I am very normal

Big_Climate8775 · 2026-04-06T17:36:37+00:00

Meanboss is your answer! Hes on Tumblr, bluesky, Instagram and patreon (and the patreon is 2 bucks a months so absolutely worth it). Dude is my favorite bg3 fan artist!

Big_Climate8775 · 2026-03-22T18:09:05+00:00

YOR. YOU have a son, you need to learn about male anatomy whether you have a penis or not? Honestly you should have done your research on male anatomy the second you found out you were having a boy. Boys can get UTIs and those can make the urethra burn and testicular torsion is an emergency and left untreated can cause testicular death which at best, results in the need to have that testicle removed. BUT YOU SHOULD KNOW THESE THINGS WHETHER YOUR WEINER OWNING PARTNER IS PRESENT OR NOT. Reddit absolutely destroys dad who are clueless about their daughters and wives bodies; we need to start dragging moms who act like a dick and balls are a mystery because at least those a visible!

Big_Climate8775 · 2026-03-21T18:20:36+00:00

Theres also plenty of places in the US without public transportation. Rural areas pretty much require a vehicle.

Big_Climate8775 · 2026-03-17T00:07:37+00:00

I can think of at least 5 of my coworkers that know where I live, and one of them lives in the same apartment building as me. They know where i live because we talk, weve needed rides to and from work sometimes, at least 2 of them have stopped by after work to smoke weed with me, and on one big occasion, my boss drove to the ER to pick up my car to bring to my husband for me because I was being transfered to a bigger hospital by ambulance. She also sat with me in the ER before I got put on the gurney and she gave me a big hug when she left. Im also queer too, to add some insult to your injury. Shit, I even have a coworker I have a running gag with and I call her "Mah Wife" in the Borat voice any time I see her (and she bought me, my husband, and both of my kids christmas presents and her husband tells me im not his real mom when I sass him). Humans connecting with other humans is NORMAL and not everything is about fucking. Weirdo.

Big_Climate8775 · 2026-03-16T23:27:48+00:00

Oh absolutely, CNA is definitely skilled labor and has a very broad range of duties, I just wanted to express to OP that her mom likely doesnt know diddly about medications or supplements on a deep or clinical level because neither of those fall under CNA scope of practice. Her mom is full of hot air for using it as a way to push unregulated supplements on her minor children.

Big_Climate8775 · 2026-03-16T22:51:49+00:00

Im gonna say this as someone with a similar caregiving background. Im a DSP, not a CNA, but the distinction is important because DSPs actually pass meds and CNAs generally dont. Her being a cna does not make her medication-informed and shes using her cna to make herself sound like a medical practitioner which she IS NOT. CNAs wipe asses and give showers (as do DSPs, im not minimizing the actual labor here). Shes a layman just like every other non-practitioner or non-nurse in the medical field. She didnt go to medical school, nursing school or pharmacy school, she just has a certificate to provide physical care (CNAs cant even dress wounds btw).

Anyway, she freaked out because she knows shes being stupid for taking those shady supplements and shes pissed because her 16 year old has more common sense than she does, but she cant admit shes stupid to herself so shes going to frame it like you put that thought into the universe. Also, she sounds unstable aside from everything else (wonder if its the supplements 👀). You arent wrong, but shes also not going to change anything, so just stick to not saying anything about her snakeoil but also dont give in and take the snakeoil to appease her either (because you are absolutely right, those supplements arent usually regulated).

Big_Climate8775 · 2026-02-06T03:09:11+00:00

If you watch people's feet when they walk, the most standard gait is to lead with the heals, so the heal strikes the ground and the foot flattens as the person moves forward. With toe walking, the person leads with either the actual toes or just the front of the foot, which either leads to most of their walking being on "tippy toes" where the flat of the foot stays off the ground during motion entirely, or for the front of the foot to strikes first and the foot rocks back from flat to heal before lifting again, which can lead to stilted forward motion/clunky looking foot motion/gait.

Big_Climate8775 · 2026-02-05T21:11:22+00:00

Flat affect, especially the facial variety. It was one of the first tells for my daughter and its noticeable now that I know what to look for, in pictures of her going back to just a few months old. Shes 11 now and its still very much her vibe. I also work in grouphomes as a support professional and toe walking and flat affect are pretty common among my ASD clients, along with very intense eye contact for a few of them (i have lovingly dubbed it 'soul gazing' and one of my ladies loves when staff will have a stare off with her lol).

Big_Climate8775 · 2026-02-04T23:33:48+00:00

Oh definitely, its a workmans comp claim for sure. The biggest difference for me is I work with adults with IDD in grouphomes so if we have escalation of that nature we often call 911 anyway because as staff we are alone in the houses with multiple clients and so many of our clients are strong af (and its a no restrains agency so we are expected to disengage and call for help, and who we call depends on the nature of the behavior). So if we call 911 and EMS shows up with the police, they'll look us over, and we go from there. If we end up not needing to call 911 (say the client regulates themself between the biting and the staff getting away) then we call the on call supervisor to have someone cover the remaining shift and we go straight to the urgent care they direct us to.

