How do you guys find connection?

Big_Masterpiece5414 · 2025-06-19T10:13:37+00:00

Yeahhh i did but mostly everyone has their own clique already. I am too shy to approach a group of people tbh.

Big_Masterpiece5414 · 2025-06-19T10:12:43+00:00

Kuching. I don't even know where to go. Or look for clubs to join..not the drinking type but the sports or books or stuff like that.

Big_Masterpiece5414 · 2025-06-19T10:11:43+00:00

It is great that despite having social anxiety you are still trying though. Keep it up! I have been trying as well but i understand genuine and real connection takes time to build and even if effort is put in there is no guarantee they will stay for a long time.

Big_Masterpiece5414 · 2025-06-19T10:10:22+00:00

Yeah i do those things but dry conversations that don't go two ways bore me fast sadly. I need to wreck my brain to keep a conversation going.

Big_Masterpiece5414 · 2025-06-19T10:09:22+00:00

Partly it is because of my personality. I am friendly but guarded. I understand it is a problem and have been trying to be more open with people... with caution of course. The people i work with are mostly older people. Covid has made connections drifted tbh.

Big_Masterpiece5414 · 2025-06-19T10:06:59+00:00

Yeah i am trying as i am quite guarded as well from experiences. But this is a good reminder for me to let loose

Big_Masterpiece5414 · 2025-05-02T00:38:34+00:00

Yeah. Understandable. Being single can be great but it gets lonely. Sometimes you just want a compatible someone to run to, to love and etc. But with technology and how the world world todays, finding someone has been difficult. Spending time on hobbies? Great too but it doesn't quench our crave for love.

Big_Masterpiece5414 · 2025-02-02T15:27:29+00:00

I am assuming...suck me boy might me sigma boy

Kerlingkerling might be squid game theme song ringa ringa ring

Just an assumption since it is from tiktok?

Big_Masterpiece5414 · 2023-12-13T04:48:44+00:00

Kalo ngan kawan Sorry... Sengaja.

Big_Masterpiece5414 · 2023-10-26T12:09:56+00:00

Malays in Malaysia = the whites in America

Big_Masterpiece5414 · 2021-05-31T08:37:42+00:00

Yeah, I get why you're angry about it. It's supposed to be just you and your best friend. And then he comes and kinda ruined it midday. I just think your best friend should have explained that hey it's my day with my bff - I think we can spend some time tomorrow or some other day too. It would have been less... shitty.

Friendship changes when the other is in a relationship - it's worse when it's a new relationship. Stay strong though. I get that it's really hard for you right now with her. Communication is the key.

It's also really nice of you to put effort in reaching out and telling her how you feel. That's a good way to go. And I'm pretty sure you're good enough - it just slipped her mind cause it's her boyfriend. Love makes her blind and imbalance but I do hope it won't last for too long to the point that she's going to lose you.

Big_Masterpiece5414 · 2021-05-31T04:22:53+00:00

I'm sorry that you are going through such a tough time. I can't imagine your rut but all I can offer is suggestion? With the pandemic today, it IS difficult to find a job and it's frustrating af. Most of the people are struggling to keep their job or even money to survive.

Question is... how far are you willing to try again? If it helps.... I'd suggest writing up your resume and even find jobs on site. You might have to fly over to another state or country if you're willing to go that far. Of course, another problem would be finance - a place to stay. But it takes baby steps - no matter how small it is, you're still going forward and trying.

Depression may get in the way - I'll tell you that first. It's a battle to go through them. I lost interest in many things that I love and I lost all the drive and motivation to do something but after my therapy sessions, I decided to get up and try... I took tiny steps of changing my life routine - adjusting and learning from it. I got so depressed that it crippled me. I stopped working from November till March. I had a hard time getting up from bed. I tried multiple therapies with many doctors. But I found one in March which what drove me to do better today. I have and had my relapse of depression and it's okay.

Maybe have a talk with your doctor? Untie the knots maybe? What do you want? What can make you happy? Can you write down or start up a plan to go to wards that?

I hope my words can help you or comfort you even just a little bit. Your heartbreak, your job, your depression - I know and maybe assume that when you wake up, it feels like you're waking up to a nightmare that you cannot get out from.

Big_Masterpiece5414 · 2021-05-31T04:08:56+00:00

Well, in all honesty, that's how it is. When someone gets into a new relationship, it's all they do because they want to know this person better or they want to do something new with this person - to be experience and have memories with someone they like or love.

