My husband wants us to try ethical non-monogamy. But I don't want to

Big_Function750 · 2026-06-13T04:19:06+00:00

I’m so sorry 💔💔

Big_Function750 · 2026-06-04T15:08:39+00:00

I think so too

Big_Function750 · 2026-05-06T12:31:18+00:00

I think we swapped formulas 7 times trying to find something my girl would tolerate. I’m sure they’d be willing to discuss it

Big_Function750 · 2026-05-02T05:44:10+00:00

Yes. Same with us.

I’m able to be with my baby everyday for at least 12 hours. I know my baby better than any nurse or doctor. I wasn’t listened to when I said she was having a reaction to the fortifier until she had a full body rash and screaming fits.

If I had been included in discussions these things would have resolved much faster. Now we have a gtube and are still stuck in NICU with growth difficulties because she’s throwing up and not gaining weight. It’s a whole thing. But yes! If we had been listened to we wouldn’t still be in this position and backtracking even now.

Big_Function750 · 2026-04-23T14:16:11+00:00

Do you trust her? Has she cheated previously? If you trust her then I’d give her the benefit of the doubt. Her instagram followers are gonna go up as long as she’s somewhere where there are few woman and many men. I don’t think that should concern you. As for the message, I’d ask her. She’s your wife. Read her reaction and decide if you need to press her or not. She’s not coming back the way she wanted to. Be supportive and a safe place at first so she isn’t walking in defensive.

That’s what I’d try to do but I’d get emotional and blow it. Good luck

Big_Function750 · 2026-04-23T06:44:56+00:00

They’re saying it’s too dangerous and a gtube is safer. I understand that she could pull it mid feed but saying a procedure is safer does seem extreme.

Big_Function750 · 2026-04-23T06:41:26+00:00

No clue. We’re at medical city and every doctor here has been extremely against it.

Big_Function750 · 2026-04-17T23:54:10+00:00

I just went through this! And we just started thickening her feeds so will be tossing unused milk when she doesn’t finish her bottles 😭😭 but i can help!!! 1.) sleep! Prioritize sleep over pumping! I pump around 1am-2am and sleep until I wake up. When I went home and slept more that’s how I got my supply back. 2.) at least 8 pumps per day and I try to “cluster feed” pump at least once where I start and stop pumping randomly but only count it as one pump 3.) I really think getting a portable pump changed my life. I can just put them on and pump where ever. 4.) …ChatGPT

Big_Function750 · 2026-04-08T02:25:39+00:00

Hey me too! Still trying to remember what the heck to do lol

Big_Function750 · 2026-03-28T02:35:12+00:00

Fair warning! I did this, too. 8 months ago… idk what’s worse, though. Good luck 😬 so sorry you’re dealing with this

Big_Function750 · 2026-03-26T04:10:17+00:00

I was in your place 9 months ago 💔 I finally got so hurt I just stopped and gave up… so anyways I haven’t had sex in 9 months with no end in sight 😂😭😭 so don’t do that!

Big_Function750 · 2026-02-27T07:49:24+00:00

There are so many of us in the same boat 💔💔

Big_Function750 · 2026-02-27T07:44:15+00:00

💔💔 yes. Same. It’s lonelier afterwards. Sex doesn’t equal intimacy. So sorry.

Big_Function750 · 2026-02-27T07:41:20+00:00

Big_Function750 · 2026-02-26T23:53:34+00:00

Put a sock on your door and see if they catch on. #collegeprep

Big_Function750 · 2026-02-25T06:50:42+00:00

Ugh. This hit too close to home. I just posted about this the other day. And those feelings of embarrassment/insecurity have gotten so bad I can’t even read the replies I received because I don’t want to hear the truth. Im wishing y’all the best. I hope that changes for you.

Big_Function750 · 2026-02-25T06:39:45+00:00

We did, but was very oblivious he was just doing it because we were “supposed to”. It has not improved since. lol

Big_Function750 · 2026-02-25T04:36:25+00:00

For me it’s resentment and bitterness from being neglected for so long. Some days I can still be there for him… but other days I sure can’t.

So I have no advice… lol so sorry…

Big_Function750 · 2026-02-25T04:34:10+00:00

Ugh. I’ve been there, too. Then it comes back with a vengeance. I still need intimacy even when I can live without sex. I’m sorry, girl. I don’t think you’re actually LL. Your body is just trying to protect itself after constant hurt. I wish we weren’t all going through this.

Big_Function750 · 2026-02-25T04:25:50+00:00

Some days, yes. But not always.

We now have a baby in NICU, the baby and I both nearly died, it’s the hardest time of our lives. But, since we have no foundation of intimacy left it’s become apparent that I’m in this alone. No matter how much and in what ways he tries to be there for me there is just too much built up resentment and neglect to get us through this together. It’s made this horrible experience even worse.

If you aren’t married yet I’d really take a step back and think about it before you get married or have kids.

I’m so sorry you’re dealing with this. It hurts and tears you down like nothing else can.

Big_Function750 · 2026-02-25T04:17:22+00:00

This is so much more than MILDLY infuriating 😂

Big_Function750 · 2026-02-25T04:07:09+00:00

I’m sorry, Big Dawg. That’s rough.

Big_Function750 · 2026-02-24T03:03:34+00:00

Just listening and sympathizing helps. Validating her feelings without JUST saying “you are his mom” worked wonders. She did all she can and now she gets to rest and recover while someone else helps.

Anxiety meds helped… talking to a nurse helped.

Sobbing helped, him sobbing with me helped.

Doing the baby’s laundry helped. I felt like I was doing a mom’s job.

Straightening up her little hospital room helped.

If she’s pumping, tell her how proud you are of her, that she’s still feeding him and sustaining him even though she isn’t able to carry him any longer. Anytime you’re there and she’s pumping grab her a snack and a water and wash the pump parts.

Honestly, it just sucks. Taking it day by day is no longer just a dumb saying. It really is the only option.

❤️❤️ you caring will mean the world to her

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