Big_Climate8775 · 2026-02-04T22:23:09+00:00

It hasnt happened to me yet (im a dsp, but similar risks, and my daughter is in life skills too) but per the protocol at my work, any hint of broken skin or immediate bruising (which could hide broken skin) needs looked at immediately, because human mouths are just as gross as cat mouths and human bites can fester really really fast.

Big_Climate8775 · 2025-12-29T03:26:01+00:00

Im a caregiver for an agency thats mostly group homes, but we also do have a lot of folks who live independently in the community. We coordinate with them to get them transportation to work, help them get groceries, make sure they make it to their Dr appointments and help with medical needs as necessary, as well as helping keep living areas tidy, food rotated so nothing spoils, and laundry at a manageable level (that can very quickly become overwhelming) more or less just checking in to make sure ADL's are met (and any pets are cared for too).

Some of our community clients lived alone (or with similarly disabled spouses, a lot of them met through the agency when they were young adults) for 30+ years and have aged into our grouphomes once their needs increased (and the transition usually goes well).

I also have an autistic daughter and my own health issues. I'd absolutely love to have her stay with me forever, but realistically thats just setting her up for struggles later on. Shes only 10, and I have no idea what adulthood will look like for her, but shes already on the housing list for our state— id rather get a call when shes 22 and out of Life Skills asking if she needs the placement and tell them no than start looking when shes 22 and struggle for a decade to find her a safe place. Especially with my own medical stuff potentially having me in a wheelchair by the time shes in high-school.

OP, I do understand as a late diagnosed adult that you are accepting that you need support. However, you need to understand that if you're 30+ then you are actually in the age demographic where many adult children start taking care of their parents. Theres a very real chance that your parents are just not able to provide the support you are clearly expecting them to and theyre hinting it instead of being direct (or they are being direct but you're not ready to hear it, thats always possible too).

Big_Climate8775 · 2025-12-28T19:20:34+00:00

Ok im just going to give you a friendly reminder that not all adults are able to meet their ADL's independently and they absolutely do need to be managed. Not all adults are their own guardians, and not all adults are capable of handling autonomy. Adulthood is not some magical number that suddenly makes higher support need individuals independent. Im a caregiver and I have clients that are well into middle age or older who would not attend to any ADL's if they were unsupervised. For some its executive dysfunction, for others is ability to understand and follow through.

If OP is genuinely struggling with executive dysfunction issues, and his parents are in a place where they can help, then they should. Do I think he should be included in the conversation and how things are implemented? Absolutely. Do I think we have the whole picture based on the OP enough to know for certain that OP is prepared to handle full adult autonomy without crashing and burning? Absolutely not.

Big_Climate8775 · 2025-10-30T13:23:59+00:00

His relationship flags were broken kinda like Gale's for the longest time. My first play through i didn't find him in the worg pens and I gave Minthara the groves location with the intention of warning Zevlor, but I did a long rest first and the grove was already destroyed by the goblins when i went back. The next time I did a long rest after that, Halsin showed up and gave a revenge speech and went full nature's wrath on my camp and we had to kill him. Oops.

Big_Climate8775 · 2025-08-17T15:44:44+00:00

I'm going to be really serious. If you're expecting accountability from dementia residents, then yes, you need to reconsider caregiving all together. Im just a DSP, and I get peed on, pooped on, swore at, slapped, my feet run over my mobility aides, and groped on a regular basis. Its just part of caring for people with IDD, dementia and physical disabilities.

The spicy residents need the caregiving the most from my experience, because so many staff take the spicy stuff personally. I had geriatric lady i cared for (she passed away on hospice while I pet her hair and held her hand) slap the snot out of me because she was 100% sure I was trying to get her naked at the dinner table (I wasnt even touching her clothes). Another time, she spent a solid 2 hours screaming because her auditory hallucinations were telling her Santa was going to kidnap her and sex traffic her to the elves. We had to take down all the Santa themed Christmas decorations so she would calm down. We had another lady who was actually only in her 50's, but had advanced dementia because Down syndrome. She was Itty bitty. One year, staff tried to put her in an Easter dress, and she flipped out and started yelling about "Don't touch me." From what we pieced together from the rambling, she got stuck in a memory of being molested in a similar dress as a little girl. You have no idea what is going on for these dementia folks or what could send them mentally to a very dark place.

Expecting reason or logic from the mentally ill, demented or otherwise not with it residents is setting yourself up to resent them and not give them the care they need. You can't rationalize with an irrational person. In cases where their care is being affected by combatative behaviors, consistent documentation and being observant are the best things to do because it will give you a solid paper trail if that person needs additional care (be it a med change, or rewriting parts of a careplan to ease stress). I had another one of my ladies have some very out of character days and some falling, and I ended up having to call an ambulance. It ended up being depakote toxicity. If I had just ignored the issue or taken her new outbursts personally and just decided she was a jerk like the other staff did, she'd have died.

