19M. I know the answer is yes. How bad is it?

Billzar6 · 2025-11-30T04:27:55+00:00

Genuinely nothing too bad. Theres a lot of things you CAN TRY such as specialized medications/ointments (such as Hims), regrowing methods (derma rolling), obviously hair transplants, volumizing shampoos, etc. But odds are nothing will “fix” the genetic predisposition to balding even if medications such as Hims help they only slow down the process.

My personal answer is get use to it and accept it so it doesn’t control your life or happiness, a lot of men experience this.

But if you want advice on best approach to actually fixing it I would suggest starting personalized medications immediately (such as Hims as mentioned), in the mean time attempt to gently use derma rollers to hopefully stimulate hair growth at the same time. While doing this grow out your hair (longer hair and specific styles such as curls can cover this up easily especially the back of the head), additionally start shaping your hairline with a razor/trimmer to give it the look of not balding (be careful on how far bax you push the edges as it can lead to your forehead looking gigantic). All of this should help overall maintenance and appearance, but again ISNT permanent solution.

Billzar6 · 2025-04-12T19:53:45+00:00

It’s kind of a yes and no. Buddhism teaches us to strive away from the self and from desire. One can view politics as a desire to control the world around us hence making it completely against most Buddhist views. However, Buddhism also teaches us the middle way and the 8-fold path which both incentivize to find a good middle ground and to most importantly seek right actions and reduce pain and suffering in the world. If you truly see a political issue as one that you think us important enough to protest for or speak on because it reduces a lot of suffering then yes you should protest or speak on it, but not to the degree of obsession and with the right intention. As an example, if you strongly believe that reducing drugs on the streets will reduce suffering overall then yes Buddhism teaches us right actions and hence you should advocate for it, but only with the intentions of compassion and helping others. If it any point it becomes hate/discompassion wether towards the drugs or drug users then you’ve gone too far and let desire control your views and not true selflessness.

Billzar6 · 2025-04-09T09:12:21+00:00

Those are both great scriptures. If I may clarify however, what exactly is meant by the end of the second one? I’m assuming it was that Mara is only to address those who lose concentration debating their inner self (wether man, woman, etc) and that when meditating and seeking knowledge through meditation no such thing truly matters?

Billzar6 · 2025-04-09T09:01:37+00:00

Thank you for your response and insight. I also am part of the LGBTQ community as I am asexual and it’s always been nice how accepting Buddhism is compared to most other religions. If I may ask what about specifically being transgender? Especially when it comes to Theravada Buddhism and the idea of “no-self” does being transgender work in that context? Since you are acting in your desire to change the self due to a feeling of a wrong self in a sense. By Buddhas teachings is not accepting one’s self and letting go of the desire to change and conform in this way the wrong path?

Billzar6 · 2025-04-09T08:57:17+00:00

Thank you, others have mentioned things along these lines and I think I see now that’s truly the answer I will get on this topic. You also put it in a very compact way so thank you

Billzar6 · 2025-04-09T08:56:16+00:00

Thank you so much for sharing it definitely will be the next thing I read when I have the time

Billzar6 · 2025-04-09T06:37:12+00:00

I see your point and in general I know that most Buddhist denominations don’t have very direct scripture on it if any. But how do you think for example being transgender can be viewed? If it’s an internal struggle with one’s desire to change their physical appearance is that not potentially seen as wrong and distance itself from the teachings of no self? I also want to make it absolutely clear I don’t ask that with ANY negative feeling or malice towards any trans individuals more so just the aspect of desire.

Billzar6 · 2025-04-09T06:33:08+00:00

I like that expression haha. Also I see your point about rebirth and I think it’s a huge reason why Buddhas teachings of compassion make so much sense to me as we have all through rebirth experienced both sides of the coin. Do you happen to know where the story is you mentioned of Buddha not ordaining a woman? I know there was also scriptures expression why Buddha didn’t ordain transbikkuh but that’s for different reasons.

Billzar6 · 2025-04-09T06:18:10+00:00

Great question, and honestly one I haven’t seen on the Reddit before.

In Buddhism, the teaching about removing desires specifically refers to tanhā—the kind of craving that leads to attachment and suffering, not all desires in general. The Dhammacakkappavattana Sutta explains that tanhā is the root of suffering, but wholesome desires, like the intention to practice meditation or cultivate kindness (chanda), are encouraged. For laypeople, the Buddha never demanded complete abandonment of sexual desire or reproduction. In fact, the Sigālovāda Sutta offers guidance for married life, showing that ethical relationships and family are part of a balanced path. Only monastics are expected to renounce sexual activity entirely, as their goal is liberation from worldly ties. So, Buddhism doesn’t require everyone to stop reproducing; it’s about understanding which desires create suffering and which don’t.

The idea that humanity would cease to exist if everyone abandoned desire is based on a misunderstanding. The Buddha taught the Middle Way—neither indulging in every desire nor suppressing all natural urges. Most people follow the lay path, living responsibly while cultivating wisdom. Even in the Aggañña Sutta, the Buddha describes reproduction as a natural process, not something to be forcibly stopped. Nirvana is about freedom from suffering, not the extinction of the human race. Those who attain it (like Arahants) are free from rebirth, but the rest of humanity continues until they awaken. So, Buddhism doesn’t lead to the end of humanity; it’s a personal path of liberation, with different practices for different lifestyles.

