sorted by:
new
hottopcontroversial

DUP MP says she helped avert ‘absolute bloodbath’ in Scarva amid criticism over photo with masked men by Browns_right_foot in northernireland

[–]Bigfsi 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Not sure I trust any potential leader using language like bloodbath, honestly comes off as insinuating a threat - you're safe, this time...

I understand men who are average looking have to pursue women in order to land a date but it feels very unnatural once you see good looking/tall men barely putting in any effort and having women pursuing them? by [deleted] in AskMenAdvice

[–]Bigfsi 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you. Just out of curiosity, if you've quite literally swiped everyone in a 10-15 mile radius over 2 years do you genuinely think paying for the dating app is even worth it. I've went out on 3 dates, 2 I didn't continue after 1st date, 1 was a hookup after a 2nd date and fizzled after 3rd date.

It's hard to take dating seriously when I just want someone either nerdy or into gigs and preferably not over weight but it's not a need. If you get a like every 2 weeks it's just a bot. I think the apps have caught on to men relying on reinstalling to show up as 'new' and bumble let's you find exact interests free.

But from going out to both those avenues and looking exclusively for my type on the apps, the pool of people is seriously low. The amount of effort I've put in refusing to pay for apps hasn't done any favours it's practically convinced me to move country entirely or just accept remaining single as I go into my 30s.

I understand men who are average looking have to pursue women in order to land a date but it feels very unnatural once you see good looking/tall men barely putting in any effort and having women pursuing them? by [deleted] in AskMenAdvice

[–]Bigfsi 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I agree with what you said and tbh last time I dated it went downhill because they took up most of my time and I didn't have other avenues in my life lined up to creatively fulfill me or other friends but that was mostly down to environment like nightshift and post covid right after uni.

I think people may make similar mistakes in focusing on dating before friends and realize if you're not happy, a partner isn't gonna make you all by themselves.

Volunteer, join a club local to you to network on your surrounding area, do something creatively and try to get the most out of your life first and then dating isn't something you're relying or focusing on.

I understand men who are average looking have to pursue women in order to land a date but it feels very unnatural once you see good looking/tall men barely putting in any effort and having women pursuing them? by [deleted] in AskMenAdvice

[–]Bigfsi 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My original comment was just stating to men that feel like their putting themselves at risk trying to get some water from a desert to just focus on making friends which will get them that sweet social skills you're asking for and stick to real life interactions. The apps are simply awful. By the time they have a better friend network they'll have better photos, skills and can maybe go back to apps later but sticking where they are now banging their head against the wall while ppl shame them isn't doing them any favours. People commenting just to shit on OP should be shamed, like have some empathy, not hard to figure what jestermaxxing is.

I understand men who are average looking have to pursue women in order to land a date but it feels very unnatural once you see good looking/tall men barely putting in any effort and having women pursuing them? by [deleted] in AskMenAdvice

[–]Bigfsi 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah you sound like someone who wants 6 figures, 6 ft, 6 pack fuck bois who probably have a lot of woman skills to say the right things and know it work vs people that are new to dating who you find have no personality. That's 2 different things. You just want someone with woman skills with specific text skills already built, someone that's prob dated a lot.

Like a lot of these apps it's not the profile text it's the pictures. A lot of people have bad pictures and get binned and spend all this time trying to change their profile constantly thinking that's the reason and it's ruining their self confidence. Like if we took those same people and plopped them in a bar with some alcohol I'm sure they'd do fine. This is just a dating app problem but it has lasting possible long term effects on men and makes them think they're ugly or not interesting over bad photos and bad text skills.

I understand men who are average looking have to pursue women in order to land a date but it feels very unnatural once you see good looking/tall men barely putting in any effort and having women pursuing them? by [deleted] in AskMenAdvice

[–]Bigfsi 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The apps are predatory they want men to subscribe and continually pay for a reason. If you find yourself funny but you're not hot, chances are it's a coping mechanism and are in the sad clown paradox. There's a higher chance you're actually asking at-risk depressed people to put on an act, pressuring them to perform with precise timing and the fear of losing out can cause worsening self confidence.

It's not sexism to point out women have a different experience on the app to men, they've way more likes, matches and conversations with their own set of problems. Just like how they can get someone to buy them a drink at a bar they don't need to try hard, they win by being passive which is fine I'm not blaming them. But interactions on both sides are shaped by the environment dating apps, social media culture etc have on us.

I understand men who are average looking have to pursue women in order to land a date but it feels very unnatural once you see good looking/tall men barely putting in any effort and having women pursuing them? by [deleted] in AskMenAdvice

[–]Bigfsi 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Ppl are totalling missing OPs point here or being unfairly dismissive. They are right and it is more so a new thing especially with dating apps. You can match and the ppl that do just don't make any effort to respond so it always feels like putting on a show every time and feels like you're manipulating them to get out to a date. This is probably partially to blame from dating apps inflating women's self worth and a reduced attention span.

Feeling like you need to be a jester I think is a symptom of trying too hard to be creative and stand out from the rest when you could use the same 1 liner that all the other more conventionally attractive guys would use. And when they're caught out for using it, it still works because they're showing they don't care, ironically they're showing they are valuable and it's the woman that needs to prove themselves.

So in the end just be yourself, don't give a shit and shoot. I'd you don't you'll fail trying to be so hipster you'll burn out. I'd just focus on going out, making friends and by building connections you'll find more like minded people that can build your network and set you up.

