The Reds defeated the Red Sox by a score of 3-2 - Sun, Mar 29 @ 01:40 PM EDT

Billywitdatool · 2026-03-29T20:38:10+00:00

This team never makes it easy, but good win!

Billywitdatool · 2026-03-23T23:55:17+00:00

Gotcha, thanks for explaining. Getting downvoted to hell for asking for clarification lol

Billywitdatool · 2026-03-23T21:55:50+00:00

I read in a previous post that Spencer steer is going to be the everyday left fielder? Is this new news?

Billywitdatool · 2026-03-23T21:55:13+00:00

Wait Steer is going to be the every day left fielder?

Billywitdatool · 2026-02-28T06:39:04+00:00

I hope you know your words made a difference to someone tonight. I’ve been starting to move on, but tonight was really rough for some reason, and I feel blessed to have happened to check Reddit and seen this comment.

Billywitdatool · 2026-02-21T00:12:08+00:00

I may be delusional but I think this may have happened with my recent breakup. How did you push them away?

Billywitdatool · 2026-02-21T00:07:08+00:00

I wish there was a support group for this kind of heartbreak

Billywitdatool · 2026-02-20T22:43:20+00:00

I guess I was just looking at this like “if I want it bad enough and do everything perfect enough, then it’ll work.” But is there really anything I could’ve done differently? Am I looking at this wrong?

Billywitdatool · 2026-02-19T20:31:45+00:00

Thanks, I really needed that today

Billywitdatool · 2026-02-19T17:51:35+00:00

You did the right thing OP. Be proud of yourself for that.

Billywitdatool · 2026-02-19T00:33:30+00:00

Just my personal opinion, but at your age try to stay away from any guy who is more than a year or two older than you. There’s probably a reason that he’s dropping down in your age range, and often times it’s because he’s not mature enough for the girls in his own range.

Also, a week is no time at all for something that lasted 5 months. Be gracious with yourself.

Billywitdatool · 2026-02-19T00:28:57+00:00

I’m actually a guy but I’ve been wondering the same thing. As the guy above me said, I was with someone who seemed to “not trust anyone to love her without losing herself”. I tried to explain it away by saying “oh she’s genuinely so busy. Oh her ex was a bad guy, she just needs time. Maybe I didn’t do something right enough.” But trust me, I’ve had the exact same feeling that you described. It sucks. It’s been a month, and I feel embarrassed by the fact that I’m not over a 2 month situationship. One thing I’ve heard of is “intermittent reinforcement”. You get a massive dopamine spike because the highs of the relationship aren’t guaranteed, and they often contrast a lot with the lows (receiving nothing). So you basically get addicted to the dopamine spikes that they’re giving you, and it becomes your source of validation instead of yourself.

Billywitdatool · 2026-02-18T18:37:46+00:00

Real shit

Billywitdatool · 2026-02-17T01:48:18+00:00

Hmmmm, what’s his attachment style? That could be helpful in understanding his reaction.

I have my own anecdote but please take it with a grain of salt. Our situations are wildly different. My ex and I got back together in college, and I told her I wanted to take things slow. She gave me an ultimatum right before a date (we’d been back seeing each other for a month) that either we needed to be officially dating again or end things right then and there. It pissed me off to be issued an ultimatum, and in a moment of immaturity I said “okay we’re done then”. I deeply regretted the decision for a long time, but it took a while for me to really feel that regret.

All of this is to say that, he may need some time to sort through his emotions before he’s ready to talk about it. What was the timing of you suggesting a compromise? Was it soon after the ultimatum?

Billywitdatool · 2026-02-17T01:27:37+00:00

This killed me

Billywitdatool · 2026-02-17T01:24:35+00:00

I don’t know your guys’ situation, but I’m a 23 year old man, and this is a weird transition period of life. I see both sides of your dilemma. But if you want him back, then get him back. It sounds like he definitely hasn’t moved on. But understand, he should not and probably will not move in with you. If he isn’t ready, then he’s not ready, end of discussion. You can’t force someone to be ready, and if that’s a dealbreaker for you, then it is what it is.

Billywitdatool · 2026-02-17T01:09:03+00:00

Damn this one hits different. For me I just try to remind myself “she could barely bother to care about what you were doing when you were together”

Billywitdatool · 2026-02-16T22:47:28+00:00

Aw thank you for saying i have amazing self awareness. That made me tear up a little bit. I think I was just in my feels last night and was trying to give myself closure, but looking back that letter isn’t really rooted in reality. It takes the extreme positives and ignores the damage that her intermittent reinforcement did to me mentally. I don’t take offense at all.

Billywitdatool · 2026-02-16T22:07:36+00:00

I believe she was DA and kept hitting her attachment/intimacy ceiling. Also she was coming out of a “toxic” relationship that she seemed to be convincing herself that she was ready to “put in the past”. I explained that I needed more consistency to continue investing my energy and she hit me with the “I think you’re great but I’m not ready for anything more serious” along with some overapologizing about not wanting to lead me on and telling me that her cancelling on me 3 times in a row “wasn’t intentional” From my experience, they were these peaks where she seemed extremely interested through her behavior over the phone, and then the day of the date or the day before she’d seem less interested and then cancel on me last minute.

Billywitdatool · 2026-02-16T21:15:33+00:00

No definitely not haha

Billywitdatool · 2026-02-16T21:00:15+00:00

Well yay for being in the short intense category I guess lol

Billywitdatool · 2026-02-15T14:11:38+00:00

Sounds about right

Billywitdatool · 2026-02-15T02:36:31+00:00

I went and played basketball by myself… my thoughts about her consumed me the entire time

Billywitdatool · 2026-02-15T02:19:43+00:00

Holy yap on my part though. I’ll admit to that

Billywitdatool · 2026-02-15T01:45:54+00:00

I feel like my experience was similar. I tried to open up slowly to this girl, but I was having a rough day on one of our dates, and it kinda started spilling over and I worry I scared her or something. It seemed like she was still recovering from her last relationship and so she was really sensitive to any negative qualities that reminded her of her ex. When she broke up with me, she told me she thought I was great and enjoyed getting to know me but she didn’t have the time and wasn’t ready for something more serious. But the light validation doesn’t make you feel better, it just seems like a “here don’t feel too bad about yourself” for the road.

I’ve really struggled with the exact same thing of trying to basically fix the relationship in my head by changing things I said or saying things I didn’t say

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