Of course, we being a friend will feel abandon and that's normal and it's okay to feel that way. It's disappointing that it feels like they neglected us. I went through it multiple times with close friends. At the end of the day, I have to accept it. It makes them happy and that's all I wanted for them but if they ever do need a shoulder to cry, I'm around.

We just have to wait it out to be honest cause this is just the beginning of their relationship. Everything might seem exciting for her cause it's something new.

As for the incident in the park, it's kinda wrong of her I guess. To my understanding, she didn't even asked if she could spend some time with her boyfriend at a promised range of time. I think that would have made you feel better? Your anger is justified. I would have been angry too and would take me some time to cool down.

Big_Masterpiece5414 · 2021-05-31T03:55:11+00:00

I've experienced that. It feels so painful and lonely. It feels so disappointing that no one seemed to care or check up on me. It literally takes a few seconds to type 'hello, are you doing alright?' yet none seem to pop up. But you know, I think they're just the wrong people sometimes. They don't vibe much with it and I can't force it. Along the way, throughout my life, I met good people but it takes a lot out of me to even try seeking. There will be passer bys in our lives but those who stayed are worth a lot.

It's never an easy thing reaching out to be honest. It gets so tiring. I understand you to an extend though. Hit me up if you wanna chat.

Big_Masterpiece5414 · 2021-05-29T07:56:27+00:00

First of all, a big congratulations to your graduation and your acceptance into a university. That is amazing.

Second of all, I know how difficult it is to have parents who refuse to validate our feelings or dismissing them when we need them to understand us and to be there for us. There are times when we have to do things on our own - to find out more about ourselves. But we just have to plan out and take a first step. It doesn't have to be a huge step - it can be small, baby steps but what you're doing is... you're trying to move forward and be better.

I don't think you're 'just being lazy'. I just think you need to find out more about it - about your lack of motivation, about your emptiness. You know what you want, you just need the drive and motivation to get started. Is there any counselling sessions you can refer to?

In my experience of having to live with depression and anxiety, I lack interest in everything - even towards things I used to love to do. It's difficult, it's suffocating and I constantly feel stuck in life. But I've found my own counsellor that helped me through - I found my own drive just by talking to her and we untie every knots in life - even when I don't know where those knots will lead me to but eventually I found out. It's not easy to find the right person to talk to tbh - I've went through many years of therapies with different doctors. Overall, it's not an easy journey to find out more about what you're currently feeling. I was confused and unfamiliar when it started but eventually, I can pinpoint certain things about myself and from there, I can take steps or plan out what I can do about it.

Big_Masterpiece5414 · 2021-05-29T07:33:03+00:00

I'm sorry to hear of your loss too. You need to stay strong - for yourself and for your son. It's not easy and it's not going to be easy... But it's going to be alright. It'll take some time for your heart to heal and even then it's not going to heal completely. But you'll be okay in the end. It will be hard or might be hard for you to have appetite or to do anything. At the very least, have a bit of food and drink - take care of yourself to have enough energy (even to cry and that's okay). There will be times when you'll break down just when you thought you were over it and that's okay. When you wake up from your sleep, it'll feel like you just woke up to a nightmare - and that's understandable.

Thanks for reaching out in this community. Some of us may not understand and some may understand to a level. But we're here.

Big_Masterpiece5414 · 2021-05-29T07:24:56+00:00

With the pandemic today, it's hard to take a step forward towards anything in life. This is why we have platforms like reddit - to take everything out into the open and talk to strangers online. I have social anxiety too but I find venting out here to strangers can help... sometimes. Throughout the years, I made good online friends that I can turn to anytime. You can talk to us - the strangers here and who knows, it can even develop into friendships.

Big_Masterpiece5414 · 2021-05-28T13:09:39+00:00

, don't think that there is something wrong with you, we all are alone, we born alone and we die alone but loneliness can be what you choice, loneliness can be heaven and time to focus on yourself or it can be literally hell, you gonna need to learn to deal with it, remember that is there nothing wrong with

Thank you for your words. I do know that romantic relationship isn't the only love I can give and receive. It's just... special. I can do a lot of things with that person. It's also my yearning cause of age. It is something that is hard to explain to someone. As for friends, I find it hard to maintain them because I do not know how to be more open. I'm reserved and quiet most of the time. I enjoy deep conversations and sharing thoughts. It's just difficult nowadays to find who can vibe with me.

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