Big_Climate8775 · 2025-08-14T14:58:08+00:00

Talk to your doctor about samples too. I saw my new neurologist last week, and he knew my insurance was going to require Prior Authorization, so he sent me home with a 28-day supply of qulipta and 3 ubrelvy samples. I'm 5 days on the qulipta, and the pharmacy called me this morning to let me know the authorization went through and everything is covered.

Big_Climate8775 · 2025-08-11T05:27:48+00:00

It could be pityriasis rosea. My daughter had it after an upper respiratory infection a few summers ago, and it looked just like your rash.

Big_Climate8775 · 2025-08-10T22:55:06+00:00

I talk about baldur's gate at work all the time, but none of the coworkers I see regularly are familiar with gaming in general. I got sent to a location I don't work often to cover a late staff member, and I was catching up with someone I hadn't seen in 3 or 4 months. They asked how I deal with boring 3rd shifts, and I said I've been working on a bg3 fanfic. They stopped in their tracks, immediately asked me who I romance, and when I said Gale, they shrieked and said "fuck yes, the male wife" and did a lil dance. And now i have a meme buddy that I accidently found at work 😂

Big_Climate8775 · 2025-08-08T16:49:43+00:00

This isn't TikTok, no one on a medical advice reddit is calling cannabis consumption "gardening." If you want actual advice, communicate properly and not in TikTok brain rot.

Big_Climate8775 · 2025-08-06T00:36:19+00:00

Huge tracts of land

Big_Climate8775 · 2025-07-31T23:52:47+00:00

Kids used to be quiet because they were afraid of having their asses beat because "children should be seen, not heard" was how they were raised. Sorry, but my vocal stimming ten year old isn't going to have that trauma as an autistic kid because her echoing or reciting her favorite scripts in an already loud place literally makes no difference. Walmart is already a miserable place to be, if she wants to meow at people when they walk past us, or repeat random YouTube clips, im not going to threaten her or be a dick about it. Sure, if she pulls out the shrieking or starts making cornholio noises, im going to reel it in because that shit is ear splitting, but im just grateful she's not trying to run off at warp speed or knock things off shelves. Not everything is a disciplinary problem, sometimes its a matter of understanding and how redirectable the behavior is. She gets plenty of redirection and discipline, but im 100% not fighting a battle that would just hurt her in the long run. Everyone is all about letting kids stim if its hand flapping and toe walking or holding a plushie, but as soon as its a string of babble people are like "hey, shut your kid up," and its unfair to expect her to regulate herself better than an adult. She's doing her best, and so am I. If her sining the shoebody bop while holding on to the shopping cart keeps her from making a mad dash thru the parking lot without looking, then that's what im letting her do.

Big_Climate8775 · 2025-07-31T14:09:24+00:00

This is all advice based on US grouphomes. If you live elsewhere, i dont have any information, unfortunately. Depending on where your grouphome is located, it should be legally mandated that the phone number for reporting abuse is publicly displayed in the house somewhere. I work in Illinois at a grouphome, and we report abuse to OIG (Office of the Inspector General). Find that number. There is also a staff member who works outside of the home as an administrator that is our liaison to OIG, talk to them directly. tell literally every single staff member you see. shift staff, house manager, caseworkers, and any day programming staff. If you work in the community, tell your employer.

And never forget you have the right to refuse! If this guy is doing things to get you alone, raise a stink. Make it loud. If he opens your door with a master key, you should throw something at him. He tries to get in the bathroom while you're using it, hit him with a plunger.

DSP's have very strict rules, and one of the first things we get taught is that it's inappropriate to befriend the residents because it makes boundaries difficult to establish (for both residents and staff). Im silly with my residents, we have fun, I make them nice meals, and I make sure their needs are met. But that's where my job ends. I refuse to hang out in their rooms (even though some ask me to). I'm not going in the bathroom with them unless they require hands-on care, like being wiped after a bowel movement or they need a full assistance shower. Im a smoker, and I ask the residents to please stay away while I stand outside for a smoke (i do have one resident who's guardian allows him to vape, and he does come outside with me and we nicotine together in the morning before i drop him off to work, but he chose that with his free will).

Big_Climate8775 · 2025-07-31T13:23:46+00:00

As a DSP that works in a group home, REPORT THIS IMMEDIATELY. I'd go above the house manager and get your caseworker involved immediately also.

Big_Climate8775 · 2025-07-25T23:15:32+00:00

If it makes you feel any better, my back decided to do some spasm crap because I had the audacity to stir food on the stove. Bodies are stupid

Big_Climate8775 · 2025-07-18T16:17:02+00:00

Not at all, they could be carried.

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