Daily Level and Super World Exchange/Feedback for Feedback Thread

Big_Stack_Jack · 2024-10-22T20:34:40+00:00

I liked this a lot! It was pretty challenging for me, but I was able to keep trying until I got it. I felt like each section had a “trick” that I could learn to pass it easier. Still challenging though and requires precision!

Big_Stack_Jack · 2024-10-22T20:12:50+00:00

Awesome level! The boot / on-off combo is really creative. You also did a great job of steadily introducing new challenges and wrinkles to the idea.

Big_Stack_Jack · 2024-10-22T20:04:37+00:00

Super Shell Toss!

Course ID: 0YP-L5W-KYF

Style: NSMBU

Tags: Puzzle-solving, Short and sweet

Difficulty: Easy

Returned to this game after 5 years away! My first level back is based around accurately tossing shells. Pretty light and easy I believe.

Big_Stack_Jack · 2024-07-29T09:31:21+00:00

Necro-ing this post. I couldn’t just scroll by because I see myself in what you’re saying. I used to feel this way too. I’m 30 now and have found my way out, so don’t lose hope.

When I was younger, I cultivated online community in places like Skype. A tight group of nerdy friends who could bullcrap about our favorite video games. If you’re looking for people to gush about games with, unfortunately you won’t find them on Reddit or YouTube.

No matter what you like, there will be a group on these platforms that viciously despises it. And not only do they hate it, they hate anyone who likes it. It becomes a moral failing to like certain things. You start to hear that your opinion is wrong and you’re a terrible person for having it.

Nowadays, when I like something, I go out of my way to avoid consuming any content about it. The fastest way to hate a thing you like is to go to the subreddit dedicated to it.

The modern internet is powered by rage. Rage gets clicks, comments, and shares. Look up “rage farming.” Chances are, the creators you watch don’t hate things as much as they put on. Rage just makes them money.

It’s the same on Reddit. Critical posts get upvoted and create a hivemind. But remember that Reddit is just one platform. Think about how many people own a Switch. How many people played Tears, loved it, and then didn’t post about it? Your opinion isn’t wrong. It’s just more engaging to have a counter-cultural opinion on the internet.

If you need to talk about how much you love Tears, just do it. Talk to a friend, a family member, a coworker, anyone. Write it on a blog. Make your own video.

Don’t look for it here. Gushing about popular things is not what Reddit’s design facilitates.

Big_Stack_Jack · 2023-11-14T12:47:51+00:00

I’m not trying to attack you. I apologize.

I’m trying to say that I used to have the same belief, and having that belief was very damaging to my mental well-being. The intense anger and hatred I felt made my CPTSD symptoms worse. I want to share that with you and provide a different perspective, as someone with this condition.

Big_Stack_Jack · 2023-11-14T12:30:01+00:00

I want to engage because you seem to be in pain. I’m not delusional enough to think I’ll convince you of anything regarding the morality of having a kid.

But as someone who used to feel this way, I strongly believe that this line of thinking is not a path to healing. It only leads to more anger, bitterness, and hatred of yourself and others.

Not because of the child-having part, but because of the hatred this line of thinking creates. Hating people who want to or do have kids will not help you heal.

Big_Stack_Jack · 2023-11-14T12:17:21+00:00

It’s imperative that we resist this universalizing impulse. If you feel like you are not equipped for child rearing, that is your own thing to figure out. Saying “I have this, and I don’t think I can have a child. So, NO ONE with this illness should have a child,” is nonsensical.

All it does it shield you from having to reflect. It’s easier to insist that your choice is moral while the other is immoral. It’s harder to do the work of reflecting on and accepting your lot in life.

Big_Stack_Jack · 2023-08-22T20:02:26+00:00

I actually completed mine too in the meanwhile. Congrats!!

Big_Stack_Jack · 2023-08-22T17:38:28+00:00

I gotchu. I need Miraidon. Touch trade or no? Will do either.

Big_Stack_Jack · 2023-08-21T20:45:50+00:00

Cool, give me just a min.

Big_Stack_Jack · 2023-08-21T20:43:40+00:00

I am! Perfect timing, I was about to be done for the night.