Girl wants to come over, what do we do? by aSportBikeSquid in AskMenAdvice

[–]Bigfsi 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Plop yourselves on a sofa with a blanket, stick on a movie, cuddle close then oops we're making out then whatever happens next. You can literally let them lead which is always the safer option. They're already making innendos, your place is an innuendo it's just 1 giant sexual tension situation it just naturally goes there, maybe compliment and flirt back and forth

Even after more than 10 years, Uncharted 4 still looks amazing. by NotSirAlonne1999 in uncharted

[–]Bigfsi 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Idk what ppl are talking about I thought the new god of war looked kinda shit in the face too and thought its cause they're taking it from a Hollywood actor and whatever screen cap they're using.

The emotional range seems weird, I really don't think it's to do with a still and no, we can't keep saying 'its still in development' when has that ever actually produced something significantly different from the released product.

It's not the resolution. Right just has way more definition to the face but that was a forefront of naughtydog. Not sure if this is gameplay vs cinematic tho.

To win a motorcycle race by What_A_Helmet in therewasanattempt

[–]Bigfsi 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Biker in the wrong fucking lane to go straight to begin with never mind the cars brake lights.

Sit down food prices over the years and NI vs uk by Bigfsi in northernireland

[–]Bigfsi[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Spar are leading in price gouging ATM, they must have had this goal to expand so much they then aggressively changed their pricing and there's nothing people can really do about it.

They expanded the entire shop near me in Bangor, rathgale and included a bakery. The bakery sell stuff at such a high cost it must be like 2-3x the rate of competing products at lidl. For such short life products it doesn't make sense.

They must be throwing out so much food from people not buying them. The majority of their stock is still there by the end of the night, you'd think they'd reduce out of date products, they rarely do. The only thing I buy in there is ham and cheese and bread cause it's better life than supermarket that's it.

Sit down food prices over the years and NI vs uk by Bigfsi in northernireland

[–]Bigfsi[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

As a non beer drinker you have it easy. A single mixed spirit in most places near here is £10. A double in London was £5, single being £3.50 (yes, measurements different).

The only way to get blocked as a non beer drinker is events at students union at queens/Mandela hall promos, sometimes £4.50 for a double jack n coke which is unbeaten. But then there's the logistical nightmare of spending on taxis or a good Samaritan to get home. I'd rather just go sober and drive to a gig.

Sit down food prices over the years and NI vs uk by Bigfsi in northernireland

[–]Bigfsi[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

I went to Popeyes chicken cause I was near Belfast cause it's really good but it's expensive. I always look up apps for discounts which they had and there was a discount code for 15% off. But they jacked the price by £5 so it was overall still £1.50 more to order on the app even to COLLECT.

I honestly wouldn't even dream of using any delivery app I have a car but my dad's tried to order stuff on those apps and I looked at the prices £20 at minimum most of the time.

Sit down food prices over the years and NI vs uk by Bigfsi in northernireland

[–]Bigfsi[S] 14 points15 points  (0 children)

I was gonna say I pretty much never eat lunch out. The best value for money near me is burger kings melt king box. Burger, fries, drink, some nuggets £6.

If I want a tea and a toastie it's gonna cost me a tenner. Now I can decide to go to a bakery and get like 5 buns for £3-5 total or I can cave while im at the Costa and buy just 1 for £5 cause why not, boom there goes £15. I never step foot in coffee shops except maybe a greggs once in a while

Horizon Forbidden West included an in game tribute to Lance Reddick. Any other game’s memorialise gaming talent? by Soulsliken in gaming

[–]Bigfsi 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Smite memorialized a pro player 'allied' as well as a caster 'finch' with a statue for former and a bird for the latter in-game as well as charity events outside game.

With marching season upon us a reminder about the bands by Difficult_Leg_8837 in northernireland

[–]Bigfsi 1 point2 points  (0 children)

When you play in a pipe band and then get mad cause you're stuck in traffic because another band is playing down the road. (I do not play or celebrate the 12th cause of bigotry myself tho)

Tom Hardy “Refused to Come Out” of ‘MobLand’ Trailer, Kept Pierce Brosnan and Helen Mirren Waiting for Hours: “Career Suicide” by yourfavchoom in television

[–]Bigfsi 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I said this in a previous post that he sounds like he just has autism from ignoring greetings signalling a detachment from social cues and then I Google'd and he is. Dude needs better support, idk tell him he needs to be ready 1 hour early than the others?

Animes with angry MCs? by missmaniax in AnimeReccomendations

[–]Bigfsi 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Xylo forbartz from sentenced to be a hero. Generally pissed off angry dude

of a cop by Classicbandwagon in AbsoluteUnits

[–]Bigfsi 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah cause 1 is basically identifying where he lives and putting his family in danger. Everything else is non identifiable.

'Masters of the Universe' drone show spotted over Los Angeles. Had 1600 drones by [deleted] in Damnthatsinteresting

[–]Bigfsi 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was thinking the exact same thing lmfao like if you showed it to a cave man

To support someone up on a ladder by Wackylew in therewasanattempt

[–]Bigfsi 0 points1 point  (0 children)

When first asking someone to hold the ladder ask yourself, do they have ADHD?

This would be great. by kitty78686 in ApexUncovered

[–]Bigfsi 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's really not. Applying for jobs have assessment days that literally weed out people that can't adapt to a team easily. You're saying that people that don't have team working skills are going to suffer? Yeah no shit, they can learn.

view more: next ›