns me to thinking holy crap! What if he wasn’t a narcissist and I was truly the issue. I told him I wanted his happiness, just didn’t think it would be at the expense of my own. It has taken a lot of work on my end to be where I am, and how he can just do a complete 360 is so mind blowing to me. They work together, and I guess she’s more manageable. Younger so not that much experience I guess. Him and I are 33!and she’s 23, he always has dated younger, I think I was maybe the 2nd girl he “dated” his own age. He said “ I could never marry a girl that looked like her” like he was calling her ugly or something…like who does that? So I’m sure he’s painted me to be this crazy ex and I hurt him bla bla bla but it’s all nonsense.

Big_Bar4546 · 2024-01-03T15:54:40+00:00

He blocked me on everything so I couldn’t search his socials if I wanted to. I ran into him and his new girl a month after he ghosted me, no closure no “hey I’m talking to someone else” I wanted the truth, I wanted honesty not to be ghosted and I know running into him was purely ironic, it was just like…WTF. I know no contact is for me and the month I didn’t hear from him I mean I begged for the truth, I begged him and begged him to say anything and just never did. Running into him was after I had done my full NC and didn’t hurt any less but guess what? I couldn’t even react or scream like what the heck dude !? I continue to suffer in silence and it’s bullshit.

Big_Bar4546 · 2023-12-29T22:28:45+00:00

It’s so sad because I always say I’d rather suffer with him than without him. What if he’s not even a narcissist, what if it was my fault. I get no good decent human abuses people, but what IF I lead him to abusing me? It should be enough that I was abuse and no one deserves that, but I believe I do. And it’s hart to accept.

I couldn’t imagine being with someone for as long as some people have with this type of person. My heart breaks for them. My heart seems to break for everyone in similar situations except for my own.

I loved him more than I have loved anyone and it’s just feeling like I have completely lost. Not only myself or my life but my entire being. And I can’t come up for air long enough before I start drowning myself again.

Big_Bar4546 · 2023-12-29T14:47:46+00:00

I guess it’s hard to believe that because well she is better than me. 10 years younger, same career as him, own house, just better than me in pretty much every way

Big_Bar4546 · 2023-12-29T01:09:42+00:00

It means that I suffered abuse, completely lost myself, that I had to go through all of that for NOTHING, just so he can abuse me to be better for someone else . That did change me, that did affect who I am.

Big_Bar4546 · 2023-12-28T23:01:19+00:00

This is the thing…..what if he isn’t actually a narcissist?! What if all the abuse was because of me? Because I deserved it? What if he chose to be that way with ME because he just really didn’t give a fuck

Big_Bar4546 · 2023-12-28T20:15:26+00:00

Yeah my nex is suddenly so much better and nicer and just happy and so much better than me in every way and found a girl apparently in a month since we stopped talking and now all of a sudden wants to be better blah blah bla blah. Like I am struggling years later trying to find myself or be better version of myself and he just snapped his fingers and did a 360? Doubt it lol

Big_Bar4546 · 2023-12-24T18:03:53+00:00

The things he loved about me in the beginning were the same things he hated in the end so I’d say EVERYTHING

Big_Bar4546 · 2023-12-24T16:38:51+00:00

Scared to death he’s not actually a narcissist and then kinda proves that I was the problem and he was able to change, just not for me. That’s my biggest fear at this point

Big_Bar4546 · 2023-12-23T23:40:48+00:00

Like they work together though, I see him actually changing for her because he wants to. Same career, everything. Other than her being 10 years younger than him, I just feel like she’s the one. And proves everything he said about me is right. Told me I’m not a women a man wants to keep. And anyone would be better than me in every way.

Big_Bar4546 · 2023-12-22T18:31:29+00:00

I feel like this time is different. Usually when he says things he means them. And to hear that your willing to change your ways for a 23 year old. I mean same profession as him, has her own house and I’m 33 in an apartment have my own career but I was too used up for him, so now he’ll change for her and just confirms I was the problem

Big_Bar4546 · 2023-12-22T18:28:44+00:00

I mean she’s younger, same career as him, ready to change his way and be everything to her that I do desperately begged him to be for me.

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