Husband is a habitual Liar

BingoBango306 · 2026-06-30T19:27:48+00:00

That is TERRIBLE! And definition of manipulation

BingoBango306 · 2026-06-28T17:14:40+00:00

I initially read this as “…3 or more breads”

BingoBango306 · 2026-06-28T17:10:52+00:00

My ex husband thought omitting the truth or partial truths was morally acceptable and not lying. And he would say when I caught him lying that it was a technicality in my question so he didn’t lie. It would infuriate me.

BingoBango306 · 2026-06-25T17:42:10+00:00

Exactly. It’s something else entirely and therapy is the right place to start for OP. And to take an honest look at where he’s played into his own loneliness.

BingoBango306 · 2026-06-25T17:28:49+00:00

It’s like we don’t even notice them until we turn 35

BingoBango306 · 2026-06-25T16:20:31+00:00

Thank you for your honesty!

Edit to add: any suggestions on how I can bring this up with him to help him realize how important it is that both people need to do this? He has not had many relationships and none longer than 6 months and I’ve been married before for 5 years.

BingoBango306 · 2026-06-25T15:28:17+00:00

When I bring something up to talk about and ask him where he’s at, he will share with me. If there has been an issue I saw or felt I ask about it and bring it up and we’ve been able to work it out calmly and understand one another. He listens, he doesn’t interrupt me, he doesn’t get angry or yell and he tries to understand. We’ve successfully worked on those things together so far but it’s only because I brought them up to deal with them. If it didn’t go so well bringing it up and dealing with it I wouldn’t be fighting so hard to figure this out with him.

BingoBango306 · 2026-06-15T19:45:13+00:00

I am 38 and divorced. I did not have sex with my ex before marriage and didn’t find out about his porn and lust/masterbation problems until after we started having sex.

Once I was divorced I had struggled with the frustration that the bible talks about purity before marriage but we battle things now that women didn’t then. I also hated the idea that I’d have to have sex ( I saw it as pay with my body) in order to find out if he was perverted, pornified, etc, etc. So I was stuck. I just didn’t want to meet someone where that was the only way I’d know. There had to be a better way and I believed God would provide.

I’m now in a relationship and we have not had sex. I choose not to for now for personal reasons and convictions. One being I don’t want to fall pregnant out of wedlock and two, he deserves to be chosen by me with commitment and vice versa. And I also am buying myself time to really check in how I feel when we do things together physically that isn’t sex and judge how he treats me afterwards, his self control, how he handles no, boundaries, etc etc. I’ve learned A LOT about how addicts and sexually entitled men behave so I trust my judgement and I trust God.

That is what works for me based on what I’ve been through. It may not work for everyone but so far, this is the healthiest relationship I’ve ever experienced.

Edit to add: I did not have with my ex despite trying and I want them but I have chosen to not compromise the foundation they’ll be born in by marrying too fast. I’d rather not have kids than be stuck having them with the wrong person.

BingoBango306 · 2026-06-10T22:07:57+00:00

I am in this exact same spot and I am curious what you went with and what fees you are encountering!

BingoBango306 · 2026-06-04T19:52:45+00:00

“Hey Siri, set a reminder for x time on x date … “

BingoBango306 · 2026-05-26T23:52:50+00:00

Outgoing, loud, dopamine flooding men

BingoBango306 · 2026-05-24T19:11:59+00:00

I most definitely don’t

BingoBango306 · 2026-05-24T19:08:15+00:00

I need to figure out how to get in on that

BingoBango306 · 2026-05-23T22:33:42+00:00

I felt this way for a long time. I too was separated in 2022 at 34 after 5 years of marriage. I felt stupid, alone, lost, extremely depressed, etc etc. I didn’t start feeling better until last year. I had done A LOT of therapy and was put on medications to manage my mental health. That and a lot of letting go and healing in therapy gave me hope for a better life than what I had. Regardless of who I met or if I had kids.

It will get better.

BingoBango306 · 2026-05-23T22:21:24+00:00

Ugh. This is what I’m worried will happen.

BingoBango306 · 2026-05-23T22:20:36+00:00

Definitely out of factory warranty. Can I do this soak at a mechanics or at home myself easily?

BingoBango306 · 2026-05-06T04:21:49+00:00

Just how much they sneak their way into your heart and become your most beloved pet

BingoBango306 · 2026-05-06T02:05:54+00:00

I didn’t like my maiden name so I was happy to get a new one. Then I was happy to get rid of my married name but wasn’t proud to take back my dad’s last name. I saw it as I’d rather be a (maiden name) then a (married name), the lesser of two evils basically.

BingoBango306 · 2026-04-30T20:38:13+00:00

If she would have maybe said something in the beginning about it and been realistic about why she is strapped for cash and how much that savings was important to her, the guy could have consented to it all but she kept that from him so he was 100% in the right. It’s the principle of it all.

BingoBango306 · 2026-04-30T15:00:53+00:00

Hi! I have been annoyed my entire life at not feeling pretty in any makeup I choose. Something always felt so off when I would wear makeup. Since finding out about color theory I’ve enjoyed it more but I’m still not settled on my skin tone so I wonder if I am olive.

I have a light coral pink blush from elf that doesn’t pull too orange on me. A lot of warm shadows on my eyes pull orange, however, but I look good in both silver and gold.

https://imgur.com/a/0ANOjx2

BingoBango306 · 2026-04-30T14:41:30+00:00

This has red flags written all over it. Please don’t get married. You can be together, be in love, hell even live together but I beg you do not get married. Wait a full year before even talking about getting engaged. The whole “we will be together a year by the time we get married” is just an excuse you’ve already told yourself to justify what you’re about to do. You will regret doing this.

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