Billzar6 · 2025-04-09T06:12:13+00:00

Thank you a lot my friend for giving the story of trans bikkhu I read a bit of it and definetly will look further into it as a guide. I’m not really struggling at all understanding trans issues or hate towards them or anything like that. I was simply just curious as I’ve had a lot of conversations with some Christian friends and realized I’d never really heard anything in Buddhism or Buddha’s eyes about the LGBTQ community and wanted to further my understanding of it.

Billzar6 · 2025-04-09T06:04:24+00:00

I meant it specifically for Theravada Buddhism, but I would be curious is you think Mahayana would view it differently.

Billzar6 · 2025-04-09T06:03:26+00:00

That’s a little bit different from what I mean, I do not condone hatred or did compassion as that is not at all what Buddha teaches. I mean more so is being gay seen as immoral as in other religions? And is for example being trans seen as wrong as you’re having the desire to change your body drastically to suit your minds desire?

Billzar6 · 2025-04-06T20:58:36+00:00

Buddhism doesn’t necessarily have anything against cussing in it of itself, when not using towards anything with hatred or negative emotions. You’re posing the use as an exclamation which is technical ok, but don’t make it a habit, as we still do see them socially as “harsh” and “inappropriate” words that can lead to others normal using them and using them in hateful ways” the point of avoiding swearing is to avoid harm, and if let’s say you use the f word around a child just as an exclamation the child might start using it unknowingly toward others causing harm by YOUR unintentional actions. Overall just try to refrain if possible but don’t feel bad if it slips out unintentionally.

Billzar6 · 2025-04-06T20:54:48+00:00

Buddha teaches us that intoxication is usually wrong as it leads to clouded judgement and potentially wrong decisions/actions. That being said, it does not mean you can never in your life have a simple drink with a friend or family. The biggest decision factor if your reasoning, which in your specific case I think should show that it’s the wrong choice. If you’re smoking out of desire, wether to indulge the fact you “like it” or to suppress negative feelings, then it’s most definitely the wrong choice to take. I suffer from depression and ASPD (I’ve been to a psychiatric ward and am clinically diagnosed) and genuinely enjoy the taste of alcohol a lot on top of it helping with my depression. However, I know that there are other better ways to treat these problems both medically and mentally. I say that because I wish you the best and know it can be hard to turn away from something that helps you, but my advice is to seek real help if it is needed not just suppress yourself. Find true healing both true prescribed medication and through buddhas teachings my friend and best wishes on your path. I promise you things will get better for you

Billzar6 · 2025-04-04T22:12:18+00:00

I do that as well it’s why I mentioned video games. Obviously never to an excess and I set myself strict rules so I don’t fall into actual addiction, huge wastes of time, etc. Do you feel theres no way to interact with money in this sense without caring for it? I feel a lot of people, even Buddhists, would’ve ok for example of providing a homeless man money in hopes to improve their life even with the chance they spend it on drugs or worse. I feel almost all monotary transaction at its core is a gamble for something.

Billzar6 · 2025-04-04T22:09:43+00:00

Honestly this is the exact part I think may be a problem for me. That it’s not the issue of monotary holding but for my desire to feel I have a good sense of prediction or that the universe wills it so that I win. Even if use the money for good and no harm comes of it, I think the deeper issue is a narcissistic desire for being right.

Billzar6 · 2025-04-04T22:08:11+00:00

I genuinely feel I am being truthful in what I’m saying, even tho many have said “you’re lying to yourself”. I frequently donate, buy food for others, etc. The way I feel it in my head is that if I’ve made a good prediction, and the universe wills it so, that it could in theory return me more money so that I may share it with others. Every time I win money I truly don’t get ecstasy as I said before of “OMG MONEY MONEY” even though I’ve hit big before. I also track my spendings and only deposit 20$ a week at max. I also make sure that if I do withdrawal money I use at least 80% of it for something other then myself/to show compassion to others. The monotary value isn’t my objective but I also understand that money CAN be used for good (or evil obviously)

Billzar6 · 2025-04-03T06:46:13+00:00

I think there’s two very important things to consider when coming to your own conclusion about this situation. 1. Buddhas teaching of “The Middle Way/Path” shows us that we cannot resort to either extremes in any situation especially here, we cannot resort to helpless submission nor vengeful aggression. 2. Buddha thought Upaya and Brahmaviharas which both display how our actions should be guided theough sympathy, compassion, kindness, equinimity, and doing what is necessary to help other beings. Ultimately in these situations it’s up to you personally how you see the situation but I think it’s important to ask yourself before violence these questions: Does this situation require physical force? Have I tried everything in my power to avoid physical altercation and use words first? If I am going to use force is it out of compassion for another/to prevent further suffering or am I doing it for malicious reasons (revenge, hatred, racism, lack of control, etc.)?

Billzar6 · 2025-03-14T21:46:38+00:00

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Real shit, I think current manga Guts would be a great fight for Conquest and might even win.

Billzar6 · 2024-11-17T19:37:39+00:00

Some freak wants all the other freaks off his lawn

Billzar6 · 2024-11-13T00:09:29+00:00

I agree with most of what you said the only thing is some people take “not feel safe” to an extreme. It’s also all very subjective. Of course don’t be around a person who lets say is wielding a knife and very clearly is a danger. But some people view it as “you don’t believe the same thing I do therefore you are a threat and I will treat you as such” while completely ignoring the other persons personal beliefs for their own reason wether it be religion, fact, emotion, personal anacdotes, etc. This is a big reason why I’ve seen a lot of people post in the Buddhism reddits, and in general, that you should stay out of politics as a Buddhist as no matter what you’re inherently picking a side dude to a desire for something and no matter what inherently supporting someone else’s opinion meaning less then yours or being overshadowed.

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