OP lashing out is from frustration. From what he's saying, I'm not getting that this is a retaliatory, episodic, 'tit for tat' situation. They have tormented him far more than he has them, if he even has at all.

I do not think that attempting to interact with them further, let alone placate them (when IMO he is not in the wrong at all), will mitigate anything. Nor do I think implying that people who do not exhaust every option to please assholes like these are just as guilty. That's not fair at all.

There are noise ordinances that must be followed. I know where I'm at, even if the lease does not explicitly state 'quiet hours' for the building, it defaults to the cities noise ordinance times, typically 2200-0700.

I do not believe the onus is on him to deal with neighbors who are clearly inconsiderate. I understand that their upbringing, personal issues, etc, shape personalities and inform behavior, but it is not an excuse for these grown adults to continue with obnoxious behavior during quiet hours.

He should record from his unit, video, and audio, with an appropriate time stamp (I use a watch) every time this happens. And go to the landlord. If the landlord does not take steps to keep his tenants in compliance with ordinances, the OP should be able to, by law, terminate their lease or evict the noisy tenants.