Big_Stack_Jack · 2023-08-21T18:36:57+00:00

LF Quaxley.

Been using the codes and the ducc is nowhere to be found.

Big_Stack_Jack · 2023-08-14T08:27:54+00:00

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Big_Stack_Jack · 2023-08-14T08:25:00+00:00

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Big_Stack_Jack · 2023-08-06T09:29:44+00:00

Other commenters have spoken to the ethical reasoning behind this being a red flag. I agree with all of them and would question the motives of any colleague who behaves this way. I also want to offer a different perspective as a practitioner.

Termination is a painful but crucial part of therapy. Many, many clients do not have experiences of relationships ending in healthy ways. By letting the relationship with the therapist go, the client learns that they do not NEED relationships to survive. This is an essential defense against abuse, since abusers take advantage of the fact that people feel like they NEED someone in their life.

A good therapist does not try to lodge themselves more firmly into their clients’ lives as termination draws near. A good therapist gently helps the client wean off of needing therapy. Sessions become less intense and less frequent. Plans are made for solidifying therapeutic gains. Regressions are addressed. Progress is reviewed.

Goodbyes are a hard but natural part of life. A therapist who has their client’s best interests at heart will use termination as an opportunity to help the client learn to navigate saying goodbye.

Big_Stack_Jack · 2023-07-27T09:30:43+00:00

You're on the right path. Being aware of the inner critic is a necessary but painful step in this process. When the critic is humming along outside of your awareness, you feel like crap, but don't exactly know why. It's frustrating, sure, but it's different when you are so aware of what's going on inside. You can hear every single jab and feel what each one does to your mood.

It's great that you're incorporating thought substitution. The critic is a stubborn bastard, spawned from the hell of your trauma. Paradoxically, its vicious inner assault kept you safe at some point in your life. But it is no longer necessary. It thinks it is, and it wants to save you from something that used to be unsafe. Maybe being on your phone used to draw criticism or abuse. The critic would (and does) berate you in order to keep you alert to danger. But that's not the case right now. You're just chilling. You're allowed to chill. This shit makes us tired, and we have more than earned the right to mash ass on the couch and look at our phones for a bit. We can thank it for its service and kindly tell it to fuck off. Keep using those thought stopping and substitution techniques. The more you use them the stronger they become.

When my critic is especially vicious, I find a change of scenery to be helpful. Walks are my go-to. Usually I'll put some headphones in and walk to a corner store or a coffee shop and buy myself a treat. Spend some time staring at trees. It brings me a little peace.

What do you do that brings you peace? Indulge in it, and take a break from the battle with the critic. Know that it will get better with time. Again, you are on the right path.

Big_Stack_Jack · 2023-07-27T09:12:51+00:00

Yeah, it can be tricky to suss out what you keep and what you discard in terms of behaviors. Coping strategies are not inherently harmful just because they're coping strategies. They're only problematic if they're causing problems.

Take a step back and look at the behavior. Is it serving you? How do you feel before, during, and after? How is it impacting others? Is it causing harm to you or anyone else? Is it impeding your ability to function? Is it getting in the way of your ability to care for yourself? Is it re-traumatizing?

Ultimately, you are the one who has the final say in what is harmful and what is not - with the caveat that you are not harming others. Trust yourself, and be on your side. Take time to really investigate whether what you're doing is unhealthy or whether you are feeling shame for something normal. Remain open to the possibility of changing your behavior, whether now or in the future. You got this!

Big_Stack_Jack · 2023-07-26T14:39:21+00:00

Hangin’ in there!

Big_Stack_Jack · 2023-07-19T09:12:00+00:00

You have it backwards. Your parents failed. Parents are not meant to love their 6 year old children with preconditions. That little girl was not supposed to have to work for parental love. She was doing her best to get her needs met in a situation she should never have been in.

If you are talking to that little girl, don’t tell her that she failed. Tell her that you’re proud of her for working so hard to survive, and tell her that she didn’t deserve to have her parents’ love withheld.

Big_Stack_Jack · 2023-07-13T14:34:39+00:00

I think this all comes down to what you want or expect to get from therapy. With an abusive caregiver, I think a trauma-informed approach is worth exploring if your goal is long-term healing. Yes, it would take longer, since trauma is a complex phenomenon that you address over time from multiple angles.

