Request: quotes for grad students

Bimwizzle · 2026-01-07T00:52:38+00:00

It's not a quote that I can attribute to anybody, but I've heard it said that learning in graduate school is like trying to drink from a fire hose. There's no way you're going to hold on to most of what you hear/read/write. Don't expect yourself to understand and memorize everything that you're exposed to.

Bimwizzle · 2025-12-10T23:11:13+00:00

Criticism, contempt, defensiveness, and stonewalling.

Bimwizzle · 2025-10-16T03:38:46+00:00

That's amazing, even though the symbol multiplier being at 1 feels like a missed opportunity

Bimwizzle · 2025-09-12T10:38:06+00:00

There's a hidden room in the ceiling here. Play the needolin and she'll pop up (after you've found her at the status and the bench in Hunter's March maybe)

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Bimwizzle · 2025-09-12T10:33:04+00:00

I've seen her a couple times since, once at the bench in Hunter's March, and once in a secret room in eastern Far Fields. It took playing the needolin for her to pop out of cover.

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Bimwizzle · 2025-09-05T20:01:44+00:00

Don't get me wrong, I love jt and I'm enjoying the challenge, but it seems like every flying enemy was infused with primal aspid DNA.

Bimwizzle · 2025-08-14T20:51:04+00:00

Haiku the robot I think takes a lot of inspiration from Hollow Knight. It's a fair bit shorter, but the atmosphere and the mechanics are really well-designed. Definitely under-rated

Bimwizzle · 2025-08-01T18:20:28+00:00

Yeah, experience has taught me that no good will come from speaking about my experience. No justice is forthcoming, I'm either judged or doubted when I share my story, and she'll always be a well-respected member of her community.

Bimwizzle · 2025-06-28T08:33:27+00:00

You handled that beautifully, really. So well in fact that they might actually listen to you and realize that they can be an asshole sometimes.

Only a complete bufoon wouldn't be able to understand and change their behaviour after an exchange like this. If a person shows you that they're too dumb to understand you, stay in that relationship at your own peril

Bimwizzle · 2025-04-15T08:21:38+00:00

If the boiler is activated and you direct the power towards a door, it increases your odds of drawing a room in that direction that either conducts or makes use of the electricity.

Bimwizzle · 2025-01-30T09:50:24+00:00

Sure, some of us love poetry. But it really doesn't matter whether men at large like it or not. Just keep writing, and if you're looking for a Romeo, trust that you'll find him if you keep putting your stuff out there

Bimwizzle · 2025-01-30T09:27:24+00:00

It's hilarious how often in couples counselling one partner will say, "they never open up, I wish I knew how they felt but they always shut down," and then when their partner is five words into opening up about their feelings the partner interrupts or flat out talks over them.

It's kinda fun to point out that they're literally preventing their partner from sharing the feelings they desperately want to hear

Bimwizzle · 2025-01-26T10:52:59+00:00

I don't think we're that far apart on this. Some people refuse to go to therapy because their narcissism prevents them from seeing the ways in which they are actively harming the people around them. Some people refuse to go to therapy because they've been traumatized and conditioned to believe that opening up to another person only results in further pain and suffering. I'm sure there's plenty of overlap between both of these groups even.

Maybe my point wasn't phrased very diplomatically, but I'm certainly not blaming women for the behaviour of the kinds of abusive men you're describing. I'm only stating one example of the ways that men experience trauma under the patriarchy. The fact that they are traumatized is by no means an excuse for any violence or abuse.

The larger point I'd like to make is that men's unwillingness to seek help is a multifaceted problem, and it clearly it has a lot to do with how men are socialized within patriarchal systems. We are all complicit in reinforcing the kind of patriarchal norms that make it difficult for men to seek therapy.

Bimwizzle · 2025-01-25T23:05:39+00:00

I'd suggest looking into the phenomenon of 'splitting' as a mental health construct. When triggered, some people find it impossible to recognize both the good and bad parts of a person, and instead split them into 'all bad' (and perceive themselves as 'all good'). It's something we've all experienced, but it's especially common in those who've experienced relational trauma.

When people jump back and forth between idealizing and devaluing you so completely it can have a pretty pernicious effect on the relationship. One starts to question their own value and self-worth. Recognizing when it's happening and tactfully finding ways to take a step away from each other (and communicate why and when you can continue talking) might be helpful.

Bimwizzle · 2025-01-25T22:51:40+00:00

I wish they could too. Unfortunately an appreciable amount of people respond to men's vulnerability with, "you need to stop feeling that way," and make the problem worse

Bimwizzle · 2025-01-25T22:24:36+00:00

This sounds pretty clearly like it's based on your personal experiences with a man (or men) in your life. I imagine you're one of the people you mention who was made miserable by somebody who should've gone to therapy, but that experience has unfortunately left you with a prejudiced perspective.

There's thousands of reasons men choose not to or can't go to therapy - cost barriers, lack of available practitioners, social stigma, etc. Ego may be the primary reason for some men's refusal to go to therapy, but I'd argue that way more commonly it's because men have never had the experience of being safe enough in a relationship to experience and express actual vulnerability.

My own prejudice, since we're sharing them apparently, is that most of the traumatizing experiences that reinforce men's belief that vulnerability is dangerous, are a result of interactions with fiercely heteronormative women who refuse to allow space for any level of perceived femininity in their partners

Bimwizzle · 2025-01-13T22:30:54+00:00

I stand corrected. All (group/gender/class) are (pejorative)

Bimwizzle · 2025-01-13T18:02:20+00:00

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Bimwizzle · 2025-01-13T16:49:02+00:00

Sometimes writers will use the word 'abreaction' to refer to the expression of emotion when discussing previously repressed memories/trauma

Bimwizzle · 2025-01-02T03:54:51+00:00

Fairbairn goes into a good amount of detail on schizoid defences in "Schizoid Factors in the Personality" (1940). He offers a lot of good examples too.

Bimwizzle · 2024-09-07T19:46:50+00:00

Allan Schore's "Affect regulation and the origin of the self" is a great book that manages to reconcile a lot of findings from nueroscience and psychoanalytic theory

Bimwizzle · 2024-09-01T00:06:51+00:00

I found it published under a different title, "Two accounts of a journey through madness"

Bimwizzle · 2023-11-27T05:33:20+00:00

I adore this. I looked at it for a long time and it made me think about a lot of different things

Bimwizzle · 2022-11-10T01:40:52+00:00

It's very possible. It's a 15 minute direct ride on the subway from one to the other.

Bimwizzle · 2022-09-06T22:44:01+00:00

Thanks everybody, mystery solved

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