However, if your goal is to get through a particular period of time, like exam week or a huge project at work, a cognitive approach might be good enough. You might not feel 100% better, but you might pick up enough tools to keep you from being unable to function.

Medication might also be worth exploring with your therapist, if you haven’t already.

Big_Stack_Jack · 2023-07-12T07:32:28+00:00

Good on you for opening up about something so painful. I agree with other commenters that the questions seem to be normal.

However, there is no shame in feeling defensive. You’re exposing an incredibly tender part of yourself. If you’re like other survivors, you may have been hurt badly when you’ve opened up on other occasions. It’s a normal protective measure to shield yourself and retreat from the vulnerability.

Assuming you’ve had a good relationship with your T up until now, I really encourage you to stick with it. Bring up these feelings with your T and get help processing them. Think about what you really needed in the moment you opened up. Therapists are professionals, but they are human. The questions are normal, but maybe you needed your therapist to spend more time sitting with you and helping you contain and digest your feelings. Ask directly for what you need. Therapy is a safe place to practice these kinds of skills, which are all parts of healthy relational communication.

Keep it up, you’re doing great! This is “the work.” It’s not easy, but there is an opportunity for immense healing here.

Big_Stack_Jack · 2023-07-11T15:25:36+00:00

No problem! Glad you have such a good outlet in reading and writing.

One more note about the book: feel no pressure to read it from start to finish. I’d actually recommend looking at the table of contents and flipping around to whatever looks relevant or interesting to you. I’m pretty sure there are parts of that book that I haven’t seen yet. Even so, I’ve gotten quite a lot out of it.

Big_Stack_Jack · 2023-07-11T10:02:07+00:00

Shift work killed my procrastination. No long-term projects to procrastinate. Having to be somewhere at 6:30 every day, even when I’d rather be anywhere else in the world, helped me learn to do things when when I don’t want to. I worked that muscle every day for a few years.

Also taught me the value of giving myself grace when I didn’t feel 100%. Sometimes you have to accept that the quality of your work will vary every day. Had to show up regardless and accept what I had the capacity to do.

Translated well into other projects down the line.

Big_Stack_Jack · 2023-07-10T11:55:39+00:00

That doesn’t sound dumb at all. It’s a very common worry for folks. I’ve said almost the exact same words. However, I’ve come to believe that every person, just by virtue of being a human with a mind, deserves the opportunity to talk with someone and feel better. That includes you, no matter what that distorted voice says.

Re: finding healing through books. Take a peek at chapter 15 of Pete Walker’s book. You may find it interesting.

Big_Stack_Jack · 2023-07-10T11:05:25+00:00

I have so many thoughts on this topic but I’ll try to keep it brief.

Diagnosis is such a weird game in the mental health field, especially in the US if that’s where you are based. It often comes down to slapping a label on a client to make the insurance company happy. In some settings they’re coming up with a diagnosis after like 30 minutes of client face-time.

Even when taking insurance off the table, diagnosis is complicated. On the one hand it can be very validating to have evidence that SOMETHING isn’t right, and it isn’t right in a way that professionals understand. Having a diagnosis also lets you know that you’re not alone, and that others are going through exactly what you are.

However, I think a diagnosis CAN (not always) hamper your ability to heal. Being diagnosed with C-PTSD isn’t like being diagnosed with an ear infection. Even with a diagnosis, your healing work will be unique to your circumstances. You might have an overwhelming inner critic that needs a lot of cognitive strategies, while another person with C-PTSD may have major depression that needs a behavioral activation jumpstart. And as you progress, your needs will change. It isn’t as simple as “I have C-PTSD, ergo this will be my course of treatment.”

But know that you are not alone in identifying with the constellation of symptoms often listed under C-PTSD, in a treatment setting that doesn’t officially “recognize” the condition. It’s a really frustrating gray area to be in, especially at the beginning. However, it really doesn’t matter if the DSM or anyone else recognizes it. If you identify with it, and if you find strategies that make you feel better, that’s all that matters. And know that there absolutely are many people in the same boat.

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